Straight ppl trying to be bi

[Mimmie Cali]

So this week I was totally played! This woman asked me if i was Bi and i said yes. She then told me she was Bi (not curious). She asked me out. We went to a club, she saw some ppl she knew there while we were kissing. She tried to hide a lil, but nothing big. I just thought she was maybe in the closet.
So the next week I was trying to ask her out again and she tells me that she is straight and that she was never bi! she was just drunk, and that is why she kissed me! OMG! the thing is that when she asked me out, she wasnt drunk (and said she was Bi) and it was like a week of talking to each other before we went to the club and had our first kiss. I feel so used! I would have never kissed her if she didnt say she was bi. I bought her drinks and even breakfast after the club. Wow. I'm really hurt. Y do ppl do that!?

[DuckiesDarling]

Mimmie, I'm sorry that you were hurt like that. But it happens to a lot of people all the time, maybe not because of sexuality but because players are players for a reason.

[NotLostJustWandering]

All kinds of reasons. But that girl ain't straight. She lied to you, but not at the beginning. I'm so sorry you had this experience, but thanks for the reminder that not all lying, narcissistic players are men. :rolleyes:

[wrbi01]

I find that there are alot of men out there that just want to get their dicks sucked and thats the reason they say they are Bi. You can normaly tell them, at least in my experience, by when im talking to them the only things they are intrested in is being a top, they want no other touching and they want to be sucked first. That way after they are finished they can just say they are no longer in the mood and walk out leaving you to deal with the thoughts and emotions un-realized. It wouldnt be so bad if I posted "Recip. Not Necessary" but I have always been up front about the fact that I have been on the being used side and while I really enjoy being with a man I fully expect to get mine as well. Thats why I have a rule when being with women... they come first... then Ill get mine. Its only fair.

[dbltrbl69]

#1 in my experience if a guy says he bi but doesn't kiss men when its all going down he is a fake #2 lots of younger women parade around the bar holding hands maybe kissing just for free drinks from horny guys hoping for some 3way action with a couple bi girls.
Both are a total piss off, Lol.
A guy who will sick and swallow but doesn't want to kiss and make out has no business in our bed. I hate poseurs!

[sammie19]

All kinds of reasons. But that girl ain't straight. She lied to you, but not at the beginning. I'm so sorry you had this experience, but thanks for the reminder that not all lying, narcissistic players are men. :rolleyes:

They aren't all men. A few times I have been getting on well with another girl and then been dropped like a hot potato on the grounds that she isn't really bi. Very few even very good actors can snog that well and use their hands so sensitively and erotically. Even fewer feign desperation and need so well. They may have gotten cold feet but straight they weren't.

Once a girl agreed to go to a Pride event with me after we spent a fun night together. We didn't have fun knitting or doing embroidery. The following day when I phoned to make arrangements where to meet she went nuts down the phone and called me names and made it quite clear that a Pride is the last place she would be seen dead in because dyke she was not. In the background I could hear quite clearly other people talking.

[NotLostJustWandering]

A line with a single bump is not straight.
A glass of whiskey with a drop of water isn't straight whiskey.
Someone telling you a little white lie isn't being straight with you.
Anyone who identifies as "mostly straight" is abusing the English language. "Mostly heterosexual" has no such self-contradiction.

As for guys who just want their cock sucked, or to fuck a guy, without any reciprocation or foreplay, there are plenty of them on the homo sites identifying as gay. It's not about being straight, it's about being selfish and afraid of emotional connection. I know we would like to disown such types as not bisexual when they show attraction to both genders, but sadly we have our share of them, too. Maybe more than our share.

[Mimmie Cali]

Wow, sucks. I can't believe these ppl. I mean, if she didnt say she was Bi I NEVER would have allowed her to kiss me. I would have been happy just having another friend. She even said, the next day, that she thought i was pretty and just wanted to kiss me, nothing more, and that she was completely straight. What is that about!?

[matutum]

Wow, sucks. I can't believe these ppl. I mean, if she didnt say she was Bi I NEVER would have allowed her to kiss me. I would have been happy just having another friend. She even said, the next day, that she thought i was pretty and just wanted to kiss me, nothing more, and that she was completely straight. What is that about!?

it happens,iy happened to me awhile ago.This guy started trying to dominate me and verbly abuse me giving me orders and I told him to leave.He said what u gonna do sissy boy??So i whipped his ass and literally threw him out of my hotel room and dragged him to his car,bloody nose and puffed eyes,cut lip.I'm a vietnam vet,and bi,and I don't take crap from anyone,except if i'm in the wrong,andI do know when I'm wrong..

[BiDaveDtown]

There are also asexuals who like to pretend that they're bisexual when they are not at all. ;)

There's nothing "selfish" about being with a partner that does not want to reciprocate oral sex.

There's no "rule" that says that if you get oral sex you have to give it. Likewise men who don't want to give oral sex are not cutting themselves off emotionally from anyone.

There are A LOT of bisexual and yes even gay men out there who don't like to suck cock and many gay and bisexual men who only want to suck dick and don't want to get sucked off at all.

There are even bisexual women and lesbians who do not give oral sex at all to another woman or a man but will receive it.

It's just someone's personal preference that they don't give oral sex at all, not even when it's done to them. There's nothing wrong with it.

The same goes for how they don't get fucked at all when they will fuck a man.

It's just a personal preference when it comes to sex and not everyone is versatile for oral or anal sex, and there's no rule that says if you fuck some man in the ass or he sucks your cock that you have to get fucked or suck him off or else you're a bad person or have emotional issues and somehow can't bond with someone which is all not true.

[ErosUrge]

All kinds of reasons. But that girl ain't straight. She lied to you, but not at the beginning. I'm so sorry you had this experience, but thanks for the reminder that not all lying, narcissistic players are men. :rolleyes:

Indeed; this is always a sad situation. And yes, not always men either.....

[tommyswing]

What I hear is she's not being honest with herself, she sounds scared. i would just avoid someone like that.

[Michigan_cpl]

sorry to here that you had a experiance...... not all ppl are like that just the scared and fake ones.

i was str8 untill my old landlord who was gay, took me to his house on my 18 th birthday, we had some drinks and watched some gay porn, the next thing i knew he was sucking my cock and i loved it, then he took my ass, witch was great. yes we were even kissing. now i am totaly bi and out about my self. yes my wife does know and loves seeing me with men.:bipride:

[NotLostJustWandering]

i was str8 untill my old landlord who was gay, took me to his house on my 18

Er... I think you mean "I thought was straight" or "I identified as straight" or "I lived straight", right?

[nudistharry]

#1 in my experience if a guy says he bi but doesn't kiss men when its all going down he is a fake #2 lots of younger women parade around the bar holding hands maybe kissing just for free drinks from horny guys hoping for some 3way action with a couple bi girls.
Both are a total piss off, Lol.
A guy who will sick and swallow but doesn't want to kiss and make out has no business in our bed. I hate poseurs!

Why is a guy who doesn't want to kiss a "fake"???

To me, kissing is an emotional act. I like sucking a guy off, but if there's no emotional attachment (i.e. it's just a sexual relationship) then I have no desire to kiss him. The same goes for sex with a woman. If there's no emotional attachment I don't want to kiss her.

I can accept, and even understand, that you do not want sex with someone unless they will kiss you. But not wanting to kiss you doesn't make them a "fake". I don't understand why a guy wanting to suck you off, and even swallow your load, but not kiss you makes him a "poseur."