FtM transgender and having sex with them

[Drkluvtheory99]

I know that this is a wierd question for my first post but I was just wondering. I have the hardest time people to date or just release some tension with. I have no idea what it is about me being FtM that they dont like or want to get with. I am not ugly(in my opinion). It is just as soon as they find out I am not MtF that they so no thanks and bye. So here is my question:

Would you ever consider having sex with a FtM Transgender? Why or Why not? What turns you on about us and what turns you off?

[tenni]

Hi
No, I would not consider it at this time of my life. Sorry but I am bisexual and not sexually attracted to transpeople. I am attracted to the femaleness of a person or the maleness of a person without intersex or ambiguity to sexual parts being involved. If a transperson had transitioned completely I may be sexually attracted to them. I don't know. It seems to me that a pansexual is what you may be looking for. I suspect that there is a person for you though. I've met a guy who was sexually interested in a transguy and so was his wife. They developed a very loving relationship between the three of them. There are people out there for you. Good luck.

[NjbiGuy01]

See, now transexuals, hermaphrodites the unicorns of humans...(do they really exist ? ) and FTM's etc, all fascinate me. Different strokes for different folks I guess. I enjoyed a few fantasies with TS or TV or FTM's playing a big part....undressing someone and discovering their unique secret...then having some hot fun....To me, being bisexual, I'm open to male, female and most in between I guess....

[Drkluvtheory99]

I understand the reason that tenni says know. I have had many conversations with people that arent interested in the "in between" factor that we have. I also understand the intrigue that pulls people to us. Thanks for comments.

[liberlib]

I just recently got curious about FtM transgender because I noticed that, on sites like these, I only saw references to MtF and active interest in meeting from those. And yet, in the last two days, I have seen two posts from FtM trying to deal with the response as possible dates.

Your post seems like a good topic worth some discussion/education.

For me, your basic question is new as I hadn't had the opportunity to even consider it before. My activity in this and similar boards is to explore the issues and opportunities for my growing bisexual interest. The transgender is an interesting area as, for either FtM or MtF, I can see an opportunity (depending on the level of change) to make contact with the male side. However, I would expect and want to respond to the person. That is, if it is a MtF trying to become a woman, I would want to treat her as a woman with the courtesy's, terms of reference, and attention to help build her image. By the same token, for a FtM, I would want to address him as a male friend, possibly with benefits, but I am less confident I would know how to respond or what to do. I would probably need more guidance although I would offer suggestions especially as I, myself, am new to male to male interactions at that level. Part of that issue is how you would respond in your state of change to male stroking. Overall, however, I don't think it would hinder my interest in dating if the opportunity arose; I'm just not sure what would be the best way to respond.

Also, I noted in your response some offers of service and friendship that are traditionally more female to male (cooking and caring). Although those are less confined to the female partner then they were, would reinforcing those behaviors help or hinder you taking on a male world.

It will be interesting how this thread will develop. I hope you get some useful responses.

[Drkluvtheory99]

As far as me caring and cooking since the majority of the time I date females it is an added pleasure for them to have a man that is willing to do for them and care for there needs. I wont say I will those things all the time just when needed to. When I am attracted to or involved with men it is mostly the feminate gay males. My attitude isnt soft or still I have always had a strong presence in any place that I go. I have had sex and have had comments that were wierd but I takeit in stride. I always tell people to check out Buck Angel, ftm porn star. There are good and bad things but it is what it is.

[Drkluvtheory99]

Okay well that says it all i have no words left for that comment

[MarieDelta]

I know that this is a wierd question for my first post but I was just wondering. I have the hardest time people to date or just release some tension with. I have no idea what it is about me being FtM that they dont like or want to get with. I am not ugly(in my opinion). It is just as soon as they find out I am not MtF that they so no thanks and bye. So here is my question:

Would you ever consider having sex with a FtM Transgender? Why or Why not? What turns you on about us and what turns you off?



Heck yeah! I like men (EG) The cuter the beter!

For me the turn on is (partly) not having to explain myself over and over again, or having to police certain boundaries.

I was wih a "soft butch" for some play who said that she had considered transition. She understood exactly what I wanted sexually, and that was great. My current partners are prety good at this as well.

As far as turn offs, I dont really have one, although with most it is a matter of personality.

[bityme]

I know that this is a wierd question for my first post but I was just wondering. I have the hardest time people to date or just release some tension with. I have no idea what it is about me being FtM that they dont like or want to get with. I am not ugly(in my opinion). It is just as soon as they find out I am not MtF that they so no thanks and bye. So here is my question:

Would you ever consider having sex with a FtM Transgender? Why or Why not? What turns you on about us and what turns you off?

I don't think that you have asked a weird question, but I am surprised at some of the responses already. I have had the pleasure of knowing and being intimate with a number of transgendered individuals, both MtF and FtM. The thing that strikes me the most is that they have been some of the most open and tolerant people I have ever known.

I realize that everyone has their own preferences, but I am disturbed by comments that indicate a thought pattern in which an individual is looked at as less than what they are (like "i want a real man or woman."). Perhaps some day those individuals will come to realize that transgendered individuals are "real" people. People who have been willing to take great steps and endure great adversity to become who they "really" are.

You seem to be a gentle, caring person and I hope that you will find another who has the same traits. Please don't let yourself be discouraged by those who display intolerance. Write it off as personal preference and the attitude that it would not have worked out anyway because their comments displayed a propensity of being prone to judge people based on status instead of allowing themselves an opportunity to get to know you and ultimately you would not have gotten along with them even if they had been ok with your being FtM.

Good luck to you.

[elian]

Yes, I would consider it because attraction for me is romance first, physical characteristics second. If I really loved the PERSON then I would find a way to make it work.

The amount of time you spend having sex vs. doing other things with a long term partner should be less than 60% right, probably a lot less.

If you are approaching people who really are just in it for physical gratification then all they are going to be worried about are the physical characteristics and gratification. There are plenty of folks who want that type of encounter..just not me I guess.

Have to respect someone who is honest up front. It may not make you popular but honesty counts for a lot in my opinion. If someone cannot respect your choices then maybe they aren't the best fit for you.

..and..congratulations on quitting smoking!

[Teach_N_Dragons]

While I haven't read any of the other responses, I thought I would chime in.

Yes, I would consider it; but it would be more about the person who I was with & my desire to get to know them to find out more about the switch. One phrase that I have seen in the forums has summed it all up for me. Bi is someone who reaches into someone else's pants and is happy with what is found, regardless of what is there. Your post has also made me realize that this is true for me, even if it is changing.

Keep looking, for some day you will find Mr./Ms. right. ;)

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Whoopie, leave it to the S&G show to make Their statements..That Isnt what Drkluv Asked.
Welcome to the group Sweetie. Hope you find answers with the good, and asnine, folks here. :}
Cat
Everybody's feline.

[Plumhead2]

I love what a few people have said. It is not about the appearance, it is about the person. Would I date a FtM? Absolutely yes, if I found that I liked the person as a person. I was once dumped by a girlfriend because I didn't have red hair. She said she loved me, but sorry, no red hair no relationship! I could not have that attitude. If I liked or loved someone, whatever they looked like would be part of who they were and I would love them for that as well.

Like the others have counseled, keep looking and find the person who will love the wonderful person who is you.

[liberlib]

As far as me caring and cooking since the majority of the time I date females it is an added pleasure for them to have a man that is willing to do for them and care for there needs. I wont say I will those things all the time just when needed to. When I am attracted to or involved with men it is mostly the feminate gay males. My attitude isnt soft or still I have always had a strong presence in any place that I go. I have had sex and have had comments that were wierd but I takeit in stride. I always tell people to check out Buck Angel, ftm porn star. There are good and bad things but it is what it is.

I understand. I cook for my wife and would be honored to cook for someone I was meeting also. It sounds like you are comfortable with yourself and that is most important. I am not sure I am the type you would be interested in but I suspect we could easily be friends, even without "benefits";). Good luck!

P.S. In regard to the negative reply earlier, I don't care how long it is as long as you enjoy it.

[Nadir]

Well, as for me, I feel somewhat attracted to MtF transexuals, I sometimes like them even more than men. I dont happen to fancy FtM transgender very much, though, although I once considered dating one. He was a very handsome boy: Short, cropped hair, green eyes, white pale skin, smooth voice... he was introduced to me by his ex-girlfriend, who was a friend of mine. I felt somewhat attracted to him when I saw him, and he confessed that he fancied me a little bit, so we decided to give it a try and went on a sort of "date". It was all nice with beer, ice cream and walking in the sunshine. All was good until the moment of the kiss... I didnt happen to like it at all. Neither did he. We pulled away from each other and he began mumbling about how sorry he was, that I must have got angry with him because he led me into thinking he liked me as well... I told him not to worry. Sometimes people just dont fit with each other. I took him to the bus stop and then he took the one that got him home.

A couple of days later I discovered that his (male) cousin is dating my sister (small town, you can say...). His cousin doesnt know that he is a transexual, he thinks that "she" is a lesbian. I have been trying to convince the guy to come out to the closet to his family (his parents and brother know but the rest dont), so I will have to see how this ends...

[rick1958]

id love to be with a FtM transgendered person or MtF its all good for me i love cock an pussy ill cam with anyone rickdoak@ymail.com

[Zamaria]

I don't really think it matters if you are transgender. I think it all comes down to finding the right person. If you love and care about someone, then it really doesn't matter because you love them for who they are. You just hang in there. The right person will come along! Just be yourself.
To answer your question, yes, I would have sex with a transgendered person if that's who I was in love with. It just wouldn't be an issue for me.

[open2both]

If I like you as a person... SURE!

[ubersmack]

I can't answer this question fairly. I have never known a FtM transgendered person before. I haven't really investigated the FtM people. I suppose that I wouldn't have any hang-ups really, but I am pretty much a bottom. So I guess the question would be whether or not we can physically fulfil our desires with each other. If we can (your dick in my ass) then I shouldn't have a problem with you being FtM.

[Jessicaknight]

Yes I would consider having sex with a FtM Transgendered.

I love the male & female body. I think transgendered are some of the most sexiest people. I have been with many M2F but have only dated one F2M.

As for having sex with one, It's still a fantasy.

Welcome to the site ;)

[Drkluvtheory99]

thnx!!

[nudistharry]

Yes, I would have sex with a trangender if I liked them as a person. I would not be happy to be surprised to find out they were a transgender while making out though. I want to know what to expect when I put my hand in your pants! If you're a MtF and look like a woman and you tell me you're a MtF and still have your cock, then I would not be surprised when I put my hand in your pants and would gladly have sex with you (again assuming I like you as a person.) The same if you are a FtM.

[bi4asplay]

I know that this is a wierd question for my first post but I was just wondering. I have the hardest time people to date or just release some tension with. I have no idea what it is about me being FtM that they dont like or want to get with. I am not ugly(in my opinion). It is just as soon as they find out I am not MtF that they so no thanks and bye. So here is my question:

Would you ever consider having sex with a FtM Transgender? Why or Why not? What turns you on about us and what turns you off?


I would be very interested. intrigued even.

[pole_smoker]

Why not just have sex with an actual man who has an actual penis instead of someone that's a woman imitating a man with hormones, cosmetic surgery, pretending her clit and a strapon dildo are a real penis? If you want to fuck pussy, have sex with a woman.

[bi4asplay]

I have and love it. Look at my pics and see Ruth fucking me. She would do me and my late wife a couple of times a week for almost 10 years.