Help with coming out and dating!!!!!

[mm534]

Ok, so I have recently finally accepted that I'm bi, possibly even gay yay me! But now is the hard part of coming out and dating people. I want to start to date people but I don't know if I really ready to tell the whole world about my sexuality yet so I don't really know where to find anyone. So I was thinking of online or something but I was wondering if its wrong to do that because I have only told people that don't even live in this country and I feel like i should be more "out" before I start dating. Opinions? Suggestions?

[Realist]

Several folks have found lovers, even life mates, on this site. Even though it's not designed specifically for that, it has and is, happening regularly.

First, you need a general, well-written profile, stating your interests and goals. You don't have to post revealing photos, or be specific as to your location, but most of those seeking would feel best if they had a general idea of what your wants, needs, and desires are.

I joined this site in 2008 and, within weeks, met the love of my life! I have since cut my profile to a much briefer one, because I've pretty well found who I was looking for.

I have since had a face-to-face meeting with a great couple and have other bi friends, with whom I correspond often.

As far as coming out to EVERYONE.....if you want everyone to know and your job, or family relationships will remain solid, why not? However, if you think coming out may jeopardize you in any way, why not only come out to prospective partners?

[elian]

Well you have a few choices - what you do depends on how secure you feel about your sexuality and whether or not people around you will be supportive if you need that support.

Personally I am not "out" to everyone because I work in a very conservative environment and I like my job. I would only tell people that I am interested in dating that I was bisexual. Other people really don't have a need to know. Same thing with worky, the fact that I am bisexual should have no impact on the performance of my work so there's not much of a point in broadcasting it to the world..

I am on an online dating site and advertise as bisexual there just because it's a lot easier to let people see that up front, along with other vital info. It sort of avoids having to hide anything, that's good.

I used to worry about hanging out in LGBT places but if a co-worker saw you there you have to wonder what they are doing there as well..

[IndyBiFun]

I think this is an exellent question. You want to be true to yourself and start dating but yet you're not ready to let the whole world know too. I'm in the same boat. Hand me an oar and I'll paddle with you.

I wish I had something to tell you but I'll be interested in reading what others say.