Am I the only one who...

[BiPhone]

...always use a condom when I blow a guy. I'm in a relationship with a great girl who knows and is okay with me hooking up from time to time. I wouldn't want to catch anything and pass it on to her.

Am I the only one? I get a hard time from the guys sometimes and I find it hard to find guys who are okay with this.

[tvoyemat]

If they aren't ok with you taking steps to protect yourself. then you may want to just say goodbye, then and there.

It's always ok to take sensible steps to ensure your safety and peace of mind.

[frontierman2011]

I'm sure there are a lot of guys like me out there that would say if you wanted to put a condom on me and blow me, I wouldn't have a problem with that at all, but I would not ask you to wear one while I blow you... just me.

[jem_is_bi]

I would definitely have a hard time with that.
I could never enjoy a condom during oral sex.

So, to me, you shoud say good bye, it is not going to happen.
I would be OK with that response.
If that works for you, you are better protected than me and still happy with the experience.
Why should I get upset with you?

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

You do what you feel is right for You, Sweetie. :} Thats my humble :2cents:
Cat

[Mr GNG]

No you are not Darryl
Anyone in a relationship that is not entirely a monogamous one; at whatever level, runs the risk catching something. You have your partners safety to consider was well as your own.
I’m in the same boat as you and personally I wouldn’t take that chance, even if giving a blow job using a condom would be equal to sucking a lollypop with the wrapper on; pointless, to do so is a risk, taking a strangers word that they are clean? that's a risk I’m not willing to take.

But as the wise cat says “You do what you feel is right for you” just be safe.

[dasbootie]

Agreed, be as safe as you can.

[bizel]

reading all this took me right back to school days when, if you didn't follow the crowd, you were jeered and scoffed at. peer pressure, i think is the term. it just shows, no matter how old our bodies get, our minds can still be childlike in our attitudes. you are being mature and sensible and considering the risks - which are very real. the unwilling recipients are being childish, and don't want it. you can just picture a child chucking a tantrum cos they can't get their own way. good luck to them, and good on you. stick to your guns. in life, we can only live by our own standards and i wouldn't lower them for anyone. hug, b.

[tenni]

You should do what you are comfortable with but I wouldn't lower my standards for you. I would decline oral sex with you if you wanted me to wear a condom. That doesn't mean that I wouldn't get naked with you either. There are options for having fun with a guy without oral sex or anal sex that I actually enjoy as much or maybe even more than oral or anal sex.

This has nothing to do with high school for me. I would have never ever considered having oral sex with a guy in high school...lol

I don't believe that whether you have oral sex (period) has anything to do with following a crowd or conformity. I don't think that this has anything to do with one person being more mature than the other. I think that bizel is imposing her heterosexual morality on the question and that is fine for her..but it (judgements and comments) on the topic should end there. It doesn't affect me if you have a spouse or not. It is between us and from my perspective only us. Your relationship with your wife is your own and don't involve or judge me or any other guy who may get upset with you.

It is about deciding what sexual activities that you are willing to participate in. I won't judge you as a better or worse person for whatever sexual activities you involve yourself in. I won't have oral sex with a condom. I won't participate in water sports. I won't participate in bondage activities. I'm a little less firm in opposing a partner being a CD but fairly firm that I don't want to play with you..but I might if I like you and your CD actions are minimal. I won't write that you are less mature, a conformist, etc. Its a personal choice question for me. I don't wish to get any disease but I will make up my own mind as to what I will get involved in sexually. You should do the same.

If you are experiencing a "hard time", you may want to change your approach. Is oral sex the most important thing that you want? Is it the most important thing that the other guy wants?

Consider your sexual options and don't be so hard and firm about this condom thing. Down play it a bit if you want to play. Build up other options for having fun with a guy.

If oral sex without a condom is the most important thing for the other guy, figure that out early and don't even bother approaching the condom issue. Walk away before you upset him by demanding a condom. Don't go there. "I don't think that we are going to be a match" is a sentence that you may want to use if he says oral sex is what he "does". Chances are if oral sex is the most important thing for him that he won't want to wear a condom....duh???? Come on don't be so naive.

[DuckiesDarling]

...always use a condom when I blow a guy. I'm in a relationship with a great girl who knows and is okay with me hooking up from time to time. I wouldn't want to catch anything and pass it on to her.

Am I the only one? I get a hard time from the guys sometimes and I find it hard to find guys who are okay with this.

In the end, it's you and your body, Darryl. So whatever rules you impose that make you feel more comfortable about having any sexual relations is up to you. Your potential partners have the choice to play by your rules or not play with you. All in all, sex is not the most important thing in the world to most people and if it is to someone who wants to sleep with you, then they will gladly don a condom.

Stick to your guns, there is no right or wrong, it's all personal preferences.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Yeah, what DD said. lol To each their own Sugar, and you do what feels right and safe for You. If the partner cant be respectful of that, then they deserve to play with you. ;)
Cat

[roy m cox]

well i don't think it bad to be safe , but if you've known the guy for long time and you and he have a good resent blood test then it's OK to go naked but if you are are just having sex with just any guy or girl then yeah rap it don't chance it , and if they don't like it do say bye bye ..

be safe not sorry :2cents:

[elian]

I admire that you do it, by all means, you should do what you think is safe and right - I'll try anything once but I can't imagine the taste of latex being something enjoyable. I've limited my partners to one responsible individual at the moment.

When I was much younger and full of hormones I used to have elaborate fantasies about locker rooms - now it's just not as appealing to me. I'm sure some of you might disagree but with age I find one person who really cares is worth more than 10-15 guys for a single moment in a locker room. Besides, there's no point in a taking a risk like that without tons and tons of hormones to convince you to lose your f-king mind and convince you that it's a good thing.

[Darkside2009]

I admire that you do it, by all means, you should do what you think is safe and right - I'll try anything once but I can't imagine the taste of latex being something enjoyable. I've limited my partners to one responsible individual at the moment.

When I was much younger and full of hormones I used to have elaborate fantasies about locker rooms - now it's just not as appealing to me. I'm sure some of you might disagree but with age I find one person who really cares is worth more than 10-15 guys for a single moment in a locker room. Besides, there's no point in a taking a risk like that without tons and tons of hormones to convince you to lose your f-king mind and convince you that it's a good thing.

Just a small point, but you can buy flavoured condoms these days, so the taste of latex would hardly be an issue. By all means take control of your own health, if using condoms makes you feel safer use them, the other person involved at worst can only say no thanks. In which case just move on or find an activity that does not require them.

[drugstore cowboy]

In all my years, decades of sucking cock I have never used a condom.

If a guy wanted me to wear a condom while he sucked me off or while I sucked his cock I just wouldn't engage in oral sex.

[miamiuu]

...always use a condom when I blow a guy. I'm in a relationship with a great girl who knows and is okay with me hooking up from time to time. I wouldn't want to catch anything and pass it on to her.

Am I the only one? I get a hard time from the guys sometimes and I find it hard to find guys who are okay with this.

its the smart thing to do since i got a ton of sore throats from guys dirty dicks. a lot of guys hygiene sucks.

If a dick taste bad tell them to fck off.

[ct_sounder]

...always use a condom when I blow a guy. I'm in a relationship with a great girl who knows and is okay with me hooking up from time to time. I wouldn't want to catch anything and pass it on to her.

Am I the only one? I get a hard time from the guys sometimes and I find it hard to find guys who are okay with this.


This is an old post, but still is a good topic.

I want to stay as safe as possible. I learned to enjoy sucking a covered cock and yearn for this darned Covid thing to improve to the point where I will seek out new dicks.

There have to be other guys out there that feel the same way as you.

Guys - the OP is looking for others who share his interest in protected sucking. We all know that most guys on here don't feel that way but please don't flame this guy with responses that are not positive. Let him find some friends that share the same interest.

[dowmass]

This is an old post, but still is a good topic.

I want to stay as safe as possible. I learned to enjoy sucking a covered cock and yearn for this darned Covid thing to improve to the point where I will seek out new dicks.

There have to be other guys out there that feel the same way as you.

Guys - the OP is looking for others who share his interest in protected sucking. We all know that most guys on here don't feel that way but please don't flame this guy with responses that are not positive. Let him find some friends that share the same interest.

My question is : Can you catch an STD by sucking a dick?.
There are no definite answers to this. I hear that it is ?safe? because the bugs in the cum die when swallowed. I also hear that oral sex is ?not entirely safe?.
what is the truth to it?

[Jozyxt]

My question is : Can you catch an STD by sucking a dick?.
There are no definite answers to this. I hear that it is ?safe? because the bugs in the cum die when swallowed. I also hear that oral sex is ?not entirely safe?.
what is the truth to it?

I believe it to be possible if you have any cuts or lesions in your mouth. But I have never seen anything other than vague general warnings on STDs and oral sex.