Finding the "Right Couple"

[bigdaddyden59]

This post is most likely a rehash of many before but I felt that I must ask this question in my own words. How do we (meaning my wife & I) find the "Right Couple" to explore my (oral sex) bisexual curiosities with?? My wife is straight and has no desire to swap, swing or share nor does she admit to having any bicuriousness of her own. She does however show some interest in watching me swap blowjobs with another married man.

I have posted ads on various internet sites over the last few years and have received many responses. I would estimate about 50% from gay men. Now I'm not in the least homophobic, I've had many gay friends over the years, played in bands with many good gay musicians, heck...the best man at my wedding was a gay man who at the time was also my best friend. So it's not the gay issue it's the gay sex issue. These guys want gay sex. I'm not interested in gay sex IE; making love to another man. I have no desire to kiss, cuddle or snuggle with another man. I have no curiosity for anal sex. Another issue is these guys really do not want my wife to be a part of the equation. Hey ok fine...to each his own but it's not going to happen with me.

I've received responses from many solo guys who while claiming they have no interest in the wife you just know are hoping the thing turns into a threesome. My wife has told me she would feel very uncomfortable being the only woman in that scenario. This is even with my reassurances that I would not allow something like that to happen. She said she would be more comfortable with another married couple. I respect that...and will abide by that. In fact upon reflection it's the only way I want this to happen also.

Simply stated...Our desire is for me to fondle, lick and suckle another married mans cock and balls until he cums across my tongue. All this while our wives look and cheer us on. Then, with the taste of his cum on my tongue I would crawl over to my beautiful wife and proceed to make love to her, kiss her, eat her, and bang her to many orgasms while my compadre does the same with his wife. God it just so hot to think about it...

Anybody have any ideas how to find this elusive couple??

[anne27]

My only suggestion is to keep hitting the personal ads and hit them hard. You are very specific in what y'all are wanting, so it's going to be much harder than your average hunt.

Best of luck to you!

[Driver 8]

I'm not a guy, so I'm clearly not in the same position. It does seem to me though that there aren't that many straight women who want to watch their husband with another man; sure, there are some, but I get the impression they're rare.

It does also seem to me that bi guys who just want to receive oral - and don't also want to give it - are kind of rare; again, there are some exceptions, but now you're looking for a rare kind of guy with a rare kind of partner.

And I agree with anne27 that you have a very specific script that you want your two new partners to follow. Maybe ... in addition to the things you want to do, and the things you don't want to do, is there some middle ground of things you'd be willing to do? Maybe "you fulfill my fantasy, I fulfill yours" would open up more possibilities than looking for a couple with the exact same fantasy.

Just my :2cents:

[jedinudist]

Depending on how much you want your wife to be present, you will prob have more luck if it's just you and the other guy. Get to know each other first through a few non-sexual meetings to make sure your both what the other is looking for, and then see if you want to move on to having safe sex. This would eliminate the risk of the guy trying to get your wife involved while the two of you are together.

I know there are allot of guys who would not be comfortable with the idea of having sex with someone while one or more spouses who have no intention of joining are standing there watching.

just one of my many ideas ;)

[woolleygirl]

Hon it takes time I know that answer sucks but you have to keep being clear what it is you want out of this. That is all you can do just keep up with the adds. We have been doing the same patience really sucks though i know.

Good luck hon

T

[timsgfdmo]

Big,

I think it is very unlikely you will ever find what you ar looking for. I think most of the stories that go around about good 3 sums and 4 sums are urban legend. The fact that you are so specific about what you want makes it even more unlikely you wil find it. You have to get 3 other people including your wife to agree that the 4 of you are a good match and want to explore together. Think how hard it is to get 3 people to agree with you on a restaurant or a movie or anything. I have been searching for an intimate realtionship with a married couple for years with no results. I think when these things occur they are instigated by a very attractive woman with the guys going along for the ride. Most of those would probably be mfm 3 sums. Good luck but I think some fantasies are just letters "created" for published erotica.