Polyamory In The (Mainstream) News

[Brian]

From the Globe and Mail (Canada), Friday September 21 2012:

When the new Canadian census figures were released this week, there was a lot of talk about the rise in single-person households, as well as same-sex pairings and unmarried couples with children. But another variety of domestic arrangement continues to fly below the radar of demographics: those that involve more than two adult romantic partners.
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http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/relationships/polyamory-threes-or-fours-or-fives-company/article4560587/

- Drew :paw:

ps. And the article is currently the most viewed item on the paper's website too.

[Long Duck Dong]

what I noticed, and it was something of interest to me, is the remark in the article about how philanderers and pick up artists were generally not welcome in the community.... that is something that would resonate with me, as a poly relationship for me, would not be about sex with multiple partners but more the emotional and mental aspects of the relationship with multiple people

I am more of a community living style person tho, like a functional household where everybody has their own personal skills, abilities, contributions and yes, their own opinions and beliefs, where sex with everybody is optional, not a obligation, and personal relationships and boundaries are respected.......as its the people as a whole that would be of interest to me, not just who is warming my bed every night.....

I will admit that polyamorous people have always been of interest to me, as the dynamics of their relationships are very different to that of a monogamous couple or a couple that are interested only in the primary relationship but having multiple sexual encounters.... and often the poly relationship falls outside of the * guidelines * of relationships as many people understand relationships to be..... rather than 3+ people in a relationship where everybody is separate, there is often a connection and functional cohesiveness that actually bind the people together as a * unit * rather than separates them......

the idea that polyamory is immoral and on a par with incest and bestiality ??? lmao.... thats like saying that home cooked burgers are on a par with a salad at mc'D's... and I am not sure what logic, rick the dick santorum and judge scalia are using, but their remarks come across more as fear filled concern that the world that they know, will end if other people love and are loved by others... and I think they need to google the meaning of doing it doggie style, stroking a pussy and spanking the monkey......lol

some aspects of polyamory are not for me... but the general conception of polyamory is something that is a natural aspect of some peoples lives and I admire people that enter into triads / quads etc and get them working well.... its a far better thing to be loved by many for the person that you are, than desired and lusted after for the person you are not....

[tenni]

Hey Drew
Thanks for posting this. I read it before it was posted.

One of the G&M comment section dealt with the concept of family. What constitutes a family or bonding would be more like it.

The Canadian census reported the shifting of the population. More and more people are living common law as opposed to nuclear family. More people are living on their own.

Times they are a changing as always. Tolerance of Polyamory is increasing but it is just the beginning I think for public discourse.

Some quotes that I like are from the director.

"“I made this show for monogamous, mainstream people who are in traditional relationships, who don’t know they have an option, who feel like they’re stuck – or they’re cheating secretly or they’re about to break up,” she says. “Why is it that we can only marry one person if we love multiple people? Who decided that?”"

"The majority of the women in the sample identified as bisexual (68 per cent), while bisexual men are less frequent (39 per cent) and exclusive homosexuals are rare (3.9 per cent for women and 2.9 per cent for men)."

The exact passage referred to by LDD is below.

"Dr. Sheff says that despite the pronounced importance of gender equality to polyamorists, it’s not unusual for men to be drawn to it because they believe that it will lead to easy sex or sex with multiple women.But philanderers and pickup artists have a difficult time meeting the emotional demands of a polyamorous lifestyle and are eventually turned off – or ostracized – by the community."