Why is it so hard to find a bi couple!?!

[azhotness]

Soooo my husband and I are both bi and ideally I would like to find a situation in which we can both play with the same sex in the same room. We have done the swinging thing, but I am just not feeling it, because most of the girls say they are bi to satisfy their husbands, but when it comes down to it they just wanna kiss! Then the couples are always uneven and the guy wants to screw me and I don't wanna screw the guy, it also sucks because guys being bi in the swinger community is taboo! Go fucking figure! I just want a sensual steamy romp with a female while my hubby gets his rocks off with a guy in the same room! Ugh! I am almost tempted to go on craigslist! Anyone in my situation? Is there something we are missing?

[JUSTLUVIN]

I wish you were in California

[Ebonybifemme7]

Soooo my husband and I are both bi and ideally I would like to find a situation in which we can both play with the same sex in the same room. We have done the swinging thing, but I am just not feeling it, because most of the girls say they are bi to satisfy their husbands, but when it comes down to it they just wanna kiss! Then the couples are always uneven and the guy wants to screw me and I don't wanna screw the guy, it also sucks because guys being bi in the swinger community is taboo! Go fucking figure! I just want a sensual steamy romp with a female while my hubby gets his rocks off with a guy in the same room! Ugh! I am almost tempted to go on craigslist! Anyone in my situation? Is there something we are missing?


Yeah its very hard to find. I'm a single bisexual woman, most of the guys here in Milwaukee are so close minded. But most people think I'm straight AND I DO NOT TALK ABOUT MY SEX LIFE AT WORK. But there still is a lot of prejudice out here, people are too homophobic and they are too hung up on stereotypes. Your not gonna meet too many people in your personal life thats into that type of stuff.

Your lucky that your husbands into what your into.

[azhotness]

I wish I was in Cali I think we would have better luck!

I wish you were in California


Yeah its very hard to find. I'm a single bisexual woman, most of the guys here in Milwaukee are so close minded. But most people think I'm straight AND I DO NOT TALK ABOUT MY SEX LIFE AT WORK. But there still is a lot of prejudice out here, people are too homophobic and they are too hung up on stereotypes. Your not gonna meet too many people in your personal life thats into that type of stuff.\

Your lucky that your husbands into what your into.


We are a lucky pair this is true, we have been married for 15 years and we are 35/36 so pretty unusual lol! He came out to me a few yeas ago and me to him, but he petty much knew I was bi from the jump! He would always ask me and I would deny it lol! We just recently started going to a gay bar and we love it, so we will probably see what we can come up with there.

[Ebonybifemme7]

I wish I was in Cali I think we would have better luck!





We are a lucky pair this is true, we have been married for 15 years and we are 35/36 so pretty unusual lol! He came out to me a few yeas ago and me to him, but he petty much knew I was bi from the jump! He would always ask me and I would deny it lol! We just recently started going to a gay bar and we love it, so we will probably see what we can come up with there.

Yeah most of the male friends and lovers that I've had in the past are like I aint doing that gay sheeeeeit. Thats gay! Etc. I'm like what is the deal?

[azhotness]

It is extremely hard for men to be accepted as bi or gay, for females its considered hot of a fad if your bi. That really irks me!

Yeah most of the male friends and lovers that I've had in the past are like I aint doing that gay sheeeeeit. Thats gay! Etc. I'm like what is the deal?

[pole_smoker]

It is extremely hard for men to be accepted as bi or gay, for females its considered hot of a fad if your bi. That really irks me!

Maybe in some circles, or with people you know who you're not out to; but I've never had any issue with people both LGBT and hetero accepting me as bisexual.

You said you can't find what you're looking for on certain sites. Try other ones including Craigslist.

[Swirl]

I'm guessing you already know about http://www.swinglifestyle.com/. It's free.
They have very high participation and a good search. Lot's of bi-couples, but maybe you live in area where there are few?

[cbb83]

It's just a matter of statistics. Bisexual people are a comparatively small portion of the available pool of sexually active adults. Out of those bisexuals, the majority who are willing to couple will likely wind up with a straight partner - again, just due to numbers. This pretty much leaves you with the unattached, cheaters, and the rare bi/bi or bi/gay couples who are in open relationships or willing to swing.

Welcome to being a minority.

[JUSTLUVIN]

I wish I was in Cali I think we would have better luck!





We are a lucky pair this is true, we have been married for 15 years and we are 35/36 so pretty unusual lol! He came out to me a few yeas ago and me to him, but he petty much knew I was bi from the jump! He would always ask me and I would deny it lol! We just recently started going to a gay bar and we love it, so we will probably see what we can come up with there.

I think it is so good you and yours are open about yourselves and honest with each other. Let's face it, we have this dual side about us. If It was to get with a M/F couple as a bi, I would be curious about the male side. Don;t get me wrong I am definitely into women BUT being bi means you are also attracted to the opposite. If you are ever my way let me know, I would love for you to watch me with your husband. I am sure he would say the same thing if you had a woman to be with too.

[Swirl]

It's just a matter of statistics. Bisexual people are a comparatively small portion of the available pool of sexually active adults. Out of those bisexuals, the majority who are willing to couple will likely wind up with a straight partner - again, just due to numbers. This pretty much leaves you with the unattached, cheaters, and the rare bi/bi or bi/gay couples who are in open relationships or willing to swing.

Welcome to being a minority.

On a brighter note, bisexuals are the largest segment of the LGBT community. Attitudes are changing faster than ever. "Estimates of those who report any lifetime same-sex sexual behavior and any same-sex sexual attraction are substantially higher than estimates of those who identify as LGB. An estimated 19 million Americans (8.2%) report that they have engaged in same-sex sexual behavior and nearly 25.6 million Americans (11%) acknowledge at least some same-sex sexual attraction." - How many people are lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender? by Gary J. Gates, Williams Distinguished Scholar.

So the stats are increasingly moving in our favor. Don't give up when things are getting juicy.

[onesucker4u]

It is so hard, and I dont know why, unless it's a Dallas Texas thing. I have been with an openly Bi woman for 6 months and even the openly bi women we have met (they kissed in public) have never followed thru with a playdate. I have even been clear I'd just watch if thats what she wanted. I cant be openly Bi, it would destroy my life. We've tried 20 + times on craigslist for a bi guy and they have always flaked. all the couples on craigslist say the guy is straight. It's a very difficult thing to find.

[Maybhere]

We have had our best luck meeting other both bi couples at PRIDE events and activities. We also go to LGBT bars, clubs etc. We seldom go somewhere that is seen as a straight place. Once you become a regular at a place friendships form and you learn of new places and events. The really odd part is we meet many single, bi men and women (single in that they are not married or living with someone) and the singles don't seem to be attracted to each other in terms of male, female relationships. They seem to prefer a couple or same sex rather than a single person of the opposite sex.

[Sundazzled]

It is hard to find bi couples. I had the good fortune of being the extra guy in a three-way with a younger nudist couple across town about nine years ago. It was hotter than heck, and he gal really go off diddling her clit while watching me get he boyfriend ff. We repeated the scene several times in subsequent weeks, but sadly, it ended after a few months. I've been searching for another like mined couple ever since.



Soooo my husband and I are both bi and ideally I would like to find a situation in which we can both play with the same sex in the same room. We have done the swinging thing, but I am just not feeling it, because most of the girls say they are bi to satisfy their husbands, but when it comes down to it they just wanna kiss! Then the couples are always uneven and the guy wants to screw me and I don't wanna screw the guy, it also sucks because guys being bi in the swinger community is taboo! Go fucking figure! I just want a sensual steamy romp with a female while my hubby gets his rocks off with a guy in the same room! Ugh! I am almost tempted to go on craigslist! Anyone in my situation? Is there something we are missing?

[sysper]

It is hard to find bi couples. I had the good fortune of being the extra guy in a three-way with a younger nudist couple across town about nine years ago. It was hotter than heck, and he gal really go off diddling her clit while watching me get he boyfriend ff. We repeated the scene several times in subsequent weeks, but sadly, it ended after a few months. I've been searching for another like mined couple ever since.
sounds like u had a good friendship :) hope u find something like that soon. me too for that matter lool.