Feeling along in the world.

[newbiguy09]

I would have thought that admitting to myself that I was bi would be freeing. What I've I figured out is that I've always felt a disconnect with other people. A result of telling myself I wasn't attracted to other guys the same way I was women.

I'm married and have three beautiful kids. My connection to them is incredible. Once I step out of house though. I feel like a shy kid going off to a college where I don't know anyone. (my wife does know and is encouraging me to explore)

How do you deal with this? How do you find someone like you to connect with? How do you find someone to hang out with, be friends, and maybe share a physical connection with?

I would appreciate any advice.

[Briar Rose]

I wish I had something for you. My husband and closest friends know I'm bi. I lurked here a long time before posting, but it was one of the few places I found on the net where people who were bi or bi friendly really felt like a community. I don't want to date or flirt or anything like that myself; I just want camaraderie--other people who understood what it's like to be fluid sexually.

So I don't got nothing for ya' but empathy and potential friendship. :) I do know how it feels to be out of kilter with the world. It may not be as bad for me. I'm pagan, which is an alternative thing in it's own right and the community tends to be accepting. And I have friends who are bisexual as well--but I've always felt out of step. It doesn't help that I'm a short, fat geek/nerd type.

If you are looking for ways to meet guys to eventually have sexual experiences with, maybe some of the more experienced folks around here have suggestions.

[void()]

"Hello, I'm void_dweller."

It usually helps to crawl before walking, then running. Open, honest, mature conversation builds bridges. Yes, it may take a while. But a relationship of value is worth the effort and time.

If on the other hand, you're looking to just hook up and bump ugliness, I'm sure others can guide you better. My lot is being a one man, one woman guy and not really playing in the field. To each their own, though.

[codybear3]

Void_dwellers words are to be taken as real good advice. It will take time to
to meet and find people who share what you are going through... Be patient and take your time... In time, you should have what you are looking for...:paw::paw:

[Maggot]

Checking out the members list and personal adds here would be a good place to start in finding like minded people. The only bits of advice I would give are to go slowly, cautiously and always be careful.

[Realist]

I met a lady right here, when I least expected it. We began a relationship in late 2008 and it is still going strong. I also met a very nice fellow here and we've been writing, but haven't met, yet. Great correspondence!

Seems like the best lovers I've ever had, popped up from nowhere.

[newbiguy09]

Thank you for all of your comments. While I'm interested in exploring the physical side of being bi, an emotional connection is my first priority.

Any time I've put an ad up, all of the responses are for hookups. Oh well. I'll take my time and hope that life provides a opportunity to find that connection.

Thanks again all.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Hi NewGuy. Just be you and post here with us and get a feel of what we are like. Make conversation, make friends. ;) The more you interact with US, the more it can prepare you to meet people "Out There" Its easy, Hon. Just relax and be brave, you'll be fine.
Welcome. :}
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