What do you think this comment means?

[kewlguy]

So I'm having a drink with a married, straight, (I assume)buddy of mine (who doesn't know I'm Bi) and we're talking about his wife's unwillingness to perform oral sex on him. So then he says..."If I could suck my own cock I would" I could take his comment as a joke...or I can read into it a little further. What do you think?

[Jobelorocks]

Well it doesn't sound to me like he is wanting you to suck his cock if that is what you are thinking. Maybe he is, but I highly doubt it.

[bigbadmax]

You could broach the subject next time by "saying...you know you said that thing about sucking your own cock?" he replies "yeah"

you could say" I know a bloke who would do it" if he gets real shifty... you could say "yeah right, had you going there bro LOL" but if he more responsive then drop it till he brings it up again, then say "its me".

this way the emphasis is on him, not you ,to instigate, and you dont loose a friend by mis-interpreting him and putting your foot in it.

bbm

[tenni]

I've heard more than one guy make that statement.:eek::bigrin: Even expanding it to say that if they could suck their own cock they might not come out of their bedroom..:bigrin:

I think that what he means is that if he could orally self pleasure himself as in wanking with his hands, that he wouldn't need anyone , including his wife,for oral sex. That' all. If you had wanted to be broad and open about it, you might make a self disclosure. "Ya, I know what you mean, sometimes I wonder if another guy might suck me off better too." or something...but be careful...he isn't thinking necessarily that he wants a "guy" to perform oral sex on him.:tong::bigrin:

In fact, limber , usually the rare younger men, can suck themselves off. ;) That limberness usually disappears in their 20's though if not sooner.

[keefer728]

So I'm having a drink with a married, straight, (I assume)buddy of mine (who doesn't know I'm Bi) and we're talking about his wife's unwillingness to perform oral sex on him. So then he says..."If I could suck my own cock I would" I could take his comment as a joke...or I can read into it a little further. What do you think?

What man hasn't said that; straight, bi or gay........it's just a common saying. I am sure you've heard the joke that goes: why does a dick lick his balls? Because he can. Not a head scratcher. It has no identity to one being bi or otherwise, it's just a saying.

[dave98106]

I think he meant that if he could suck his own cock he would. Reading any more into it would be like assuming because a friend made a joke about jacking off he wants to do it with you.

[12voltman59]

Echoing what Keefer said--I think he meant to say why a dog licks his balls----and comedian George Carlin always said that if he could suck his own cock he would never go out on Friday nights--or something like that!!

I do think that most guys, straight, gay bi or whatever---have a certain interest in cocks and sucking them---even if it were just their own.

It is no doubt that he wants someone to suck his cock----whether he would want to have another guy suck it or for him to do so---that is not so clear--actually he might let another guy do it---but may not consider he is going to do it to some other guy.

I really don't know how to approach the subject to feel him out----I would just suggest----keep hanging with him when you can and let him bring up the topic of cock sucking--if he keeps doing it in the future---perhaps if he is interested in doing something with another guy---he might try to get to it.

If he says this again--perhaps you could respond by saying something like "yeah---it would be great if a guy could suck his own dick!" See how he takes that one up.

I'd say just play it cool and be patient--maybe he might be working towards approaching you slowly to see how you respond since he has an interest but is reticent to do anything and doesn't want to too readily give it up that he has such an interest.

[kewlguy]

Thanks for the replies....I should have stated the question more clearly.
If a man...any man says he would suck his own cock if he could...does it indicate he is a closet bi or gay man?

[The Bisexual Virgin]

Thanks for the replies....I should have stated the question more clearly.
If a man...any man says he would suck his own cock if he could...does it indicate he is a closet bi or gay man?

No not really. If I could I would make love to myself, does that mean I am gay?No.

[FunE1]

No, it does not mean he's a closeted gay/bisexual or interested in giving/getting head to/from another man.

Now... if he makes that same comment while putting his hand on YOUR crotch.... well, that's probably a sign he IS, at the very least, INTERESTED.:tong:

[IanBorthwick]

Well it doesn't sound to me like he is wanting you to suck his cock if that is what you are thinking. Maybe he is, but I highly doubt it.

100% Agree with this.