Girls who like to peg guys

[swtwtrslut]

In order not to hijack another thread, I am starting this one!:bigrin:

The idea was brought up there that girls who peg guys are basically looking at them as a pussy. And from one POV I can see where they might think this. I have had several people in chats ask me if I enjoy him being submissive to me when I do this, even going so far as to ask if I like making him the girl.

At the same time, I really don't think that is what I am doing. My partner is way not submissive, in any sense of the word. As an extremely bi female, (meaning I actually prefer sex with a woman, but enjoy cock too much to ever give it up) I have never used anything other than my own body parts and an occasional vibrating egg on another woman. I have no desire to use my strap-on with a woman. To me, a woman's body is for soft touch and taste.

When I have him either on his knees or his back, its all about his pleasure. Not that I don't enjoy it immensely. I do, I always enjoy giving him pleasure, however I do it.

So my question is twofold. What about the guys we are pegging? Do you see it as feminizing? Is it a submissive power play for you?

Also, for any bi females who have used a strap-on on both guys and girls - in that particular situation, do you feel more dominant towards one or the other?

Thanks for the input!

G

[Long Duck Dong]

ok as a male that has been pegged, its more about energy sharing ( spiritual ) a blending of the essences and spirits of each person.... we kinda * step* into the energy of the other person and become them for a time..... I know it sounds all hippy like lol....... but its more of a shamanistic approach for me.... so that way when others talk about a situation, I have a better understanding of it..

would I dress as a female and play the role of a female for my partner.... yeah, and I would also do the sub male, fem male, gay male etc roles as well but I would also play the role of a dom female as well, IE making her lay down on the bed and have her to the point where she is begging me to ride her * cock * so she can come in me.... lol.....

there are times that the *conflict * between my feminine and masculine sides is enjoyable.... IE being pegged while being in somebody...... not so much the sexual side of things, but the being caught in the middle of my body and mind trying to be one or the other *role* and it can enhance the way i react.....

mostly for me, tho its not sexual... I enjoy the emotional / mental conflict within myself, more than the sexual aspect... as to me sex is simply a exercise and unless I feel something instead, its like doing 1k push ups..... a bit like the people that talk about needing to feel a connection with somebody before they have sex with them......

my preferred position is on my back with a pillow under my lower back ( back injury from car accident ) or bent over a bed etc, ( support for the back again )....and slow, strong thrusts with plenty of talking, holding, kissing etc to add to the experience....

[cbj4162]

first, thank you for the intro to the word pegging, had not heard of it, obviously i am not doing it but, curious now!

[dafydd]

how do u hijack a thread online? hold a forward slash / next to the OPs avatar? or hold all the smileys hostage, threatenening to overuse 2 per sentence. crazy humans and there unpredictable thoughts. their aversion to concordance. deviating from the ascribed path runs ithe risk of affording new dangerous perspectives that quite frankly ruin the vibe and make us the lose our erections. interestly girls never have to worry about 'peg-flop'. a thought: the hardest fucks are from women that peg. discuss freely using only zeros and ones.

[Tunnelstar]

It excites me that a woman would peg me. Under the right conditions I'd like to try it !!

[Jobelorocks]

Well I think that the issue is that many people see feminine and submissive as synonymous in the bedroom. I don't. Anyways, when I peg a guy, I don't look at him as the "woman" or the "pussy". For me I am still the woman and he is still the man. In some positions with it, I do take a more dominant role, but I don't see dominant as masculine.

[cornholejoe]

i just like it having woman using a strapon on me its all just good fun to me and i do enjoy it :yikes2:

[welickit]

So my question is twofold. What about the guys we are pegging? Do you see it as feminizing? Is it a submissive power play for you?

Also, for any bi females who have used a strap-on on both guys and girls - in that particular situation, do you feel more dominant towards one or the other?

Not many choices in the questions above and none of them apply. It is simply an enjoyable experience that we both happen to enjoy.

[axlton]

I would tend to agree with welickit on this one for the most part it's just a mutually enjoyed experience. We do pegging with toys like the feeldoe that give pleasure to both of us. My wife has said that there is a certain sense of power that comes with it for her. And we do enjoy some Femdom/BDSM play from time to time. So there is the added power play thing, but it's not always like that for us. I don't find it in anyway feminizing when I let a man top me, much less when my wife pegs me.

Although, I'd also have to agree with LDD as contradictary as that sounds. If my wife wanted to do a total role reversal from time to time have me dress and act the part I would do it for her. It could even be hot for that matter, even though I'm not really a cross dresser. I suppose that would be one to save for the femdom scenes. :blush:

But you could probably ask 1000 people and still not get a good consensus, everybody is gonna feel a bit different about it.

[FunE1]

Sometimes I feel submissive while being pegged, but usually it's just me & my partner sharing in a different way. Largely it depends on both our moods and which of the two of us feels like taking charge at the time.

[Gearbox]

So my question is twofold. What about the guys we are pegging? Do you see it as feminizing? Is it a submissive power play for you?
To me it's simulating m-m sex. Not feminising of the male, but masculinising the female anatomically. There's no difference between two men fucking and a m&f pegging IMO.
The female becomes (in all intents and purposes) a man, while the male gets fucked as a passive bi/gay male.

That's how I see it. Not saying there's anything wrong with that (I'd have a fekin cheek to.lol). But the similarities are so blindingly obvious between m-m sex and pegging that I fail to see how the females chromosomes keeps it from being 'gay sex'. Or at least m-m role play.
NO I haven't done any pegging. Or drugs.lol I don't see prostrate stimulation as 'gay'. Am I missing something?:tongue:

[tenni]

I agree with you Gear. Insert penis(real or plastic) into hole is a male /female anatomically correct procedure since male and female was created. It doesn't matter judgmental wise and it is not be derrogatory to those that enjoy such sexual play but it is clearly a woman playing a male role whether they see themselves as still feminine or not. Anatomically you are still female Jobel but you are simulating male natural sexual aggression of inserting a penis into an orifice.

I hadn't thought about it as m/m sex act simulation but if it was in a darkened room it might be seen as two males(depends upon the size of her breasts...lol)

[Long Duck Dong]

To me it's simulating m-m sex. Not feminising of the male, but masculinising the female anatomically. There's no difference between two men fucking and a m&f pegging IMO.
The female becomes (in all intents and purposes) a man, while the male gets fucked as a passive bi/gay male.

That's how I see it. Not saying there's anything wrong with that (I'd have a fekin cheek to.lol). But the similarities are so blindingly obvious between m-m sex and pegging that I fail to see how the females chromosomes keeps it from being 'gay sex'. Or at least m-m role play.
NO I haven't done any pegging. Or drugs.lol I don't see prostrate stimulation as 'gay'. Am I missing something?:tongue:

just curious, how would you view it, if the receiver was a fem male crossdresser that wanted to be the female ......

I am asking that cos your reply puts the female in a male role, but doesn't allow the male to be in a female role, tho the responses in the thread point towards the understanding that most of the guys that like to be pegged are indeed passive gay / bi males and we do not really have a fem male crossdresser input or a male to female trans input ( the trans being the giver )

I tend to blur the lines a lil, in my thinking as if you were with a intersex female with fully working parts, does that make her a man if she is taking you anally... cos shes not really pegging you, but nor is it male / male sex, unless we exclude intersex people as a valid gender and sex and define them as either male or female.....

yes I know, I think too much ....lol.....

[swtwtrslut]

So my question is twofold. What about the guys we are pegging? Do you see it as feminizing? Is it a submissive power play for you?

Also, for any bi females who have used a strap-on on both guys and girls - in that particular situation, do you feel more dominant towards one or the other?

Not many choices in the questions above and none of them apply. It is simply an enjoyable experience that we both happen to enjoy.

The options I gave are the ones I have been asked about. None apply to me either, nor to my partner. I am curious as to how many do feel this way as well as how many do not. I see where I did not make that clear in the original post.

[swtwtrslut]

yes I know, I think too much ....lol.....


LOL! But that is why I posted the question, and I am getting a great deal of food for thought with this. Not that it is going to make me stop doing what I enjoy doing just because someone else thinks it feminizing my man, that would never happen. I am just inordinately curious about what different people with different tastes think about the same act.

Sometimes I try to put my feelings in certain boxes, say they come from this part of me or that part of me, so I post silly stuff like this to see what others think and remind myself that its not just me!

:bigrin:

[Rhevan]

Reading the responses, I must say it's interesting that so many who don't do pegging have so many wrong opinions about the sexual act. It is not simulating male on male sex, it is either playing at role reversal, energy swapping, or flat out domination/sub. Note, a female dominating a male does not make the male in any way feminine nor does it make the female masculine.

There are times in my role as a dominatrix that the request was made to be forced to surrender to my cock, to beg me to fuck them hard and deep. There have been times there were requests to be made to ride my cock as they slowly lowered themselves down proving my total power over them as they did everything to please me. There have been times that it was not anything to do with me being a dominatrix but as a lover and then it was lovemaking, and the role reversal and energy swapping came into play there. I have also used a strapon on my female partners and it is not me wanting a cock, it's just me wanting to give my partner the utmost pleasure in our lovemaking and if deep penetration with rhythmic thrusts was what she craved, it's what she got and what she gave to me. In those cases it wasn't about any control or domination or role reversing it was simply making love.

To those with the wrong ideas... if it's not your party, don't worry you weren't invited anyway :) But for those of us who regularly use strapons on partners, whether it's a female partner for making love or a male partner in several different scenarios as I outlined above, it's something we completely understand. There are more things under heaven and earth, Horatio. :2cents:

To the OP, thanks for posting this thread, the interesting responses came from those I expected, the others... well take them with a grain of salt. I find people's opinions regarding sexual acts they have no intention of ever performing to not really be worth it.

[bobble]

Agreed!

[falcondfw]

I do not see it as feminizing. I see it as role playing or just really hot & kinky role reversal. As long as both enjoy it, I say do it. And yes, sometimes I like to be submissive.

[ruttingstag]

I've often been turned on with the thought of it but my wifwon't do it. She thinks I have a gay streak because I also like to wear really sexy underwear. It makes me feel really sexy and horny when I've shaved down there.

[swmnkdinthervr]

I view pegging as an alternative to being topped, the latter would be my preference. I'm not into feminization, dressing or submissive behavior I just like the sensation...a lot!!! A lot of the guys I've talked with and much of what I've read lead me to believe that to most it is a gender/power switch mechanism. My bisexuality is neither a gender issue or sub/dom play, I just like all forms of sex!

[Jobelorocks]

Tenni- It asked how I viewed myself and that is how it is, I still view myself as the feminine one even when pegging and not necessarily the dominant or aggressive one. Sometimes that is the case depending on the position and such. I still don't view being masculine or taking the insertion role as dominant and being feminine as submissive.

[darkeyes]

To me it's simulating m-m sex. Not feminising of the male, but masculinising the female anatomically. There's no difference between two men fucking and a m&f pegging IMO.
The female becomes (in all intents and purposes) a man, while the male gets fucked as a passive bi/gay male.

That's how I see it. Not saying there's anything wrong with that (I'd have a fekin cheek to.lol). But the similarities are so blindingly obvious between m-m sex and pegging that I fail to see how the females chromosomes keeps it from being 'gay sex'. Or at least m-m role play.
NO I haven't done any pegging. Or drugs.lol I don't see prostrate stimulation as 'gay'. Am I missing something?:tongue:Doesn't really matter what its called Gear babes.. doesn't matter what if ne thing it simulates or stimulates... I have never "pegged" a guy and never shall.. nor have I ever "pegged" another woman.. not anally... an' neither have I been "pegged" by one (yep hun girls can and do do it to each other as well.. ya forgot that 1). What it's called matters not 1 jot.. wot matters is that the peeps involved, irrespective of gender have fun doin' it or havin' it done and it gives them the excitement and pleasure wich the best of sex always provides...

[a2smith09]

Wow what an interesting question. One of my best friends and I mutually discovered the joys and pleasures of oral sex together when we were 14. We practiced and enjoyed it a lot too! ;-) We also found out that we both like having our anuses tickled but we could never figure out the insertion part of it. Fast forward to my HS sweetheart. We both had a insatiable curiousity and sexual appetite, we were both mildly kinky, highly imaginative, and over sexed. We coupled like rabbits all the time. Anyway I'd go a bit south when I gave cunnilingus and tickle her bottom with my tongue. I knew from my friend and I fooling around it felt real good. My GF thought so too and it wasn't long before we tried anal. The first couple of times weren't that good but we perserved and by the third attempt we had finally figured it out and OMG fire works. Anyway she had bought a box of lingerie and sex toys at a yard sale. We had lots of fun with them. She had a couple of good vibrators, a couple of dongs and a harness.

Well we expirmented with the toys she discovered the joys of double penetration and she also started expirmenting with my backside and I found it to be extremely pleasurable. She was amazed at how rapidly I came and the force and distance of the resulting cum gushers. It wasn't long after that that she harnessed up and we both enjoyed pegging. For her I think it was more the switch and her turn for domination aspect for it that was more alluring than the submissive or fem aspect for me. We did enjoy nd practice it a lot over the next 4 years.

Well when her and her parents were away for a couple of weeks I was hanging out with my old friend one weekend when we were fooling around. I immediately brought up my sucessful explorations with my girlfriend and we both decided to give it a try. That brought forth a weekend of anal estcasy. The natural one is much better than the fake one and that being pre-AIDS days and each of us having a very limited partner total (2 for each of us, including us, & one of each sex) we weren't worried about STD's so barebacking and cum swapping was the order of the day. It was wonderful. Anyway this happy state of affairs continued for several years.

To the present. It's much the same with my wife. I think she likes the whole domination and switch aspect of it and being occasional submissive and the receptor is a nice turn of pace for me. I persoannly enjoy the larger feeldoes and love the way the black one looks on her as she prances around and strokes it. She wears a garter belt, stocking, and heels and she looks sexy. Also she gets real excited. She's got a nice set of D's so she doesn't look like a guy either. We just have fun and enjoy it immensely. It helps that I'm bi and been doing this a while and have no hangups with it. I really enjoy it and she can get into it so its a very pleasant change of place and roles for both of us.

[Gearbox]

just curious, how would you view it, if the receiver was a fem male crossdresser that wanted to be the female ......

I am asking that cos your reply puts the female in a male role, but doesn't allow the male to be in a female role, tho the responses in the thread point towards the understanding that most of the guys that like to be pegged are indeed passive gay / bi males and we do not really have a fem male crossdresser input or a male to female trans input ( the trans being the giver )

I tend to blur the lines a lil, in my thinking as if you were with a intersex female with fully working parts, does that make her a man if she is taking you anally... cos shes not really pegging you, but nor is it male / male sex, unless we exclude intersex people as a valid gender and sex and define them as either male or female.....

yes I know, I think too much ....lol.....
I'd see it as a female taking the male role and screwing a CD just like two males.lol
With an inter-sex female using her real cock to take a bloke anally, I'd compare that to m-m sex too. How could I not?

Lets say Bob & Tina are laying in bed one day and Bob has a great idea. "Lets simulate M-M sex with me as the passive/bottom!".
"Frikin great idea!", says Tina as she goes and gets her strap on dildo.
WHY some have a problem with that, I don't know. It's not a crime.lol

@Rheven - What are you talking about? You wear and use a strap on dildo to pleasure men & women, but it's not about you wanting a cock? So your swapping your vagina for a cock against your will?

There are times in my role as a dominatrix that the request was made to be forced to surrender to my cock, to beg me to fuck them hard and deep. There have been times there were requests to be made to ride my cock as they slowly lowered themselves down proving my total power over them as they did everything to please me. There have been times that it was not anything to do with me being a dominatrix but as a lover and then it was lovemaking, and the role reversal and energy swapping came into play there. I have also used a strapon on my female partners and it is not me wanting a cock, it's just me wanting to give my partner the utmost pleasure in our lovemaking and if deep penetration with rhythmic thrusts was what she craved, it's what she got and what she gave to me. In those cases it wasn't about any control or domination or role reversing it was simply making love.
Yes. Just like a MALE dom with a real COCK that gives pleasure with their COCK which you are mimicking! Now correct me if I'm wrong, as I'm not in the 'pegging party', but isn't your vagina absolutely useless and redundant to your partner for that particular kind of sex? And that's why you use a strapon dildo, because it's ALL about what you do with the simulated MALE genitalia (which is a COCK) and nothing to do with your FEMALE genitalia (which is a vagina)?

Experiencing sex the way a male dom does, is lovely. You get to fuck the males masculinity as you fuck his ass with your masculine 'powerful' cock. Just as you describe, and as in M-M sex.

@Fran- Yes I know.lol I want a strapon vagina for Xmas so I can have 'straight sex' with men and lesbian sex with women.lol Hope your not overindulging there? It was a HUGE mistake to leave eggs lying around here.

[tenni]

"I still don't view being masculine or taking the insertion role as dominant and being feminine as submissive."

Jobel
I can understand this perspective from a woman who uses a strap on. It makes sense that is how you might see it. It also makes sense that you are in fact you are "playing" the masculine role of inserting a penis into your partner. Whether a man who inserts his penis is being perceived as submissive doesn't make sense though. Dominance is taking controlling power or influence over others. Regardless of the gender the person doing the insertion is generally seen as being dominant sexually. You are reversing the sexual traditional roles. This must have all started when Eve told Adam that she wanted to sit on top and fuck him. She found it more pleasurable and in control of her own orgasm:tongue::yikes2:..lol ?

"For her I think it was more the switch and her turn for domination aspect for it that was more alluring than the submissive or fem aspect for me."
I think that this make sense to me.

"I persoannly enjoy the larger feeldoes and love the way the black one looks on her as she prances around and strokes it. She wears a garter belt, stocking, and heels and she looks sexy. Also she gets real excited. She's got a nice set of D's so she doesn't look like a guy either."

Although politically incorrect, she seems to be acting as a sexually active "she male" in the porn sense. Since it is reported that transwomen do not enjoy their penis but the myth of she males show that such people with breasts and a happily functioning penis maybe she is role playing being the mythical she male?

Oh, my Gear a strap on vagina? LOL Two bi guys with strap on vaginas could intersperse "scissoring" with "frot"...lol ;) If they scissored their strap on vagg's would they be role playing being lesbians?

Its all role play and pleasure though.:impleased:suave::love87::love87: (Oh look is this female icon topping the guy? I don't see her strap on though. We need a new icon here drew ;)

[Tunnelstar]

Love to have you peg me. It sounds exciting. I will then know how all the woman I had felt.

[swtwtrslut]

Wow. Lots of great responses!

Darkeyes - I honestly have never known two women who indulged in anal sex with each other. Obviously it is possible, just had not occurred in my sphere, so never thought of it! That would bring another POV entirely into the act!:) And gives me something to suggest next time I am with a woman I trust that much. :bigrin:

Jobel - I feel much the same as you there. Its not masculine or dominant to me. I have been dominant in relation to male subs before, there is a definite power play there that is completely missing with my partner.

swmnkdinthervr - he says that is pretty much it for him too, he just enjoys all the different things we do, does not think about why! I just love to analyze things! Musta been a Freudian in a previous life! LOL!

[darkeyes]

Wow. Lots of great responses!

Darkeyes - I honestly have never known two women who indulged in anal sex with each other. Obviously it is possible, just had not occurred in my sphere, so never thought of it! That would bring another POV entirely into the act!:) And gives me something to suggest next time I am with a woman I trust that much. :bigrin:


I will be honest with u hun, I have no idea how prevalent any form of anal penetration is.. but do know several women who indulge with women.. most, heterosexual, bisexual or lesbian as far as they tell me, have not and never shall with anyone and I know of only two who have admitted to indulging in the sport of "pegging" their man. Now, we know that many women like many men, will simply not be truthful in all of the things they do with their partners, so the true extent of "pegging" (man or woman), being "pegged" and even the extent of women consenting to anal sex with men is a difficult thing to gauge..but that all of these things go on there can be no doubt. I suspect that outside of men anally penetrating women with the penis, in this country at least "pegging" of any kind is not as common as many would wish although it may well be more common than we know. It goes on in all its forms that's for sure. From my knowledge, I don't even think that penile penetration of women anally is as common as many would wish but it is more common, or at least more often admitted to than when I began my sexual adventure and this leads me to suspect it is on the increase even allowing for the fact that many women almost certainly keep quiet about it... all of these things can be seen in porn, and the more easily available porn on the net may well have something to do with the fact that we discuss it, people desire it and indulge in it more than was once the case.. but tbh, I can't honestly say...

What I do know is that rimming and fingering of the bum is more common nowadays among all groups than 18 years ago when I first had sex.. or at least more readily admitted to.. even between two women. It is more common, or seems to be than actual penetration or "pegging" by strap on. The exception to this seems to be the lesbian community where we find most resistance to anal play.. this doesn't mean some lesbians do not indulge for some do, it simply means that in my experience, lesbians seem to be most resistant to the idea and most reluctant to participate. Whether these observations are the same from country to country I have no idea.. there are bound to be national differences as their are in all things.. and within nations, regional and area differences also exist in what people like to do to each other sexually..

Everything I say is unscientific I admit and based only on my knowledge of the many women of all sexualities I know or have known both sexually or just known as friends or acquaintances and have discussed these issues with. Men no doubt may well see things differently based on their experience and about that I make no comment.. suffice to say some women do like "pegging" their man, and some do like "pegging" or being "pegged" by their woman.. and good luck to all of them... what matters is that whatever any of us do is consensual, safe, pleasurable and great fun...

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

lol Whatever way, its all good, Darlings. Trust me. Its empowering, exciting, arousing, and I Love to provide whatever lover I am with with these feelings and sesations. Whether its role play, wanting to be Dommed over, or just plain wanting to experiament with life...dont over think it, just do it and enjoy it..:}
Cat

[Long Duck Dong]

I'd see it as a female taking the male role and screwing a CD just like two males.lol
With an inter-sex female using her real cock to take a bloke anally, I'd compare that to m-m sex too. How could I not?

Lets say Bob & Tina are laying in bed one day and Bob has a great idea. "Lets simulate M-M sex with me as the passive/bottom!".
"Frikin great idea!", says Tina as she goes and gets her strap on dildo.
WHY some have a problem with that, I don't know. It's not a crime.lol


I can see what you are saying and it makes sense...... but it makes anybody that has a cock or imitation, automatically the * male *... and that is where pre op trans and intersex females had issues.... as the intersex female is not a male just cos they were born with a cock and cocks are not a male only domain cos of that aspect.... and it makes the act of penetration automatically male...... but the part that I find interesting.... is that it doesn't make the bottom / reciever automatically female.. and receiving anal is something that females can do and the act of penetration is normally a feminine aspect ....

[Rhevan]

@Gear, no I'm not swapping anything and nothing goes to waste when I do my bedroom games. You insist that it has to be a female wanting to be male, you just can't see that it is about so much more than that. You have openly admitted this is not something you have experience with, so we are trying to share our experience and being told "no, you are wrong, I'm right end of story", but we are the ones with the experience from all sides of the issue of strapons and pegging and for me personally, the domination aspect. People used to pay me to dominate them, Gear. I retired from the actual line of work but not from the play itself. Anytime you wanna pop on over to Chicago and I'll happily make you feel like a woman if that's what you want or I'll make you surrender as a male. Either way works for me :) I guess the point being, don't knock it if you haven't tried it. It makes about as much sense as other people's homophobia regarding same sex contact.

[Jobelorocks]

See, actually with pegging, I do not like the dildo attachments to look like penises at all. The less they look like a penis, the better. I am still feminine and the male is masculine. I really don't see my strap-on and dildo as a surrogate penis. That is just me. Different people use this play in different ways and see it different ways. Some guys want to be feminized, some don't. Sometimes it really is just about another way to stimulate that prostrate gland. Some want to be dominated, some don't. Some guys want to be pegged due to same-sex fantasies, some don't. Just because you see something as one way, doesn't mean that is how someone else will. Sexuality is so diverse and personalized that you can't narrow an activity like pegging as a man who wants to be feminized and dominated.

[nutme]

I find the word (term) moronic. Sounds like two silly ass 14 year olds laughing about farting.

[Gearbox]

@Rhevan - I'm not starting a campaign to ban pegging because of the illegal use of a cock or something.LOL! Just trying to understand what it's about. I can't do that personally because I don't get any joy from my prostrate.:( Tried a cock up there twice, and nothing! Maybe 3rd time lucky though?:tongue:
But as a dom male, how you describe domming a bloke while pegging is very similar if not exactly the same thing. So you can see why I'd view it as m-m role-play?
I'd be sure to bring gallons of lube with me to Chicago.LOL!

@Jobelorocks - Is it possible to feminise the penis? That's what I don't get.:oh:

[Jobelorocks]

Gearbox- What do you mean by feminizing a penis? I didn't say anything about feminizing a penis. If you are referring to me saying that some guys want to be feminized, I was talking about they like pegging because they want to play the "female" role. Some gay men are only bottoms and I am sure some of them want to play a "female" role, while others don't see themselves that way just because they are a "bottom", why should it be any different with pegging? I am unsure if you can feminize a penis, but you sure as heck can feminize a dildo. Mine look very little like penises, they have no heads, they are smooth, one is pink and kind of sparkly and the other is purple. This one looks something like the dildos that I use .... http://www.edenfantasys.com/dildos/strap-on-dildos/sedeux-glam .

[darkeyes]

Gearbox- What do you mean by feminizing a penis? I didn't say anything about feminizing a penis. If you are referring to me saying that some guys want to be feminized, I was talking about they like pegging because they want to play the "female" role. Some gay men are only bottoms and I am sure some of them want to play a "female" role, while others don't see themselves that way just because they are a "bottom", why should it be any different with pegging? I am unsure if you can feminize a penis, but you sure as heck can feminize a dildo. Mine look very little like penises, they have no heads, they are smooth, one is pink and kind of sparkly and the other is purple. This one looks something like the dildos that I use .... http://www.edenfantasys.com/dildos/strap-on-dildos/sedeux-glam .Gear is Welsh, Jobe.. ya havta make allowances.. tee hee. They do kno a lot 'bout sheep tho.. ;)

Soz Gear babes.. cudnt resist!!! Muaaaaaaaaaahh!

[Gearbox]

LOL! I meant the dildo Jobelorocks. I know that one is purple and sort of undefined, but it still looks like a cock to me.:bigrin:
And if it was poking out from the thighs of a woman, I'd have to be blind not to see the similarities with a bloke with a hard on.lol
Yes men who bottom can either be playing a fem role or a masc role. Both genders can be penetrated, so it's not that difficult. But when they top, would that also be open to a fem role?:stoned:

[Jobelorocks]

Gear, to answer your question, sure why not? I really don't know that much about it due to the fact I am not a man, but I don't see why they couldn't be playing the feminine role while being the penetrator. Both genders are able to be penetrated and it is really only our culture that says being penetrated is the "feminine" role. There are plenty of gay male couples that will show that isn't true. They are men with men who want are attracted to and want to be with men. No femininity needed.

See, I really don't see my dildos as masculine at all and I want ones that look as little like a penis as possible, but what other shape can something be that is long and cylindrical that slides nicely inside an anus or vagina ? Practically speaking, it is "penis-like" in shape because that is what fits best in the orifices.I know they are sticking out between my legs like an erect penis, but I just don't fancy using them on other's manually so much and want to put my body into it so to speak. I guess I could get one that is strapped somewhere else, but that seems like the most practical place to put it. I don't see it as a penis at all. Whether I am penetrating a man or woman I never really see myself as taking a "masculine" role.

[tenni]

Well, this is somewhat interesting to read the views as to why women would want to peg a man. It is a little difficult to think that it is just to please the man but in part I can see that. It seems more logical that it has to do with power, dominance. Its interesting that jobel prefers that the "tool" not look like a penis. If you do not see the strap on as a penis what do you see it as? It is a sex toy that is for sure. Oh, I just read your last post.

Men who do not wish to be penetrated don't get this..well I don't. I can understand that the man can get his prostrate massaged and enjoy it. Other than clitoral stimulation what are the benefits for a woman? There seems to be some psychological rationale other than wanting to please their male partner. I do understand doing things to help your partner enjoy sex regardless of their gender though. That seems to be it?..that is your rationale?

[Jobelorocks]

tenni- Well, for me it is a lot about pleasing my partner. Pegging gets me wet like nothing else. It doesn't make me orgasm or anything (generally my pegging sessions are accompanied by my partner stimulating me in other ways), but I really enjoy it. I like using a strap-on on men and women. I really get extreme satisfaction getting my sexual partners off. I guess that is really all that I enjoy about it. It certainly gives me no clitoral stimulation. The mind plays a very big role in my sexual arousal and sexual satisfaction. If my partner seems not to be enjoying themself, I really won't be enjoying myself either.

[Tunnelstar]

I found a site that has data base of woman who like to peg men.

www.straponsingles.com

[needdickloving]

I love it when the girl i am with straps one on me. I like the control of her cock going in and out of me.. wish there were more

[Rhevan]

@Rhevan - I'm not starting a campaign to ban pegging because of the illegal use of a cock or something.LOL! Just trying to understand what it's about. I can't do that personally because I don't get any joy from my prostrate.:( Tried a cock up there twice, and nothing! Maybe 3rd time lucky though?:tongue:
But as a dom male, how you describe domming a bloke while pegging is very similar if not exactly the same thing. So you can see why I'd view it as m-m role-play?
I'd be sure to bring gallons of lube with me to Chicago.LOL!

Well, Gear, lube would definitely help unless I was punishing you for something and then I'd withhold the lube :) Sorry, you don't get any pleasure from your prostrate, have you tried just normal massage rather than using toys? Yes, pegging a male with a strap CAN be very much like a dom male doing anal on a male. The key factor is the submission to the female dominant, it's a mind play for the sub that just can't be adequately expressed unless you are familiar with the scene. It's more mental sex than physical sex at times and there are various types of scenes that can be played that make it a pleasure for all involved.

[uounkhkl]

There is a funny comedy- "Young people fucking":
http://video.soha.vn/watch/5/video/1046345/phim-video-clip-Young-People-Fucking-06-Blog-tanhthi.html

But the funnest is- men from Stimulation prostate and seminal vesigle- could have best orgasm- full body orgasm (like a women).
But 90% don't do it- it's a gay things.

Better orgasm is when they connect anal and penis stimulation at the same time, like:
http://www.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?8052-quot-Lucky-Pierre-quot-threesome-with-a-men-in-the-middle-QUESTION

So when a man have waginal sex with one women, the other could peg him...

[Gearbox]

Well, Gear, lube would definitely help unless I was punishing you for something and then I'd withhold the lube :) Sorry, you don't get any pleasure from your prostrate, have you tried just normal massage rather than using toys? Yes, pegging a male with a strap CAN be very much like a dom male doing anal on a male. The key factor is the submission to the female dominant, it's a mind play for the sub that just can't be adequately expressed unless you are familiar with the scene. It's more mental sex than physical sex at times and there are various types of scenes that can be played that make it a pleasure for all involved.
It probably is as Tenni said 'beyond someone who doesn't get the desire to be topped'. I was expecting everything to kick in and that would get me to want it.lol Haven't tried toys because the thought doesn't register. I can't associate it with sex. BUT I was fingered by surprise once, and that was nice.lol So like you say, it's more mental than physical. What I need is a dom woman who wouldn't take any crap off me.;)

Thanks Jobelorocks.

[tenni]

In my own particular case, I have no interest in receiving anal. I have no interest in being submissive and in particular that way. I was stage 3 pre cancer at one point and within months of full on colon cancer. I'm ok now and back to less frequent check ups but I'm not messing around down there. I might be curious enough to be rimmed one day but that is a different page.

I still am inclined to think that dominance plays a factor for some women who enjoy pegging. I enjoy taking the lead and pleasing my partners too whether they are female or male. They are not exclusive to each other. I don't mind a woman taking the lead at times but that is not connected to penetrating me.

[Tunnelstar]

Love it when a woman takes the dominant role but will always be the man.

[Sammysaid]

Having being pegged I don't feel like I'm being submissive or anything. We do it cuz it excites us both. Now we have used her strap on but we have found a new way for us both to enjoy it. She uses a double headed dildo that is curved In a wide u shape she inserts one end into her, either hole, and the other end in me. She holds on to the toy and we each get the most pleasure out of it. That is what sex is all about.

[fubar13]

Well, as a masculine male who enjoys being on the bottom, to me it's all about the moment, sometimes i like to be in charge, sometimes i like my partner to take charge, & sometimes i wanna be the meat in a sandwich. I have never been accused of being feminine or submissive...Just goes back to the old saying, If it feels good, DO IT !!! I've never felt feminized & never looked at the couple i was with as being dominant...just doing what feels good...end of story...lol...:2cents:

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

*Grins lecherously @ Gear* lol Ohhh Darlin, the things I'd show You...lol
Grinning Cat

[bicuriousinmi]

I would add that sometimes a guy just likes the feeling of insertion because we all know that there is a lot of feeling back there. From experience, toys and other inanimate objects are definitely a turn on but it is difficult to concentrate on that feeling when you are the one doing the insertions. By having the female with the strapon however the guy can just lay back and enjoy and focus on the tremendous amount of pleasure she is giving him. Its not very often the guy is given opportunity to "just lay there". No pressure to "perform". i bet all men would enjoy it...they are just afraid to ask her to do it....

[cornholejoe]

well call it pegging but i just call it what it is buttfucking and there is no debate on it you like it or you dont i enjoy it since my late wife done it to me over 30 years ago its no big deal either you like it or you dont

[Jessicaknight]

I think of myself as a Gay/Bi male

Although as a bi guy I love women and men
The truth about me is I'm Gay first, then Bi

I enjoy sex with women (or being top) but my all time turn on is being Bottom. I enjoy being plesured analy so most of my encounters are always with men.
If a woman is into Pegging then it makes it much more fulfilling for me.
I don't feel feminized by a female fucking me I just feel sexualy completed

[bi4asplay]

From the ladies that have pegged me they seem to agree totally with Jobelrocks. Though I love it I am really as far away as you can get from Fem. One lady that I lived and played with for a couple of years, would always dress in her sexyest things when she wanted to peg me. The first time she did it she said that it gave her a feeling of power like she had never had.She got off several times doing me.Though it may sound contrary to that feeling, she said she never had the feeling of being the Dom. In fact everytime we did it she asked , can I fuck you, is this Ok with you, Is this good for you, is this the way that you like it? It was not she is the male I am the female. It was two sexually open minded people doing what thier partner likes.

[falcondfw]

tenni- Well, for me it is a lot about pleasing my partner. Pegging gets me wet like nothing else. It doesn't make me orgasm or anything (generally my pegging sessions are accompanied by my partner stimulating me in other ways), but I really enjoy it. I like using a strap-on on men and women. I really get extreme satisfaction getting my sexual partners off. I guess that is really all that I enjoy about it. It certainly gives me no clitoral stimulation. The mind plays a very big role in my sexual arousal and sexual satisfaction. If my partner seems not to be enjoying themself, I really won't be enjoying myself either.

Oh you evil minx, you. Do you have any idea how lucky your hubby is?

[bi4asplay]

As for me, I do not feel fem when I am being pegged. As far as I know none of the ladies I have played with in this manner were making me fem. I am a very masc guy that loves the feeling of a toy or a cock inside of me.

[biinlou]

I do not care what they call it, or read into it. I believe that it is way too personal to make sweeping generalizations, about the guy being "Manly" vs. "Girly". It is highly based on a combination of factors. Fucking is fucking...............whatever you read into it is between those involved.

[SabrinasSlave]

I like being taken with a strapon (don't like the term pegging) and I am bi, and I like being feminized. I feel very feminine when she fucks me and I like it. It makes me fee closer to her.

Thing is, she is not a true domme. She plays the role, but I have never been with a true domme. She and I would really like to have me be with one while she watches and/or participates and learns.

We also would like to find a regular bi boyfriend for both of us. Or a bi couple.

[kscupl]

We have been doing this for a couple of years and both of us enjoy it very much. We're both a little submissive, but when she pulls out the strap on, she takes an entirely different role. We like the double strap on where we both get penetration, but really it's all about my pleasure. :) She really enjoys the occasional stint of really being in control and isn't afraid to get the belt out while bending me over. She calls it "pay back time" and I love being submissive for her.

[Neils]

My ex-wife really enjoyed strapping one on and riding me. It turned her on to see me getting it like how I'd give it to her. She was a mix of liking the femdom role a little bit, and pride in making me shoot like a fricking volcano. But like many women have said, she couldn't get any stimulation for her bits via the strapon. this was before the feeldoe.

My first gf after the divorce was so not into anything that was not plain vanilla. I found out when we went into an adult shop together, and we passed a mannequin with a harness and modest dildo on it. She stared, smirked, rolled her eyes and said, "how ridiculous is that?!" She was totally expecting me to agree with her. She had that look on her face, like, "..amirite?" Instead I deflected her and said, "oh yeah? wait til you see this," and pointed her at the Jenna Jameson vibrating pussy and ass torso thing, which she found hysterical and moved on from there. dodged that bullet.

We never went back to the strapon question thankfully. No matter, we were done in three months.

OT: It's so cool to be able to be in a conversation like this. I've only been a member for a few days now, but I feel at home....like I belong, and I finally can express openly this stuff I've been keeping secret for so fricking long :)

[firebird19]

Don't go to sleep Guy's . It look like there are some women that are armed and dangerest !
Its all in fun and games , and the feeling of what you want !

[ErosUrge]

lots and lots of comments and thoughts about this...always nice to come to the site and see all the various comments and experiences too.

I would have to agree with many who commented that it doesn't matter whether one feels more feminized or masculine, etc etc etc....that the pleasure one derives from the experience is the most important thing.

I will say though that I have felt very feminine when I'm being pegged by a woman or fucked by a man...and I LOVE it. Obviously not having a vagina, but based on the intensity of sensations from receiving anal and my prostate being stimulated, it's made me wonder what it might feel like to have a vagina too...

By feeling feminine when I receive anal, it doesn't mean that I am effeminate in my daily and social behavior. It's only in those moments of getting pegged by a woman or fucked by a guy....

[chyx&dyx]

my late wife used her strap-on on me several times. we both enjoyed it alot. however neither of us thought of me as a pussy or fem,nor thought of her as a butch. it was just an awesome part of our sex life.

[wifekinky4husband]

Somy question is twofold. What about the guys we are pegging? Do you see it asfeminizing? Is it a submissive power play for you?

Also, for any bi females who have used a strap-on on both guys and girls - inthat particular situation, do you feel more dominant towards one or the other?

Thanks for the input!G

I begin anal play on my husband because I knew it would feel good. The immense pleasure I receive from anal was something I wanted to share with him so I slowly introduced him to it. Over time he relaxed and went with it, now thanking me for not only the massive but also multi orgasms he has.

It has never been about anything but pleasing each other and watching each other do ourselves or getting done.

We do not over complicate, it is as simple as we do it because we enjoy it, we love to watch it because it gets us off. It’s Hot, it looks & feels AMAZing, and brings about Massive Multi-Orgasms!

[firebird19]

What ever , to be pleased or to please ! What ever feel good ! ! ! ! ! ! The Norm or not ! ! ! ! ! !

[bi4asplay]

Rhevan
I can not agree more with you.I( was looking for a way to say just want you have here.Thanks you gave my brain a rest.

[michael6686]

I have had a "being pegged" fantasy for a long time and then last summer, I met a woman who also had that fantasy. We went to the toy store and bought a strap-on for her to use on me and more lube. It was an awesome experience for both of us, since the strap-on has a small dildo and an egg vibrator for her pleasure too! Now to find another girl like her that doesn't have a boyfriend...

[Asspussy302]

I don't feel in any way feminized when being pegged. Every woman I have ever been pegged by did it cause its fun, kinky and most important because they wanted to please me.

[hotrodrum]

I am a straight male that met a girl at a bar one night and she told me her fantasy was that she wanted to peg a guy and I am adventurous so I let her do me.She used a big 9" one and it hurt at first but after a while I got used to it and it started to feel so good, she fucked me for about an hour and afterwards let me fuck her ass. This was a first time for me and it was incredible on both counts. I have been seeking a girl since that would do me. I am not looking for guys, I am not attracted to them, I love women and hope to find a girl that would be interested in doing me in the Dallas Tx area if there are any of you interested in this, just contact me.

[bigtime2013]

no submissive power play just enjoyable sex

[pegme1]

Any girls in the chicago area that want to peg a guy ? Message me :)

[bi4asplay]

See, actually with pegging, I do not like the dildo attachments to look like penises at all. The less they look like a penis, the better. I am still feminine and the male is masculine. I really don't see my strap-on and dildo as a surrogate penis. That is just me. Different people use this play in different ways and see it different ways. Some guys want to be feminized, some don't. Sometimes it really is just about another way to stimulate that prostrate gland. Some want to be dominated, some don't. Some guys want to be pegged due to same-sex fantasies, some don't. Just because you see something as one way, doesn't mean that is how someone else will. Sexuality is so diverse and personalized that you can't narrow an activity like pegging as a man who wants to be feminized and dominated.

You are so right. I love what it does to my P spot( prostate). I have never felt the least bit Fem and none of the ladies I have played with were into making me so. Hell I am riding one right now. Am I trying to feminize myself. I am an Alpha male that just happens too love the feel of a toy inside of me, when I lady has it strapped on, more than any other way. Right now I am just enjoying the feeling of fullness and the pressure against my P spot.

[Biboz49]

In order not to hijack another thread, I am starting this one!:bigrin:

The idea was brought up there that girls who peg guys are basically looking at them as a pussy. And from one POV I can see where they might think this. I have had several people in chats ask me if I enjoy him being submissive to me when I do this, even going so far as to ask if I like making him the girl.

At the same time, I really don't think that is what I am doing. My partner is way not submissive, in any sense of the word. As an extremely bi female, (meaning I actually prefer sex with a woman, but enjoy cock too much to ever give it up) I have never used anything other than my own body parts and an occasional vibrating egg on another woman. I have no desire to use my strap-on with a woman. To me, a woman's body is for soft touch and taste.

When I have him either on his knees or his back, its all about his pleasure. Not that I don't enjoy it immensely. I do, I always enjoy giving him pleasure, however I do it.

So my question is twofold. What about the guys we are pegging? Do you see it as feminizing? Is it a submissive power play for you?

Also, for any bi females who have used a strap-on on both guys and girls - in that particular situation, do you feel more dominant towards one or the other?

Thanks for the input!

G
Cool thread.
To answer your first question, for me it's not a feminizing or submissive thing it's just for my pleasure and my partners. Just another way of enjoying sex.

To answer your second question, and this answer applies to a woman who I dated years ago. My current partner and I have not explored pegging (yet). She got very hot watching gay porn where one guy was f**king another. She also got very hot sliding a dildo into my ass. It was just something that really got her going. She also wanted to watch another guy f**king me.

[bi4asplay]

In order not to hijack another thread, I am starting this one!:bigrin:

The idea was brought up there that girls who peg guys are basically looking at them as a pussy. And from one POV I can see where they might think this. I have had several people in chats ask me if I enjoy him being submissive to me when I do this, even going so far as to ask if I like making him the girl.

At the same time, I really don't think that is what I am doing. My partner is way not submissive, in any sense of the word. As an extremely bi female, (meaning I actually prefer sex with a woman, but enjoy cock too much to ever give it up) I have never used anything other than my own body parts and an occasional vibrating egg on another woman. I have no desire to use my strap-on with a woman. To me, a woman's body is for soft touch and taste.

When I have him either on his knees or his back, its all about his pleasure. Not that I don't enjoy it immensely. I do, I always enjoy giving him pleasure, however I do it.

So my question is twofold. What about the guys we are pegging? Do you see it as feminizing? Is it a submissive power play for you?

Also, for any bi females who have used a strap-on on both guys and girls - in that particular situation, do you feel more dominant towards one or the other?

Thanks for the input!

G
One of the ladies that have pegged me did cum several times while pegging me the first time. She wanted to do it at least one time a week for the couple of years we were together. She said it gave her such a sense of power. None that I have played with seemed to think that I was submissive that I know of. All but one lady wanted to and did it more than one time. She also got off doing it but did not want to again.

[berryhard]

I had a g/f who like to peg me. It was something we both wanted. She likes anal, cums from it. Wanted to share the experience with me. I loved it! I Came hard when she ‘fucked’ me. I didn’t feel feminine at all. Still a man, just exploring sexual experiences. An open mind is a good thing in bed ! More men should be open minded and try ITC, it’s amazig. Being taken that way is different and she and I both felt new things not to mention the best orgasms ever.

[void()]

... for me it's not a feminizing or submissive thing it's just for my pleasure and my partners. Just another way of enjoying sex. ...

Think I would fall into this same sentiment. Know I've protested of not using toys in the past. Have seen a bit of pegging porn and even if it is a bit submissive, it's no more so than letting another guy f**k you in the ass. I think if you're with someone you enjoy being with then all the labels kind of fall away.

[Radlatino]

45, Bi M, westmont IL, would like to find a FWBs who enjoys clean fun. Enjoys, foreplay, 69, making out, Jo. And can help de-virinizing my ass. Is that you?