Bi means both... but what's bi under the right situation? A needed chat room for it

[orallybi4cpl]

bi under the right situation.. it what it says... often referred to as 'socially bi' perhaps the question is.. what is the right situation? some people enjoy being 'passive bi' or only bi if with both (has to have the opposite sex there) with guys often it might mean 'orally bi' ..hence no anal sex is desired... this is usually the case with most 'hetero' bi males.... the right situation is usually.. in a 3some with a M/F couple so the 'right situation' can be mixing the enjoyment of a 'bi' experience .. i.e. sex with both at the same time. Ever notice that the 'right situation' may not be when you meet someone? but rather it happens when you are naked, and playing straight in a 3way..and the couple is open to some bi fun.. when the mood at that time becomes the 'right situation'. When people are aroused, they often will and can enjoy things that they might totally deny- otherwise... this is the magic line between fantasies and reality. Socially... you may not even feel a 'connection' to the person for these desires, except by prior communication via email or chat.. then after meeting in person... one may not experience the 'feeling of attraction' ... but the desire to pursue the potentials that were discussed in private...often don't materialize until you've allowed yourself to enjoy the situation.... by taking the next step... Leave the 'drama' out.. look for cleanliness, and general appearance within the normal range and let the mind work with the body.. just as it did when you were emailing and chatting. It's perfectly normal to feel indifferent or shy in person.. until after you have started your 'intimate experience' with that person. It's then that you find out people are more similar than different... you don't have to worry about the emotions, a relationship, etc.. it's recreational... Isn't that what swinging is all about? *ofcourse The 'right situation' usually is 'descreet' too.. private.. and with the bi aspect.. it's exciting sensual and very intimate... especailly when you can share it with the opposite sex. What usually is not the 'right situation' because it's 1 on 1 .. becoms the right situation when you share it with the opposite sex.. that often makes it 'feel right'... or 'natural' And it's a wonderful turn on for the opposite sex person too.. That's the part that I love about it.. when a woman is turned on by it..and gets so aroused and wet from it...it just seems so 'right' then... and so erotic. Forfilling your sexual desires in experiences often follows like the times you fantasize about it... while you are sexually aroused.. you are right for it.. and then do you notice.. after you cum.. or shortly after that.. you might even deny- you ever thought about wanting to do it, till the next time you are aroused. You'll never know if you don't take the next step.. remember.. bi means 'both' that's the right situation!

[welickit]

Interesting perspective. Now all you need is to find someone that agrees with it.

[orallybi4cpl]

anyone who polled yes agrees with it

[drugstore cowboy]

Wouldn't the chat room here work for this?

[MarieDelta]

I'm confused. Could you explain how your concept is different from the chat room on this site?

[MtnMan]

I like the chat on this site--I have conversed and shared ideas with both men and women and it's working fine. Let's not segregate!

[nutme]

I think the sites chatrooms are designed for bisexual men and women to conversate about what is proposed in this thread. I do find one problem though. I have seen really great conversations on our bisexual issues, desires and fun experiences get totally chilled by a few who have come in, and all but take over the room with chat that is anything but our thoughts. People tend to clam up when the room is invaded by some with large fonts and chatter that is anything but "fun".

[bihim4her]

I agree we need more sexual social chat room names. I'd like to see more women who 'like' bi men
and no so much same sex isolation.

Perhaps a couples for men room would be fun

or a 'unicorn' looking for a bisexual man oh wow

I'm a sensual guy looking for a sensual woman to enjoy each other
Perhaps being a loving bi couple.

[cuttin2dachase]

Being bi, at least to me, means simply that one enjoys opposite sex sex and same sex sex for the pure sexual pleasure of it. It's dual sexual desire, period. It has long been my opinion that most bisexual people prefer opposite sex sex to same sex sex, but want the option to have same sex sex too, because it is erotically different and exciting and kinky to them. At least it's true for me. I want to be head over heels in love with a woman who knows of my mm desires and wants to be my partner in pursuing men for sex. My emotional love bond is with her...I won't want or fantasize for other women, but I will want men ..she will have me emotionally and sexually and share me with other men sexually... and I will have her emotionally and sexually and share her with men sexually. If she's bi, it's up to her whether she shares me with other women ;)

[orallybi4cpl]

Being bi, at least to me, means simply that one enjoys opposite sex sex and same sex sex for the pure sexual pleasure of it. It's dual sexual desire, period. It has long been my opinion that most bisexual people prefer opposite sex sex to same sex sex, but want the option to have same sex sex too, because it is erotically different and exciting and kinky to them. At least it's true for me. I want to be head over heels in love with a woman who knows of my mm desires and wants to be my partner in pursuing men for sex. My emotional love bond is with her...I won't want or fantasize for other women, but I will want men ..she will have me emotionally and sexually and share me with other men sexually... and I will have her emotionally and sexually and share her with men sexually. If she's bi, it's up to her whether she shares me with other women ;)


Nicely said.. now all we need is a chatroom for men and women to share these ideas openly..

be sure to ask drew to change the old chat rooms to promote this..

the art of sharing our bisexuality with the opposite sex confirms that we are bi... not gay or straight

even the kinsley (sic) chart can be offensive cause it says something about being mostly straight or mostly gay

I really hate seeing the word 'gay' here...

I think bi is natural.. and should be promoted for it's dual purpose to enjoy both
and so naturallly enjoyable when both are with you

hence the meaning of my handle :)

[welickit]

We can both understand what you are all talking about. However, you are in a fantasy train of thought. If you get in touch with reality, your thinking and guys who share the idea are a dime a dozen. Not exactly a waiting line of couples to grab one. It boils down to supply and demand. If you want to be the guy who stands out in the crowd a picture of your dick isn't the right road to success. Being married gives you about a zero to 15% chance unless your wife knows and approves, then you get front of the line. Obviously she needs to verify it and in person. Saying under the right circumstances does nothing more than send up red flags with FAKE written all over them.

Sorry if this hits an open wound but it is the way a both bi couple sees it.

[nutme]

We can both understand what you are all talking about. However, you are in a fantasy train of thought. If you get in touch with reality, your thinking and guys who share the idea are a dime a dozen. Not exactly a waiting line of couples to grab one. It boils down to supply and demand. If you want to be the guy who stands out in the crowd a picture of your dick isn't the right road to success. Being married gives you about a zero to 15% chance unless your wife knows and approves, then you get front of the line. Obviously she needs to verify it and in person. Saying under the right circumstances does nothing more than send up red flags with FAKE written all over them.

Sorry if this hits an open wound but it is the way a both bi couple sees it.

Oh Snap!...they hit it on the head. As a former swinger, if it is not both; forget it. Just a post script: swinging is not her there and watching.

[nutme]

I have to add this. For all you single men, who think putting up that your bisexaul "under the right circumstances" get in fucking line. You are the ones that true bisexual couples rid themselves of when emails are sent. As I said, I swung (no biggie for me) but to protect the woman of our lives; you are the ones that even clubs exclude when you, when you seek entrance.

[orallybi4cpl]

I have to add this. For all you single men, who think putting up that your bisexaul "under the right circumstances" get in fucking line. You are the ones that true bisexual couples rid themselves of when emails are sent. As I said, I swung (no biggie for me) but to protect the woman of our lives; you are the ones that even clubs exclude when you, when you seek entrance.


You know nutme.. you could be nicer..

single guys get tired of people being rude... remember the rules on here..

be nice

please refrain from being negative... we're all looking for a pat on the back
and we sure don't need to see or hear someone condemning a man being bi
and having sexual needs.... you see when a woman is bi she doesn't get
treated this way.. we are all people and deserve respect and dignity

there are people .. couples who seek men that like being bi
and there are women who love it too.. they don't say it
that often in public because it's a sport for people
to condemn or embarrass someone I suggest
those people continue to watch fox news.. if you get my drift.

You don't have to be a liberal to be bisexual
in fact I've meet a heck of a lot of
people who are 'conservative' but love their
bisexuality.. and mmf fun

so next time.. folks.. try to be nice.. and
stop putting down people for their sexual
desires and needs.. we can get that
out in the street...

thank you

[welickit]

It may not have been worded in a gentle manner but it is accurate. Even nudist resorts are doing away with letting single males in. While we don't have an issue with letting a percentage of singles (either sex) in, the members of the resorts are the ones to vote for or against it. There were enough offenders to ruin it for all those who enjoy the resorts. It is a fact that can't be denied.

[bihim4her]

that fact is.. it should be illegal to exclude people just cause they are male at a place of business..

if you're badly behaved then it doesn't matter who you are...

I think it should be illegal to have 'ladies' night at the bar.

it's all discriminatory

I agree though... let's look at the good things instead of the bad.

[welickit]

Nudist resorts are not a place of business, they are a membership. Allowing non members entry is decided by the members. They maintain their own houses, roads etc. without tax dollars, although they have to pay taxes. They provide their own security without depending on local police except in rare situations. A rare situation would be a background check on you coming back showing you should be elsewhere. Another rare situation is a single male, or one who thinks he is single being escorted off the property. This was the problem that wasn't as rare a situation as it should have been.

Looking at the good things as you put it...........there really are couples interested in honest, single males. A group of us did a think tank to come up with the best question to ask a "single guy" if we got an email. This was an effort to weed out the wannabees.

Where are you hosting our get together?

We heard everything from I have a sick wife, I have a room mate, I live with family, back seat of my car, my boat, hunting camp, after dark in a public park, motel room but he couldn't pay for it. It goes on and on.

The point single guys could learn from is: If a couple wants you they will find you on their own. 100% failure rate if you contact us first and send us to a profile with nothing but pictures of your dick. If your profile is more than a couple paragraphs we won't even read it, we know how to ask questions. If you are a one sentence guy make it goodbye.

You can't go forth from your fantasy world and expect to get accepted. If you have the ability, look at the "situation" from the other point of view. If you really want to be a part of something you need to contribute to it constructively. Having your own chat room won't do you a dam bit of good. The only ones in there will be other complainers looking for sympathy. Get your ass out in the main chat and CHAT!. Don't wait for someone to approach you........jump in the main chat. PM's will probably get you on an ignore list so stick to the main chat area until you form a bond with someone. Don't rush things and most of all DO NOT LIE!

[tenni]

I don't use chat and generally this thread has no interest for me. However, some of the language and inference is creepy.

Welickit
With regard to your comment about naturist parks, I've been to one several times with friends who are members. Two of the members are single men and one is a married man and his wife. There are guidelines as far as expected behaviour. I've never seen what you described. I've been told by my friends that some men who get an erection are asked to hide it. Yes, I've been told that if a guy walked around with a hard on that he would be asked to leave. I saw one guy get an erection and he covered up. I know that swingers take over the place and some of the regulars and permanent residents do not like it. I also may not have experienced the discrimination because I was friends with several members and their guest.

Both you ane nutme seem to have bad experiences with single men. Is it proper to slur all single men though? Sure, there are guys out their who are going to be upfront and blunt. They do the same behaviour with other men (married or single). If you do not like it, tell them no thank you. Putting all single men under the same rude lecherous category is ..well it should be obvious what it is. The adjective "some" may help you. Try using it.

[orallybi4cpl]

I don't use chat and generally this thread has no interest for me. However, some of the language and inference is creepy.

Welickit
With regard to your comment about naturist parks, I've been to one several times with friends who are members. Two of the members are single men and one is a married man and his wife. There are guidelines as far as expected behaviour. I've never seen what you described. I've been told by my friends that some men who get an erection are asked to hide it. Yes, I've been told that if a guy walked around with a hard on that he would be asked to leave. I saw one guy get an erection and he covered up. I know that swingers take over the place and some of the regulars and permanent residents do not like it. I also may not have experienced the discrimination because I was friends with several members and their guest.

Both you ane nutme seem to have bad experiences with single men. Is it proper to slur all single men though? Sure, there are guys out their who are going to be upfront and blunt. They do the same behaviour with other men (married or single). If you do not like it, tell them no thank you. Putting all single men under the same rude lecherous category is ..well it should be obvious what it is. The adjective "some" may help you. Try using it.


Thank you very much Tenni

You see there are several 'couples' that feel they have to bash single men.. as if it's a 'private club'
when in fact they are intimidating couples who actually love mmf recreational sexuality.

We applaud people who treat single men as well as they treat single women...

thank you

[welickit]

Tenni, obviously you haven't been to a resort in this area recently. If you don't have a sponsor you don't get in. Some places even with a sponsor you don't get in or don't get in until your background check comes back.

You ask if it is proper! Depends whether you are the male alone or the couple. The popular vote says it is fair. You need to accept the facts. Maybe where you live it is different right now.

[orallybi4cpl]

fortunately.. you're one of the few
bi couples who feels this way... please respect that

you're in the minority!

the right circumstances is a feeling not a social condition like if you're married.. obviously you read the article wrong and have a goal of bashing
bi men.. which is so sad.. I don't think anyone would want to meet you... so you come here to harass people.. this is so sad that you have to use
republican (rush) tactics to do this... so sad

well I think you won't be getting very many fans from here.. so enjoy your stay.. it's should be pretty lonely for you

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Why should there be segregated chat rooms here? There are levels to the chat room already. That seems like a viable solution. Maybe I'm not reading this right in my fevered brain right now, but thats how I'm seeing this...
Cat.

[æonpax]

orallybi4cpl,

This site is set up for meeting people, that’s the point of filling out your ad. Like minded people want to meet, this is the perfect place. While I see the utility in having a sexually oriented room for chat, there are also those whom would prefer a more social climate, sans any direct sexual connotations.

There is one other small point, there just are not many bisexual females here. The ones I have chatted with seem to be geared more like me, in meeting other women, bisexual or otherwise. Now of course, this is just my observation and is subjective. Since the change over, the chat will now allow me to log in as it says it doesn’t recognize me name but when I did, I preferred friendly talk and discussions apart from sexuality but occasionally get sexual offers for which I would politely beg off. So I do see a logical reason for a room such as you suggested.

I’ve done the bicouple thing, it was fun but it is also a phase of my orientation that no longer interests me.

[orallybi4cpl]

so perhaps a female such as yourself should be in the women only chat rooms..

otherwise it spoils it for the rest of us 'bisexual' people who like both sexes at the same time.

I think the main room should be 'the bisexual room'

and an alternative room.. 'the social room' could be for those who
must talk about babies and work and their hair and how sick they are etc

know what I mean...

[orallybi4cpl]

watch the election this year.. the popular vote will say what was 'fair' is no longer fair.. ie bashing women (rush) or bashing men for that matter
time to leave the republican party (tea party) and join society as a real human being for a change

that's what being bisexual is all about.. loving both..and treating men with friendly loving care too

it's not just a woman thing.. and surely not a 'couples' thing only...

charging a man $100 bucks and a woman $20 or free should be illegal and Florida should shut those places down! Pronto!

[Long Duck Dong]

so perhaps a female such as yourself should be in the women only chat rooms..

otherwise it spoils it for the rest of us 'bisexual' people who like both sexes at the same time.

I think the main room should be 'the bisexual room'

and an alternative room.. 'the social room' could be for those who
must talk about babies and work and their hair and how sick they are etc

know what I mean...


and you could use the bedroom instead of telling other members they are not welcome in chat cos they are lesbians or that ladies that do not want to *get it on * should get out

the main room is a chatroom, there are other rooms like the bedroom for people like you that want to get it on.... but it sounds like you do not want anybody to socialise / talk / idle chat in the chat.... even tho there is the bedroom for you to use for your choice of activity......

[orallybi4cpl]

Here's a classic example of couples who seek a bi man.. it's quite common..
as it does turn a lady on.. despite what the general 'public' attitude is.. after all
this is discreet and private between a couple and a man

so take a look at this typical ad http://tampa.craigslist.org/pnl/cas/2899554593.html

and you'll find this all over the country..

ofcourse there are jerks to be found everywhere no matter what their orientation is...

this assumes the man respects a couple's relationship and can be a gentleman..
most men appreciate a couple inviting him into their private sex life.

it's a mutual privileged between consenting adults...

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[æonpax]

so perhaps a female such as yourself should be in the women only chat rooms..

otherwise it spoils it for the rest of us 'bisexual' people who like both sexes at the same time.

I think the main room should be 'the bisexual room'

and an alternative room.. 'the social room' could be for those who
must talk about babies and work and their hair and how sick they are etc

know what I mean...

No, not really. There is a female only room here but doesn’t interest me, apart from the fact that I never see anyone in it. I seem to think you are emphasizing “like both sexes at the same” and there is already a room for that. As for “the rest of us”, bisexuals come in many proclivities and while yours is important to you there are many other sub groups to consider.

I prefer the status quo, the main room being a social area, et al. I side with those who see bisexuality beyond just sex, however important it may be to some. I enjoy discussions with bisexual males on very many topics. Were I really inclined to meet anyone, I would do it in private…it’s just my personal choice.

By the way, how is sex any different from a bimale than a heterosexual male? You made the diliniation in your poll "Yes - I love when my lady wants me to be bi" which to me doesn't make sense. While I understand the concept of "heteroflexibility" I just don't buy into it and your statement suggests a man who flip-flops from bisexuality to heterosexuality according to a whim. To each, their own I guess but as I see it, sex with a male doesn't change according to their orientation.

[bihim4her]

No, not really. There is a female only room here but doesn’t interest me, apart from the fact that I never see anyone in it. I seem to think you are emphasizing “like both sexes at the same” and there is already a room for that. As for “the rest of us”, bisexuals come in many proclivities and while yours is important to you there are many other sub groups to consider.

I prefer the status quo, the main room being a social area, et al. I side with those who see bisexuality beyond just sex, however important it may be to some. I enjoy discussions with bisexual males on very many topics. Were I really inclined to meet anyone, I would do it in private…it’s just my personal choice.

By the way, how is sex any different from a bimale than a heterosexual male? You made the diliniation in your poll "Yes - I love when my lady wants me to be bi" which to me doesn't make sense. While I understand the concept of "heteroflexibility" I just don't buy into it and your statement suggests a man who flip-flops from bisexuality to heterosexuality according to a whim. To each, their own I guess but as I see it, sex with a male doesn't change according to their orientation.


Well I think the point was.. 'nobody' goes into those other rooms.. is quite valid... and why? cause they are 'gay' rooms not 'bi'
I tend to think bi means both.

When a lady wants a man to be bi .. means...... drum roll.... that she likes him to enjoy a man with her.. as in she likes to be there when
he's touching and playing with a man.. in fact she loves to 'seduce' him into it over and over cause it's very erotic for her too.

it's not flip flopping at all .. it's society and people like welickit that imply a man must be one or the other.. but in society
one has to appear as hetero and in private (with his girl) he can be 'bisexual' with her and a friend of theirs.

There are so many articles about a woman finding out a man is bi.. ie he loves her and has desires to have sex with a man and her
and she feels hurt and all that.. that's classical .. but there are women who are very happily married or in a loving relationship with
a man and feel so lucky that he's open with her and true to her about it. Those that aren't usually will find that a man 'has to'
hide who he really is because of him not having the right woman in his life.

It's much easier if the woman is bi too then she understands, and even encourages him to enjoy it.

That kind of woman has always been my 'dream woman'... a woman I can relate to and visa versa.. it's beautiful.

This is why there should be more openness about a woman and a man sharing a man here.. it's been too one sided
with prudes.

Yet people tend to naturally be bi.. if inhibitions are shed. I just think it would be more acceptable and enjoyable
if it could be openly shared in a chat room perhaps chatroom #2 Bi Girls and Bi Guys Flurting

Sure do the private instant messages .. in fact I'd like to see a IM prompt from the profile.. a request to chat privately
as an option.. if you're open to getting one.. turn the option on... and decide if you want to accept one when
you get a prompt for it... then people wouldn't even have to go into the 'chatroom' and it would be more
'private'

I find that the public 'friend' aspect to be something a bi woman might find intimidating if she wants to 'friend' a bi man
she doesn't want to be hounded by others.. so mr sysop.. could you change that for us? I believe there are bi
women who would love a romantic relationship with a man who could appreciate them cause they are bi too.

It just needs to have it's discreetness since women tend to shy away from open sexuality, yet they are very open minded.

As the story goes.. there was this Italian Guy and Greek Guy having lunch in Paris...
and the Greek Guy says to the Italian Guy... "Well you know us Greeks created sex".
and the Italian Guy says... "Well that may be true, but us Italians got women involved".

Yup!

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[csrakate]

Just how many names do you have, orallybi4cpl? It's well known that you also go by Oralguy....but now you post under bihim4her as well? Just be honest for once.....you don't give a rat's ass about fairness in the chat rooms...you just want a playground for yourself and when you don't get it, you denounce women as "bitch dykes" and go on to harass them in forum posts. There is nothing wrong with your choice of sexuality....if only you could enjoy it without pushing your agenda on others.

This has been going on for years as these posts from 2008 prove:


I wish CSR would go someplace else.. she tends to think she owns this site and the chat room.. and it's people like here who dominate and think they
should decide who is bisexual and who isn't...

Maybe she would be better off tending to her husband instead of being on
the computer on this site all the time... I wonder if she has a 'government'
job or something..

good day!




nope it's all this cause Kate won't let us bi guys be bi with the girls

most of us love girl juice and sausage for breakfast!

But mommy kate says hush children.. this is the baby's room.
go to the bedroom..

hey we're here to have fun.. and we don't need no mommy who don't have a job .. and if she has a job.. her boss should know she's cheating by
being in the chat room so often.. . no life.. that's what I think

we want a place we can be naughty without having mommy dear telling us
we can't play with the girls or flirt with them... heck.. that would be
so wrong...

and then all the cute kiddies in chat.. whine and tease and bully the bisexual people who like to enjoy BOTH... it's male AND female
not male OR female...

BI means AND not OR

for you techies out there!

and that means.. sucking cock while you slide into a nice warm pussy
and she kisses you and says ummmm I love how you suck cock....

now that's what most couples and bisexual people LOVE about being bi

we're tired of those that say.. I'm BI (no guys)
or the rooms on chat
that say... WOMEN only or MEN only

those are gay rooms..

the MAIN chat room should be the BISEXUAL FANTASY room

and welcome bisexual expressions...

if you're straight or gay .. then there are so many other NON-BISEXUAL
people and sites...and those that throw a fit cause
bi guys love to watch bi girls.. and many bi girls are lucky to have a guy
who will suck cock with her... they just don't always say it
cause mommy dearest and those tough guys and 'ladies' will defend her
right to say.. IGGY him... i.e. embarass him.. he will go away...

funny thing... bisexual fun in mmf and mff is not going away.. cause it's
so fun.. so erotic.. so sensual and so naughty.. that the girls who love to
play with two men.. continue to get wet and crave a man who is open
enought to NOT do 1 on 1 but instead desire HER to be there and enjoy
not 1.. but more than 1 cock.. yes baby.. let's share the fun.

cause it's fun! it's bisexual..and so natural for a girl and guy to play
together... either with a girl or a guy.....

there are plenty of people who enjoy or would enjoy this and they
crave this kind of expression in chat and love to talk with and meet
people who think so too...

So why shun them.. why make them feel like they are dirty, unnautural,
obscene, or not to be heard... why mute them in chat or tell them
they must leave or that people should ignore them.. you might expect
that on a swinger sight where more than half are 'anti-bi' or think
only women should be bi... the fact is... a whole lot of us
aren't MORE or LESS lesbian or MORE or LESS homosexual

we are bisexual.. and the whole scale of how STRAIGHT or GAY you are.. is insulting to the true BISEXUAL mind.

BISEXUAL is special cause so much of the word is 'SEXUAL'
and it realy means BOTH as in BIcycle = two wheels
BI-sexual.. two sexes..

So the complete bisexual seeks to share themselves with both.. at the same
time... and the opposite sex is so important to the bisexual person because
that's what makes the bisexual person.. BI ...

The misconception that a girl is MORE bi when she says NO MEN
or that GUY is VERY BI if he wants MEN more than woman...is a
misnomer, a complete misrepresentation of the true experience.

It's a gay, lesbian or straight term to justify society's discrmination
of bisexuality amoung couples who love when they can share the exprieence
together.. with either another guy or girl..and it thrills the opposite sex....
makes them so high with excitement and sexual energy... that gay, lesbian
and straight sex can't compare...can't compete... and like politics.. they
want to shun the discussion of and sharing of something they want to control.

I'm not here to make others mad or be disrespectful.. I'm here to stand up
for our ADULTHOOD and the right for us to enjoy sharing the
bisexual fantasies and desires to enjoy the ultimate human sexual experiences. You can hate me.. you can call me names and you can rally
against me and for someone who doesn't agree with the above... it's all
political.. but just look at what this board should be.. a place for
people who love to 'share' the bisexuality of a person.. the erotic, sensual
and yes.. even the naughty mental fun that makes sex fun...

What do I react to in chat? when people reject the open bisexual suggestives that often create what we came here for.. to meet people
who are erotic, sensual. bisexual minded, and don't want to be gay
or straight or exclude the opposite sex.. in fact.. they seek the oppsite
sex to join in and enjoy it with them... that's the magic and dreams of
so many couples and people who seek sexual bliss and seek friendships and
lovers and relationships that include the bisexual side of us all.

There are plenty of women who would love to have a man who understands
that she has a desire and craving for a woman AND a man.. and there are men that need a woman in their lives who can love him more because he
can open up to her and she can trully enjoy something that is so marvelous and gives her the thrill of her private life... along with the stability and love
from a man who only wants her to be his love and wants her to enjoy
something so special about sharing...

Let's enjoy this aspect of sexuality.. let's enjoy the fun of that extra
person between a couple.. that makes it a bisexual realm.

Enjoy yourselves... there are a lot of very nice and sensual couples here
that seek this just like I do...

and we like to talk about it more than football or politics or babies or
the weather.. that's why we come here.

[Long Duck Dong]

there is nothing wrong with wanting the same thing..... but have you noticed that there is a lack of ladies in the site, many of them are sick of being treated like they are second class people by other members in the site, so they have moved on...... to other places and more respectful people

all the talk about bi rooms and having the main chat turned into a room for F/F/M and M/M/F is all good and well...... but its going to be a waste of time if there is only going to be / /M and /M/M cos the ladies no longer go to chat

CSRKate is dead right, its the abuse and attacks and constant harassing of the ladies by PM in chat that is causing issues for the ladies and leaving them with no interest or desire for being in chat any way..... in the same way that orallybi4cpl went after swimmergirl until she left chat for good.....and she is not the only one

[**Peg**]

Just how many names do you have, orallybi4cpl? It's well known that you also go by Oralguy....but now you post under bihim4her as well?


keen observation there kate! although I have to admit I thought he was itchin.....remember him? ROFL (and thank you for your comments, LDD)

I'm hoping that the whiners, newcomers, namechangers, naysayers and the negatives won't be changing Drew's vision for our site any time soon :)

[æonpax]

Well I think the point was.. 'nobody' goes into those other rooms.. is quite valid... and why? cause they are 'gay' rooms not 'bi' I tend to think bi means both.
When a lady wants a man to be bi .. means...... drum roll.... that she likes him to enjoy a man with her.. as in she likes to be there when he's touching and playing with a man.. in fact she loves to 'seduce' him into it over and over cause it's very erotic for her too. it's not flip flopping at all .. it's society and people like welickit that imply a man must be one or the other.. but in society one has to appear as hetero and in private (with his girl) he can be 'bisexual' with her and a friend of theirs. {snip}


Your point is well taken. Thank you. All I can say is that a chat room like that would hold no interest to me.

[drugstore cowboy]

As a bisexual you should not need to have both genders there in order to have sex with a man or with a certain gender. I know from firsthand experience that MMF 3 ways and MFMF 4-ways can be fun but you should be comfortable enough to have sex with a man alone 1 on 1 without a woman there at all.

[mariersa]

Actually aren't choices 2 and 3 the same??

[welickit]

Has anyone else noticed how well the "Ignore" function works on this new site?

[**Peg**]

Actually aren't choices 2 and 3 the same??
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[Lisa (va)]

I get amused at coming to a bi chat site saying there should be a bisexual chat site. It is as far as I know, it can not cater to each and every individuals circumstances or there would be 20 people here, 1 in each of 20 different chat rooms. Not every one is the same or sees things as solely a one level playing field, some of us are in fact open to more than one idea.

Lisa

hugs n kisses

[csrakate]

what we need is to ignore welickit... they don't have that feature yet.. ie to be able to let the monitor delete post and ban a user from a forum
this welickit guy is so annoying..
That feature exists. It's how you got banned as Oralguy. The only feature that you seem to be missing is the ability to do it yourself. Only Drew has that ability and apparently the rest of your personas have been able to fly under the radar.

This is a bisexual site and it is here for everyone. The only requirement is to get along with others. You could always give that a try.

[welickit]

I find it funny that when this guy sent us private email he wasn't talking...."ignore". Once rejected he seemed a different individual. I didn't see his post because he is on the ignore list. Until CSRAKate quoted we hadn't seen it. No matter except I could have explained to him how to ignore us.

[DuckiesDarling]

What was odd was the whole point of the post being made is because the now banned OP wants bisexuals having sex in the main room, he doesn't want to see everyone chatting about their lives and talking with one another without being an all out orgy. There are other rooms for that but he wanted it in main room because he was afraid that people would not join him in the bedroom. Too many people are missing from chat as it is now because of this guy and the loss is felt by those of us who go in there regularly.

[darkeyes]

Seem to rememba a few all girl orgies in the main room over the years Darlin' darlin'.. well "orgies".. or wer they? Think only we girls involved know the truth of it.. do kno the guys in chat wer ver quiet through the fun an games!!!:impleased Orgies or "orgies".. they wer gud fun!!!!

[Keithism]

I have to add this. For all you single men, who think putting up that your bisexaul "under the right circumstances" get in fucking line. You are the ones that true bisexual couples rid themselves of when emails are sent. As I said, I swung (no biggie for me) but to protect the woman of our lives; you are the ones that even clubs exclude when you, when you seek entrance.

Well said!

[NoneYa]

Maybe off topic but we read between lines:

We are a both bi cpl. That’s it. No if's no and's and a whole lotta butt's. I love my wife and have for 20 years. Vise versa. We can go out and comment on who's hot and who’s not. I can say " Oh shit was he hot" or "what pretty eyes" or even "I would suck him dry." We both can speak of the same or opposite sex freely with one another. Yes we know its different for woman to speak of other woman. Its more excepted. But again we look at both Men and Woman and sometimes a midget with balloons! Haha

I do understand those in the struggle not wanting to "come out" or feel like a "FAG." I say DONT! keep your desires private if it helps. But act on them in a secure trusted way. Then no matter what DO IT AGAIN! The more you do it, the more you get "comfy" with being who you are a letting go of the social stereo types AKA Taboo's. Most if us started in fear. Once you peel that defect of character away, all you have left is fun and pure pleasure!



WOMAN: Do what ya do, society for the most part excepts it!



MEN: Be honest with yourself, then suck some cock!!! Its sexy and natural!

[*pan*]

i had responded to it with yes without thinking we already have a bisexual chat rooms lol . every one here is an adult and this is a bisexual site so any and all conversations come into play, so why the poll. conversations between men and woman, and if someone is embarrassed with their sexuality to the opposite sex and claims to be bisexual it is their baggage that needs to be attended to.