Bi-location

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

On the front page, there's a section that shows one's town and local vacinity. Most of it is filled with couples looking for a third for a good sexual romp. That's all fine and dandy, most Bi couples are looking for that kind of fun. But did you ever notice that there arent many Single Bi Females on such lists?
For instance: The list that advertises folks in out area consists of couples, Bi men looking for first time experiences, men cheating on their wives looking to score some cock, but not many single bi women. Shauni and I are the only ones on our list that are single females. (Beautiful, sexy lady BTW. (Winks lecherously at Shauni)

I guess we're a stereo-type. Either that or we're the only ones bold enough to step up and be Us. Oh well..life happens..:}
Cat

[Long Duck Dong]

lol cat, its the same where I live, a lot of the single bi females do not advertise themselves either in sites or in public and most of them say its because of the way they are treated by males, IE unwanted comments, propositions, remarks and yes even insults, and its not the first time I have heard of this issue...... there are a few bi ladies that have asked for * protection * when they are out on the town cos of unwanted attention ( the local night club doorman / bouncers / barmen are a example and there are a few guys that are also willing to help by stepping in as escorts with no strings attached at all )

I have heard remarks like its easier for the bi ladies as they can pick and choose their partners where as guys can't ( never heard a female make that remark, only guys ) but a lot of the bi females that I know, are sick of being seen as easy fucks or ladies that will sleep with anybody.... and tho I know a few like that, the majority of the bi ladies I know are ladies of discernment... they enjoy their sexual experiences and the company of the people they are with... and hate being treated like call girls.....

the trouble is that its the males with cocks for brains that have made the site ( and other places ) a awkward experience for many single bi ladies and at times ladies in committed relationships, and I am only too well aware that there are a good number of bi gentlemen that are lamenting the quietness of the bi ladies... but I know from experience that a gentleman will attract attention as a person that respects the ladies as the ladies have a word of mouth network that works very well.... so rumour has it :tongue:

however, you are not the only bi lady in the site that has mentioned they are having trouble finding other bi ladies that are looking for a good time with good people.... and thats something that stands out when its the ladies that are saying it, not the guys....lol

honestly tho I am curious how other bi ladies may see the situation and their reasoning for it.....

[tenni]

"The list that advertises folks in out area consists of couples, Bi men looking for first time experiences, men cheating on their wives looking to score some cock, but not many single bi women. Shauni and I are the only ones on our list that are single females. (Beautiful, sexy lady BTW. (Winks lecherously at Shauni)"

When I look at the front page I see very few women at all single or coupled. If a bi woman is looking for a man she can find him on hetero dating sites. Women can always find a guy and most get to be selective..lol Honey/nectar always draws the bees and wasps as well. Some guys will be forward towards women to the point of being offensive regardless of the site. It isn't just bi men. (sadly some posters seem to have a bimen hater agenda. :(

I don't think that it is surprising that there are so few bi women on this site. There are probably a lot of reasons why and maybe one of the most obvious is what I posted above. If a bi woman is looking for another woman she may be more comfortable on a site just for women.

You can read bi guys sometimes post that they would like to meet a bi woman or a woman who is accepting of their bisexuality to the point (sometimes) of being able to play with the boys comment on the lack of such women on this site.

Interesting bias as to how the OP separated "bi men" looking for the first time and married cheaters... no reference to single bimen. They are all bimen looking for sex? (best to leave moral judgment aside...unless you are inviting judgment of your own behaviour)

[csrakate]

I think bisexual women just may be a bit more cautious especially putting themselves out there on a site where they might feel a bit more vulnerable. It is very difficult to completely trust the internet as it's no secret that there are many "posers" out there....men who are posing as women either to fulfill a fantasy of their own or to get their jollies by fooling a woman. And let us not forget those who may be who they say they are but they turn out to be "bat shit crazy" and when you discover this, they start stalking and getting hysterical when you don't agree to meet. At least that was MY experience when I first joined this site over seven years ago. I actually posted myself as bisexual and my "chatting" experience was so unpleasant that I decided that perhaps I was NOT bisexual and stopped listing myself as one. I guess you could say I was "scared straight". And please, I am not singling out this site....it happened on other ones as well. It took several years and a lot of personal growth before I was able to realize the truth about myself and change my status back to bisexual. That being said, I do not look to this site to meet anyone except for friendship. I can always use a new friend but I don't wish to allow myself to be fooled by a person who is not being honest. It's a waste of my time and of theirs.

As for the bisexual men being referred to as cheaters, I have to believe that Cat was simply stating something she has noticed and that she neglected to remark that there are many, many SINGLE bisexual men on this site. That being said, I also think we need to be careful when we pigeonhole married bisexual men as cheaters with our comments. It's not something we need to judge as a community, especially when we don't know the details.

BTW....as of this posting, I am the ONLY female on the list for my state and since I am married, I am technically not single (though my interest in meeting another woman would be as a single and not involving my spouse.....and no....I would not be a cheater since I not only have my bisexual husband's blessing, I have his "URGING".....LOL)

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

*Wiggles eyebrows at Kate* You GO Girl. :}
And Tenni is of course not seeing my point, but thats ok. I was just pointing out that you dont see us single women having an ad very often. What you see are couples advertising for Bi women. And the slinking part is pointed to a couple of bi guys from my area who are slinking about on their wives. Its ok, its all good.
Cat

[Gearbox]

Single bi women prob don't have to make an add, coz they can just browse the 'seeking bi woman' adds.
And you just KNOW they'd do an in depth browse through them, as anybody who's been to a card shop with ANY female would notice.lol
Lets face it, women are more choosey than men in general. They like the fine details. A bloke would spend less than a minute in a card shop, scan for "Happy birthday Sister.", look at the pretty pic, skip the verse inside, go pay for it.......job done!.:rolleyes:
Same with sex adds! Nice cock/bod....in driving range....go message....job done!lol

I can imagine the crap single bi women would get in their inbox's on a hookup site. But I'm sure we all get our fair shair of that though.

[Hoselvr]

I think bisexual women just may be a bit more cautious especially putting themselves out there on a site where they might feel a bit more vulnerable. It is very difficult to completely trust the internet as it's no secret that there are many "posers" out there....men who are posing as women either to fulfill a fantasy of their own or to get their jollies by fooling a woman. And let us not forget those who may be who they say they are but they turn out to be "bat shit crazy" and when you discover this, they start stalking and getting hysterical when you don't agree to meet. At least that was MY experience when I first joined this site over seven years ago. I actually posted myself as bisexual and my "chatting" experience was so unpleasant that I decided that perhaps I was NOT bisexual and stopped listing myself as one. I guess you could say I was "scared straight". And please, I am not singling out this site....it happened on other ones as well. It took several years and a lot of personal growth before I was able to realize the truth about myself and change my status back to bisexual. That being said, I do not look to this site to meet anyone except for friendship. I can always use a new friend but I don't wish to allow myself to be fooled by a person who is not being honest. It's a waste of my time and of theirs.

As for the bisexual men being referred to as cheaters, I have to believe that Cat was simply stating something she has noticed and that she neglected to remark that there are many, many SINGLE bisexual men on this site. That being said, I also think we need to be careful when we pigeonhole married bisexual men as cheaters with our comments. It's not something we need to judge as a community, especially when we don't know the details.

BTW....as of this posting, I am the ONLY female on the list for my state and since I am married, I am technically not single (though my interest in meeting another woman would be as a single and not involving my spouse.....and no....I would not be a cheater since I not only have my bisexual husband's blessing, I have his "URGING".....LOL)

Where's the "Like" button ;-)