My boyfriend is bi-curious

[KelliStarr0911]

I recently found out that my boyfriend is bi-curious. Which being an openly bi-sexual women I found no problem with and its actually very exciting.

I'm just looking for some ideas of thing to try in bed (just me and him), before we invite someone into our bed. I remember how nervous I was leading up to and during my first experiment and I just want to make sure he's comfortable with things before we take the next step.

Any suggestion would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks

[tenni]

Hi
I think that it is great that you are an open minded bi woman!

I'm unclear what you mean as to what the two of you can do. He is curious about being sexual with another man and not you? You are probably correct that he is nervous about being with a man. It might help to chat with him a lot. Share your past nervousness. Find out what he fantasizes about being with another man. Not all bi guys are into anal but he may be. Ask him if he is if he has played with a dildo. If anal is really important for him to be penetrated you might use a strap on. Personally, I don't consider men who want to be penetrated by a woman as a bisexual desire attraction. But that is just me.

He may or may not want his first guy encounter with you present. Again, talk to him about it and if he wants you there what he wants you to do. If he doesn't want you there, that i because he is processing his own sexuality and it is not a rejection of you..but you may know that.

Keep us informed on how things are going.

[KelliStarr0911]

Tenni

I definitely need to ask him if he'd be interested in anal sex. Recently we have been doing "light" anal stimulation(i.e. rubbing and oral). I just feel like there may be other things that I could do on top of that. If and when it happens (he's really into 3somes) I want him to be as comfortable as possible and have an idea of what he really likes and what he doesn't. He does so much to indulge my fantasies, I want to do the same for him.

[pole_smoker]

Recently we have been doing "light" anal stimulation(i.e. rubbing and oral).
Do you eat his ass?

Have a 3 way with him and another guy where he gets fucked up the ass while he fucks you, or both guys fuck you and tag team your pussy, or alternate between fucking your ass, pussy, and mouth.

[elmwood7]

The best thing you can do to help him is to communicate. Talk out what he's interested in trying, how he want's it to happen, what excites him the most. That kind of thing. He is very lucky to have an open minded, supportive girlfriend like you. Your input and support will make it much easier for him to figure out what he want's and how to make it happen.

[Realist]

Hi, Kelli, Welcome to the site.

I agree with the others, you are both lucky to have each other! I also agree that communication is very important; you appear to have a good start, there.

Every one of us are different and our thought processes may also be vastly different, regarding what interests, arouses, and satisfies us.

Through caring and willingness to listen and adjust, you guys should find wonderful experiences together.

It's good to get ideas from others, but in the end, you and your BF must do what is best for you. Before this thread is over, you may receive some completely opposing ideas and advice. Take what you need and ignore the rest.

And, please, never settle for less than you want, or you'll never be happy.

Good luck!

[onesucker4u]

How lucky you both are. When I was married, and first started with bi 3sums, we went with the flow. Started with us both sucking him and we both loved it. Relax and have fun. I eventually found a young man with a slender dick and we set up a kind of scene beforehand. She kissed him while I sucked him, she laid him on his back on the bed and sat on his face. I sucked, lubed and straddled him, . When he strated fucking me back with rabbit like thrusts I said "Im cumming" and she sucked me just as the first squirt came out. I could do that every day

[Dog62]

Kelli, I think Tenni said it best. Talk to him. He is probably concerned about many things....your real feelings, his feelings, etc. I know that I had many "next day" mixed emotions. Your support will go a long way in helping him.
I hope you both have a blast.

[Hypersexual11]

It's very easy to say 'talk to him'. For many people, talking about sex is kinda difficult, especially for a lot of bi men. Even now, I have a difficult time talking about this to my wife who is fully accepting and supportive. If there is a problem with either of you opening up, use actions instead. You may let him know that you will be trying different things on him and he needs to just let you know if he is uncomfortable with anything. I would continue with anal stimulation. Even a lot of straight guys like that and a bi guy can go crazy. If possible, work up to pegging. There is a group on pegging you should read. There is some good info on the types of tools that work the best. Usually, after a guy has been allowing his gf or wife to peg him, the desire for a real cock may get stronger. If you want him to experience sex with a man and want it to be a comfortable experience, make sure he is as horny as possible and really looking forward to it.
Sometimes it helps for the gf to be there with him, sometimes he may want his first to be alone. Find out and be ready to help him out if he needs you to be there.

[tenni]

Hyper has some good points about difficulty for bi guys to articulate their thoughts on their sexuality. What they think they may want may evolve or not be that at all. There seems to be a lot of focus on anal penetration for biguys. I don't think that it is as many as you might think from this site. Some guys get very focussed on it while other guys get focused on the penis and other parts. Bisexuality is a fairly wide range of attractions and intensities.
He may initially think that he wants a threesome but after he may be all gung ho or retreat and want one on one with a guy more to do with his self esteem and masculinity. I know that you will realize with all the male taboo that if he wants to switch to one on one with a guy that it is not about you nor rejection of you.

[Swirl]

Whatever you think of porn, it might help here if flat out talking proves challenging. Do you ever watch it together? There are all levels of m-m contact clips available free. Possibly get reactions (even to simply suggesting it) and maybe ideas. Some of it is flat out hot.

Great ideas and thoughts from folk here, especially regarding the oft tricky psychology. It is ever so important to me (and a few others I'm told) that my wife is not only supportive, but still see's me roughly the same. That is to say, no less of her man. Her encouragement on this front is always very welcome. Perhaps I'm not as evolved as some, but a few thousand years of indoctrination can be hard to overcome.

[centillini]

Talk- Communicate, when I was curious me and my bi girlfriend talked about it, let to sex. Then we watch bisexual porn and discussed what we would like to do. This then led to to toys and strap on, then her watching as a guy sucked me, wow. It was and adventure and great journey, love it now.