Becoming More Gay?

[Bisexual Explorer]

As I continue explore my bisexuality, I find myself becoming more interested in male partners and less interested in female partners. I am OK with this. Has anyone else experienced the same thing?
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[nicco413]

Find it varies according to mood love cock AND pussy equally and mmf or mff 3 sums are so hot

[crazyfunguy4you]

i am married at times i do feel more gay. but am bi love my pussy too. but when i get freaky with a guy it is so fricken hot. lol. love the feel of a cock in my mouth sucking on it. then thats when i definetely feel i could be very easily totally gay. my wife knows all about me she is bi too just total freaks. love it all

[Realist]

I have known I was bi, since I was 14. I began being mostly gay, then became mostly straight.

Over the years, I have fluctuated from one to the other. A lot depends on who I'm with and how well the relationship is going. If I'm happy and content, I'm usually OK with whoever I'm with.

During a poly relationship, it was fun to be equally straight and gay.

I'm presently with the best female lover of my life and although she's also bisexual, in the past 2+ years, neither of us have put much effort toward meeting anyone else.

[fredtyg]

I've noticed from what guys have said both here and elsewhere that they tend to become more interested in men as they get older. I think that's what happened with me. It's hard to say which sex I favored most in my younger years but I know as I got into my 40s and then 50s I started favoring men.

Now I consider myself pretty much homosexual although I find few men sexually attractive but most women are. Try and figure that one out.

[bikiniman]

I concur with Fred, I am in my mid 40s and find myself becoming more gay as I get older although I still consider myself pre-dominantly hetro sexual.

[raistkit]

excellent question : looking forward to all responses, as a 50 yr old tomboy, who has no intentions of changing (natal female). have noticed hubby is more into guys than girls over the past couple of years.

kit

[bothways13]

I would have to agree with the other men who are finding they are more attracted to men as they grow older. In my case my gf has pushed me into more men incounters because she enjoys me with other men. So, I ve do so and am finding myself becoming more gay in most aspects of the word.

[tenni]

I tend to agree with the basic idea behind your title but object to the use of the term "more gay" or "less gay".

I found myself more comfortable and drawn to same sex attraction as I matured. I'm not sure if it is pyschological or actually physical changes in male bisexuals or men generally eventually rejecting social taboos that can be restrictive for men. There is an entire difference of attitude to say that you are "more gay" though. I am not a monosexual. I can not be gay nor heterosexual. I am bisexual. I will not adhere to a monosexual belief structure.

To see yourself as more heterosexual or homosexual is denying your bisexuality and playing into the political language of the monosexual mainstream & GL movement. Let us define ourselves by our own terms by using "same sex attraction" rather than "gay". If you are bisexual, then you are not gay and never will be. If you eventually say that you are gay then you were never bisexual.

It is mere semantics but it is also accepting yourself and not defining yourself by the language of monosexuals. Acknowledge that the strength of your attraction to same or opposite gender may change throughout your lifetime.

* gets off the bisexual soap box ;)

[maxtor]

i thought it was just me but Fred has brought up exactly what i have been going thru. i feel more towards men in the last few years although i still have a girlfriend i am going to start seeing men. a woman just dont do all that i want. i want anal sex with a real cock and i love to play with and suck on a nice cock. i am picky with me but there is a few out here that i think we may get together and make the music louder.

[jem_is_bi]

I am more gay now that I am older. Mostly because, the prospect of having children has gone from a good idea to a bad idea. Also, most women close to my age, even if free to be with me, have a family that most likely would not aprove of bisexual me. Nor would they approve of bisexual me. So why should I want a relationship wiith women with the prospect of all of that grief when I am happy with sex with men? Well yes, some women are beautiful and wonderful people. But for me? Very unlikely.
So, I as time goes on the homosexual side of me becomes more dominant and happy as the heterosexual side of me just kind of fades away as a resonable alternative for love and sex.
Am I depressed by that. Not at all. I am happy with me and my present sexuality. I enjoy sex more than I ever have.

[ohbimale]

I have been bisexual since I can remember. When I was a teen I did not know what to call it. Also as long as I can remember I have always been more gay than straight...meaning I was always more turned on by guys than gals. I have always liked cocks and pussy's...but I have had times in my life when I was only interested in getting it on with guys and have found I am in one of those periods of my life now. It is all good. What matters is that you are comfortable with yourself.

[art0711]

I find now that I think about having sex with guys all the time. The thought of a cock in my mouth going from soft to rock hard and back again is so hot.

[morandi]

I definitly became more gay, in my teens i was more hetero altough i had some sex contacts with men. I think if i had not a difficult youth i could have made a choice for men. The problem was sex with men was really horny but i feld in love with women. Now i think maybe i wasn't in real love but liked it to be with somebody. I married and my sexual attraction between my 30th and 40th
was in the middel of the kinsey scale. Then I divorced after 23 years. Now i'm 49 and Have big problem with my sexual identity. I mostly fantasies and also about sex with men. When i'm on the internet i watch naked beautifull women
and i like to see them, but i never watch heterosexual porn. I start with watching women but always end witch gay porn. It seems like when i'm home
i'm gay, But now and this is the problem when i'm going out on the street i only see the women and i think they are lovely. I really don't understand myself.
Maybe i'm afraid of women after my hurting divorce???
Somebody got the same?

[fredtyg]

I mostly fantasies and also about sex with men. When i'm on the internet i watch naked beautifull women
and i like to see them, but i never watch heterosexual porn. I start with watching women but always end with gay porn. when i'm going out on the street i only see the women and i think they are lovely

If I'm reading you right I have similar feelings, although I'm not confused about them.

I consider myself pretty much homosexual, but I find few men sexually attractive. I find most women sexually attractive, if that makes any sense. As I go about my day I'm constantly having to turn my head to take a second look at some gal I think is hot. It's very rare that I'll stop and take a second look at a guy.

When I jack off I always think about man to man sex, never women, and I've been that way for probably 15 years.

[morandi]

For me it makes me unsure about what gender i should start a relation ship whit. I like sex with women but get easily bored after a time. I like them emotionally. Whit men it is the other way around. maybe it takes time. Will i ever found a man for an emotional bonding.

[fredtyg]

Don't think of it as something you have to figure out right now. Go with the flow and try relationships with both men and women and see which one is the right fit for you.

[morandi]

I live in a big city (Amsterdam) but its not that big as you think.
In the pub witch I regurely visit i told people i'm bisexual. The people are very open minded and except it. But when it becomes to there own relationships. They are not so open minded as you should acspect If i should put my face on a gay dating site in now time everybody should know it.
Because i am known by a lot of gays. My chances for women will be gone.
Although i came out as bisexual what everybody liked they don't want a men like that. I feel split. It seems that i have to make a choice upfront. And that
damned difficult.

[zappernapper]

Maybe i'm afraid of women after my hurting divorce???
Somebody got the same?

i recently seperated from my wife of 9 years becuase while we were both bi, she has decided she perfers women now. i kind of have the same feelings towards women too, where i think they are beautiful and sexy, but am scared to pursue nething with them.

[2point5]

It ebbs and flows with me... I'm really only emotionally attracted to women and physically to both men and women. I had a bad relationship experience a little over a year ago and it kind of put me off romantic relationships.

Since then I'd say 80% of my sexual energy is homo and 20% hetro. I mostly watch gay porn and have taken to posting more dirty talk on gay forums. When I see an attractive couple I'm more likely to wonder what the guy's cock is like than what the woman's cloths are hiding. Given the choice I'd rather have him fuck me than fuck her.

It's like I went from 2-3 Kinsey to a 5 Although the few physical encounters I've had have all been with men so maybe a 6 is in order.

I've had a couple periods like this before. It will most likely return to normal with time.

[morandi]

Its the same with me: "it ebbs and flows". But what is normal? People who say that when you start as a 2 on the kinsey scale end in your mid fourtys you're 5 or 6 you have always been a gay. They simply deny your feelings for women when you was young. I loved women and their sexuality. I loved vaginas and I still do, but not in a way i liked them when i was younger. I don't know why, but they are not that attractive anymore as they used to be. I think I developed an other tatste I like to be topped and women are not giving what I need sexually. I'm simply not aroused so much anymore.

[cuthwulf]

Interesting stuff. As said it ebbs and flows. I find I think about men 80% of the time. If I masturbate then I think only of men. I think the great thing about male male sex is each of you knows what the other wants. Whereas with women there's a very strong emotional thing going on with them that I have never been able to understand. With men you compare your maleness with his. His cock with yours. His chest with yours. Also for me there's a strong thing about being antisocial-not doing the correct thing-which heightens the erotics.But yes I do find a stronger pull to being a homo as I get older but then sometimes I may see a women or her body that I like. I also found that I'm much more aware of my body and fitness within the bi/gay scene than I might of been if I had just been hetro.

[IndyBiFun]

This is one of the most interesting things I've read in here.

I'm another guy that discovered - or allowed myself to - my bisexuality later in life. Mainly in my 40's.

Since, I have to admit that being with a guy is much hotter and more enjoyable for me.

But as Fred mentioned, I don't find a lot of guys attractive but I do women. Yet, when I am with a guy the feeling is amazing.

Great question and the replies are really interesting.

[bisexualcocklover]

Yes...while I am still attracted to women and see myself leaning much more toward women relationship wise...I find myself much, much more sexually attracted to men than I do women. I've pretty much been exclusively sexually active with men for the past four years now and have accepted the fact that getting off with men is so much more satisfying. I'm hard right now just thinking about the last guy I hooked up with and blew! His cock was so beautiful and hard! Guys are more appreciative in bed too! Guys let you know you're making them feel good without even trying...just by getting hard for you!

[jimisbi]

I don't think I'm becoming more gay, but I have gone from being versatile when I'm with a guy to being only a bottom.

[cliffml]

I'm definately more towards the gay side, at least in the past 5 or 6 years and i'm ok with it. I still find women very appealing but desire men more for sex.

[BJ Hunter]

Well, I think it's true that us guys do get more gay as we age. I used to be sooo straight, and thought of doing anything with a guy was repulsive. Now that women are harder to find for NSA sex at my age, I found the interest in same sex encounters became a reality. I have only explored this for a little over a year, and wish I had tried this earlier. So far, I have only had massages, and blow jobs from guys, and found this amazing, and actually better then sex with women, as it is without the "relationship" aspect, and just about sex. I love women, but like men too, and find myself now thinking what is it like to suck a cock, so I'm sure it will happen too, with the right guy, and yes I guess that's another step towards moving up the kinsey scale.
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[Moonlight_BHI]

As I continue explore my bisexuality, I find myself becoming more interested in male partners and less interested in female partners. I am OK with this. Has anyone else experienced the same thing?
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I hear ya, only it's more interest in female than male partners for me.

[billc77]

BJ Hunter is correct on the observation that as we males age, we become more open to Bisexuality...For me, I have become Bisexual through default! I am 57 years old and am now battling erectile dysfunction...By default, I am a Bottom. I no longer get hard. I told my wife that I wanted to suck a cock but I wanted to do it in front of her. The idea definitely got her attention.
We played with a guy in a MFM 3some. She said that it really turned her on when I started sucking him off. Then we both started sucking him just like in the porn movies. The whole experience was very visual and enjoyable.
I have also had my wife fuck me with a strap-on. Connecting with my Prostate gland, I have discovered that I am multi-orgasmic and can literally CUM without cumming. In fact I now prefer Anal orgasms over Ejaculatory orgasm's. When a man ejaculates, he enters a Refractory Period. That period can last a very long time and his interest dwindles. With the Anal Orgasm, there is no refractory period and he is well on his way to the next building orgasm.
But the best part of the whole thing is that my wife is very supportive of me and my ventures. I always include her in our sexual proclivities. Bisexuality has become a Win Win for both of us. I may not be able to "get it up" anymore but with a little patience and exploring alternatives, this major problem has been reduced to a mere annoyance and not a game changer in our sexual routine.

[jem_is_bi]

Well, I think it's true that us guys do get more gay as we age. I used to be sooo straight, and thought of doing anything with a guy was repulsive. Now that women are harder to find for NSA sex at my age, I found the interest in same sex encounters became a reality. I have only explored this for a little over a year, and wish I had tried this earlier. So far, I have only had massages, and blow jobs from guys, and found this amazing, and actually better then sex with women, as it is without the "relationship" aspect, and just about sex. I love women, but like men too, and find myself now thinking what is it like to suck a cock, so I'm sure it will happen too, with the right guy, and yes I guess that's another step towards moving up the kinsey scale.
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Moving upscale is Great! Why settle for down scale when you tastes are totally upscale.

[mrheem]

I lot of what I am reading on this thread is kind of where I am at. Very rarely do I look at men the way I do at women. But I really want to get together with a man.

[morandi]

What i read here is that a lot of men change their sexual preference.
Axually i find myself almost gay but the emotional side is not growing with it.
I think thats because the contact with men are always directly sexual. There isn't time to fall in love and get emotional bonded. If I want that, i have, i think, realy make a search on the internet at a datingsites.
Oke... I admitt it... axually after being a 2 on scale of kinsey in my youth i grow in to a 5 maybe already a 6 I didn't have sex with women the last 5 years except once. And i ask my self, " do i still want that"? I defintly don't need it. I can easily do without it. It should be great to fall in love on a person and have emotional bonding and sexual attraction in one line. It should make live more easy!

[mikeyd270]

I have definitely started leaning toward being more gay than bi over the last several years. My time on these sites are spent looking at and for men. I love cock. I have excepted the fact that I am a cocksucker. Love the feel of a hard throbbing cock in my mouth. Recently got it in the ass and discovered how much I like being a bottom boy. Not really looking for pussy but still like it and would not turn it down but what I need and want is cock.

[scapegoat1987]

I've experienced the same thing only in the opposite direction....identified as openly gay and exclusively dated men for several decades. Now that I've come out as bisexual, I seem to think more about my desire for women than I do about men. I suppose we have an appetite for whichever side of our bisexuality that we've repressed the most. At least that's how it seems with me.

[Jim505]

A gay friend ask me a couple of years ago,if you where in a room with a beautiful girl on one side and a nice looking guy with a big cock on the other side,what one would you go for first.My answer,she would have to wait till I suck his cock.

[biwmtrucker44]

I have definitely started leaning toward being more gay than bi over the last several years. My time on these sites are spent looking at and for men. I love cock. I have excepted the fact that I am a cocksucker. Love the feel of a hard throbbing cock in my mouth. Recently got it in the ass and discovered how much I like being a bottom boy. Not really looking for pussy but still like it and would not turn it down but what I need and want is cock.
I seem to b heading the same direction

[Hypersexual11]

Maybe I'm done exploring, maybe I've quenched my curiosity for mm sex but the opposite seems to be happening to me. Where in my 30's I probably would consider myself versatile, mostly top, sometimes bottom. Now I only want to see men for oral sex, and really don't care if they do me or not. I don't obsess over dick, I still love the look and feel and smell of pussy. Before, I would sometimes be aroused by a guy, usually only when he knew I was open to sex with him though. I don't remember ever taking a second look at a guy on the street.

[jamieknyc]

It seems to me that a lot of guys get more 'gay' as they get older. Just my unscientific observation.

[Gearbox]

I deliberately searched on Youtube for Barbara Streisand singing Evergreen live the other night, and I did wonder if that was kinda gay.:tongue: Not that I'd be bothered, but being bi you do wonder what action is due to what persuasion at times.lol

[bluesky55]

The first thing I need to say is "Ladies, don't take this personally." Getting more into men as time goes on. It seems like I'm always horny and just want sex. I was told that women need a reason to have sex whereas men just need a place. I've been thru many things, many times with many women and compared to the times with guys, there's been far more headaches and far less head. The other thing which probably has more to do with it than some may think is that as we get older we get into situations where we might have more access and less fears about exploring our sexual fantasies. Our boundaries change and so do our attitudes. I still love women and sex with them, but more and more its a man that turns me on. Fortunately I also have some nice couple friends where we all enjoy every aspect of one another. I don't believe I'd give up women completely in favor of men, but I do wind up wondering sometimes if I could be happy in an LTR with a guy.

[Country Guy]

far more headaches and far less head.

I'm still smiling at that one... You really nailed it
As I get older, I don't know if I'm becoming more gay or less inhibited.

[BiCplAz]

I agree completely

[1funguy]

If I'm reading you right I have similar feelings, although I'm not confused about them.

I consider myself pretty much homosexual, but I find few men sexually attractive. I find most women sexually attractive, if that makes any sense. As I go about my day I'm constantly having to turn my head to take a second look at some gal I think is hot. It's very rare that I'll stop and take a second look at a guy.
When I jack off I always think about man to man sex, never women, and I've been that way for probably 15 years.
While I don't identify as completely homosexual I do find women of a younger than men-on-pause age really attractive. I also find myself thinking about my FWB buddy as I start to jack off. Then before climaxing I think of a female and I and him having sex together. OMG!!!! I occasionally find myself looking at a man and thinking what if the same as a woman. The brain is a strange and wonderful place at times!!

[voltaire]

It seems to me that a lot of guys get more 'gay' as they get older. Just my unscientific observation.
Am I your random sample source? ;)

[kenjacks51]

First of all, I am definitely not into being a bottom. My wife and I gt into Dom.sun sex some years ago and when her libido faded, I struggled for years with just hand jobs which by the way, are the best I have ever enjoyed. But eventually, I succumbed to my growing desire of wanting to try sex with another man which surfaced years ago when reading Penthouse Letters magazine. In retrospect, I guess that I've always wanted same sex contact and had some as a kid, but the rear that I would become gay if I ever tried guy/guy sex always kept me in check from following through with those fantasies and thoughts.

I made the conscious choice to turn a few years ago and found a submissive married guy who was also a bi virgin and I have never looked back. It's interesting to read how many men still appreciate the beauty and softness of a woman but find as they age that sex with another man becomes preferable. I have limited my male sex partners to two guys and after trying several others, I have settled for what I know and currently have. Both guys were fresh and new when I met them and though they know of each other, they have not yet met - but both are eager to meet and play submissive together with me. this is a fantasy that I am going to make become reality but not just yet.

I really enjoy the newer convert over the first as he is showing strong signs of leaning more and more towards gay sex and his evolution seems so natural and he has become more at ease with his sexuality and increasingly uninhibited. He is really good looking, beautifully hung ( about 71/2 - 8 inches - I'm going to get the ruler out next time we are together) totally straight looking and acting but once we are alone, he becomes very submissive, passive and so willing to explore, learn and serve. He needs no encouragement at all to suck and like most men, I love getting blown and that is something that my wife has never liked doing. That was another reason for my turning and the more that I am sucked, the more I want it. I'm not big on sucking but I am finding that I like doing it to edge my partner and torment him. I used to wonder at women when they would say that they enjoyed the feeling of being in control of a man when they sucked him, but I understand it now.

This is a very interesting thread as I am among those men who find themselves leaning more and more towards preferring men to women sexually yet at the same time, still liking women and finding them much more attractive than men. It's an interesting combination of feelings and desires and as my desire for homosexual sex grows, I find the idea of sex with my wife less and less appealing despite the fact that I still love her as much as I ever did. I never thought that I would say this, but I am quite at ease with the fact that I am most likely to become totally into gay sex and leave pussy behind forever. It's just sex with the two guys who I see - no emotional hangups or romance yet we are friends and there is tremendous respect and appreciation for each other. I suppose that my emotional needs are for the most part met by my wife while sexually, we don;t have much in common any more. Frankly, if she were to take a lover, I'd not object as long as she was getting what she needed in the same way that I am but I doubt that will happen. So many women "shut down" sexually and leave their husbands with little choice if they are still have a sex drive. It's unfortunate because my gay desires were far less when we had a sex life and likely, I'd never have turned and remained content with just her. There is no going back for me now though as I have accepted that I am more gay than bi and increasingly so as time passes.

[NEBiGuy]

Getting more gay over time. I've fantasized about cock in my ass since forever, but was a raging hetero until my 30s. Now in my 50s, I'm more cock-centric. I describe myself as hetero-romantic and bisexual. Which translates to, I love to cuddle and be romantic with women, but guys... I just want to get roughly fucked in my ass like the little cock whore I am and that's it.

[Visexual]

The only person I think about while masturbating is a woman we know. And, she's never going to be more than a fantasy but I'd love to do her. I haven't had sex with a woman in over a year and a half now. No, not even my wife. I just don't feel the urge to have sex with her anymore and she seems fine with it so, why bother.

If my wife found out that I'd been with another woman, well, she'd be pretty darn upset. But she doesn't seem to mind that I've got bisexual, male, friends at all. And, btw..., if I found out she was seeing another man then I'd simply ask if I could join them occasionally. :) Hey, that would even turn me on to my wife again!

So it's not that I'm becoming more gay, it's just that sex with male friends, and I emphasize friends, is so much easier and more acceptable to everyone involved.

I have become more intimate in the sex since I've given up on having sex with women though. I think I just missed the passionate kissing so I began doing it with my buddies. I missed the breast play so I began doing that too with my buddies. There's really not much that two men can't do that a man and a woman can.

So, no, I'm not becoming more gay, I'm just becoming more open to satisfying the desires that we all have.

[kenjacks51]

As new posts are made, I fund that I can identify with so many - if not most - poster's thoughts and feelings. Like you Visexual, I have more or less given up on having sex with my wife as it is such a rare thing any more. She helped me to jerk off last night and she seems OK with doing that but I don;t even ask for that much any more. After a lengthy holiday, she returned home and we had intercourse and it honestly was nice but the sex simply lacked the freedom and intensity that I have with the guys who I see.

I've yet to fuck another man, but both guys are ready and as the Top, I sometimes think that I should let one of them take my cherry but I'll get them broken in first. I have a feeling that once I've had man pussy and once I have been fucked myself, I may not ever go back to a woman for sexual gratification and I'll turn completely as far as sexual preferences go. I suppose that the intense enjoyment with homosexuality is due partly to the newness of it but also it is the fact that I have not really had sex with my wife in years. I have always had a much stronger sex drive than my wife and at my age ( early 60's ), it isn't slowing down.

I'm increasingly comfortable with the fact that I am, I guess, technically a homosexual now as any interest in putting it in a warm pussy really is fading. I like to look at women and I still have thoughts but no thanks. To get into a relationship wit a woman would be too complicated and they become too clingy. I have NO desire a all to ever leave my wife as she is still my best friend. I have accepted the fact that the sexual part of our marriage is over and since I converted, we get along better as I no longer ask her for sex and I no longer have rejection issues with her. We sleep together, cuddle, hug and kiss and I really do love her so much and if not being able to enjoy her body is the worst thing that happens, then while a part of me still wishes I was straight, I accept my fate and I'll make the best of it.

It may seem odd that I am not ( at this point anyways ) interested in a traditional homosexual relationship but rather I only want one based n a Dominant/submissive basis. It became my preferred form of love making with my wife and even after we stopped Playing, I never lost sight of the fact that it was the best sex that we ever had. I now find that relief with two different men and enjoy it more than I ever would have imagined that I could and they feel the same way. My one guy called yesterday and he will be down to play this coming week - I had to masturbate last night thinking about him and what I have in store for him. I do know for certain that if I was to find myself single, I'd not want a serious relationship with a woman again although I would likely still date as I do still enjoy the softness of a woman so much. I look forward to other comments on this thread..

[onesucker4u]

I am in love with a beautifull young man. I cant tell for sure if he is bi, and I can't stop thinking about him. I've always been primarily straight, and never been romantic about a man before. also, the many rejections from women have turned me off to them.even tho I had sex with a woman a couple weeks ago, I dont even like her.

[kenjacks51]

In our society, women call the shots when it comes to mating and sex and while that is fine, there is no doubt in my mind at least that many men turn to homosexuality for many reasons, not the least of which is rejection. If a man keeps himself clean and looks respectable, it ups the odds of getting laid but in todays world, especially in the younger set, most young women seem to want a mansion on a hilll and a life that is at best fantasy. Many will cast a man aside if they feel that he can't give them a fancy house ( notice that I said "house" and not "hme" - there is a huge difference ), a new car every year and designer clothes. Based on what they see in the media and what society today portrays as "success", many ( but not all ) will judge the man who they want to marry by his potential to provide what Hollywood and society deem to be a "normal" lifstyle that in reality is riddled with debt. Thus, in at least some cases, a nice, decent, hard working guy working a job that is mundane is likely to be rejected by a woman who may consider herself to be "hot" because he can't give her the Camelot that she feels in her mind that she is entitled to.

I've always been far more comfortable with guys than women even though I turned only about five years ago now. But I find that my relationships with my two guys are pretty straight up and no one is trying to impress anyone with fancy shoes, clothes or cars. It's more about honesty, respect and cleanliness than anything else. Going into a scene with guy is just so natural and feels so right that I findmyself wondering why I didn't do this years ago. I love my wife and family but I prefer the no strings sex with my guys and yeah - I am cheating - but I do so for a reason and were my needs met a home in the bedroom rather than enduring constant rejection, I'd likely never have strayed.




I am in love with a beautifull young man. I cant tell for sure if he is bi, and I can't stop thinking about him. I've always been primarily straight, and never been romantic about a man before. also, the many rejections from women have turned me off to them.even tho I had sex with a woman a couple weeks ago, I dont even like her.

[dafydd]

If you are bisexual, then you are not gay and never will be. If you eventually say that you are gay then you were never bisexual.



with respect dear friend, what absolute nonsense!
people can define themselves how they want. just because i dont like baby food, mashed bananas and rusks anymore, doesn't mean i never liked them in the first place. thats a really loose analogy for what ur suggesting tenni, but is along the lines of what im trying to say. tenni, if u dont want to conform to monosexuality, then dont advocate the *tenants* of monosexuality, such as immutable and unchanging labels, as u do in the quote above. unless i have taken it of context.

i think ur taking ur support of fluid bisexuality (which i too support) to absurd and illogical conclusions. which end up being just as restrictive as the labels u say are biphobic.

best
Daf

[smokindeist]

For me it is not about "becoming more gay", it was about finally recognizing and admitting to myself that I have a strong attraction to men, but I still love and enjoy sex with my wife. When I grew up, words like "fag", queer" and "homo" were only a few choice words that kids used to verbally attack people. I also experienced a lot of bullying and still bear scars from my school experiences. I never thought I was gay, but I believe I had a few times when I was younger where I looked at a guy and was confused by what I had felt. It is only recently that I could open up myself to, and accept my bisexuality. I'm still pretty quiet about it, but I guess I'm still trying to work it out. So in one way, I guess my attraction to men has grown as I got older, but it's more due to my coming to terms with my sexuality than just wanting more dick as I get older.

[rodman2005]

BillC77~
Ever think of using a shoelace or thicker bootlace and wrap up your balls and cock and it will get real stiff~
Try it and see.
Rod

[12voltyV2.0]

CulturalInfidel AKA: 12voltman59

I do hate to accept the concept of "being more gay"---I do hold that in being a gay male---the sex part is like the least important part and men being sexual with one another makes up say, no more than 10 percent of what it means to be a gay male----because being a gay male in our culture---really is an all encompassing thing that has far more to do with factors other than just the sex---even though--- the gatekeepers and arbiters of both gay and heterosexual cultures of course deem it otherwise---that "if you as a guy engage in ANY sex with another man---then you are gay and that is that"--to me that is the biggest load of crap that ever came down the pike.

I say that even if I were to get with another guy---have a complete relationship with him---and we are together for the next twenty years---I am not and never will be GAY! because I don't culturally feel I have much in common with gay males other than the fact that I like cock.

But I do agree with the OP's view that as many men get older they seem to prefer to sexually be with other males and find that in recent years--I too am "more into guys" than women---at least sexually----and find that many other men are the same way.

I really don't have any explanation or theories as to why this is so, but at least from my experience----and from many of the responses on this thread, they reinforce the appearance that this is true.

[Lover_Not_Fighter]

I deliberately searched on Youtube for Barbara Streisand singing Evergreen live the other night, and I did wonder if that was kinda gay.:tongue: Not that I'd be bothered, but being bi you do wonder what action is due to what persuasion at times.lol

Gearbox you crack me up!!!!:bigrin:

But seriously I would have to agree with the majority here I think you go through ups, and downs throughout our lives. Today i'm into guys tomorrow it'll be my wife then, well you know!!

[smokindeist]

CulturalInfidel:After reading what you wrote, I wish there was some sort of thumbs up for posts in here.