I am straight, I thought

[Butimstr8]

I have always been completely straight as far as I knew anyway. Over the past year or so, ive had more thoughts about MMF 3 somes I think only because my wife has no interest in wwm. I don't know why I would think she would llike mmf other than she would tease me and say instead of having a woman join us lets get a guy, she said she was joking but I dont know for certain.
Anyway, here is my point, I answered a CL ad about guys looking for action either with women or men. I met this guy and have been emailing with him, he is looking to try things with a guy. Now all of a sudden, I can't stop thinking about sucking a nice cock, and he wants me to fuck his ass, I am thinking, hell yes. I'm horny as hell now, I still can't get enough of my wife but I really want to suck a cock, have my cock sucked by a guy, and to have anal sex. I have never had anal at all.
I really don't know what to think?

[tenni]

Hi
You do not give your age. It happens that some men never had thought about same sex action and all of a sudden they find their thoughts switching to guys..often just the dick. The age of 40 ish seems to come up in self disclosure but much younger men are experiencing these thoughts that seem to come out of no where as well. That may be due to a more open discussion and acceptance of same sex play. If you go, you may discover whether it is for you or not. Bisexuality has as fluid aspect to it. Some days you want a dick and some days/months your want pussy. You may have reached an obsessive sexual fantasy stage. You could try to repress it but most find it comes back even with more intensity.

[iwantamouthfull]

I am think that you should go for it. I had fantasised about it for a long time before I actually did it.

I had been having phone sex with a woman that I had met in a chat room. One day I went to an abs to purchase some toys so that she could listen to me fuck myself. I had her on the he phone and she asked me if they had an area with booths. When I said yes she will dered if they had glory holes and excitedle said " you could suck a cock for me". I didn't think k that glory holes any longer existed so I said that I would check it out. Once in a booth I discovered that it did have a glory hole and soon found myself down in my knees taking my first cock in my mouth. As I felt it slide between my like all that I could think was why didn't I try this sooner. I ended up sucking several cocks that day and never stopped.

I still love women and have no interest in men other than cock. So go ahead and try it, I think that you will like it.

[Butimstr8]

49 Year old married cowboy, I mean this just doesn't happen to us. I know, brokeback mountain, i've never even seen the movie.

[tenni]

You are clearly in the risk age where our sexuality often changes. Some say it was there all along but others like you find it a kick in the arse without any previous thoughts. Just be aware of the fluid aspect and how guilt can hit you hard after you play with a man. Guilt might hit you very hard if you perceive yourself as a man's man cowboy. :) It reads that this is presently a physical attraction. Broke Back dealt with sexual repression and a physical and emotional connection between the two man's man cowboys.

[Butimstr8]

Tenni: So when you say "Our sexualiy changes" does that mean. I am now Gay? Bisexual?, Curious?
I feel this desire, I have not dealt with it by allowing myself to indulge, if and when I do, I may not like it at all, or I may get close enough to doing it that I change my thoughts on it.
Here is my problem, or whatever I guess you would like to call it. I don't know a gay or Bisexual person or at least no one has evr opened up to me about it. I have a perception of what they are like but thats about it.
When I was younger, say in may mid 20's through say 40 years old, I did not hate gay people but I definetely could not see myself as one. I would tell my wife that I loved pussy so much that I would only be gay if I was a female, so that then I would still be able to taste pussy.
So it's difficult for me to understand how over just a week or so, I could now have this desire to have sex with a man.
I am not disagreeing or arguing, it certainly does appear that you have a better understanding about it than I, Iguess I am still trying to get my lips around it.

[pole_smoker]

You're bisexual just accept it, and come out to your wife instead of emailing guys that are looking to help you cheat.

[tenni]

bump up due to trolling

[elian]

It would be better -if- you could tell your wife, although I can understand why you might hesitate to do that given that you are still trying to figure out what the heck happened yourself.

So we know that you like sex with your wife, and that you think you would like to try something with a man..

Some people are just horny? Would it be wrong if you were sexually attracted to both? At first I kept trying to prove to myself that I was either gay or straight..but now I sort of recognize I have always liked both, so I don't necessarily think it is wrong, but I know that people in society sometimes view it that way.

[charles-smythe]

Hi
You do not give your age. It happens that some men never had thought about same sex action and all of a sudden they find their thoughts switching to guys..often just the dick. The age of 40 ish seems to come up in self disclosure but much younger men are experiencing these thoughts that seem to come out of no where as well. That may be due to a more open discussion and acceptance of same sex play. If you go, you may discover whether it is for you or not. Bisexuality has as fluid aspect to it. Some days you want a dick and some days/months your want pussy. You may have reached an obsessive sexual fantasy stage. You could try to repress it but most find it comes back even with more intensity.
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...sounds about right...according to my experiences...

[aLABiM75 & StrF51]

Just think that you are the normal 99.9% of humanity.

Most Humans are Bisexual to some degree, as Straight & Gay are the extreme ends of the sexual spectrum and nature loves Bell Curves.

:bday:

[BiCuriousVAN]

I always thought I was straight too. I had occasional thoughts about being with a guy, but the more I thought about it, the more I was turned off by the thought. I did have some guys come onto me, but turned them all down, so I suspect they knew something I didn't. In my late 30's, I started to have more thoughts about it and finally acted. I have only been with a couple of guys and still consider myself bi-curious. However, I really think that I am bi.

[connor J]

admit it, you r totally bi. But I suggest you join Biproud.com, lots of bi curious there, you may talk to them. I first realize my sex orientation there. I met friends and went out with them several times, now I'm proud of myself.

[pole_smoker]

Just think that you are the normal 99.9% of humanity.

Most Humans are Bisexual to some degree, as Straight & Gay are the extreme ends of the sexual spectrum and nature loves Bell Curves.

:bday:


Actually no, most people are not bisexual or bisexual to some degree.

If this were remotely true you would not have people claiming that sex with the same gender or sexual attraction to the same gender is a taboo or something to keep hidden or feel ashamed about, there would be no need to come out or stay closeted, and LGBT people would not need to fight for equal rights that heterosexual people have like marriage, etc.

[tenni]

Actually pole, you are partially correct and partially wrong. I agree that most people are not bisexual.

Just as some gay people state bisexuals are in denial and really gay, both statements are false assumptions. Using words like "most" needs a lot more evidence. It might be argued that judging from your own position and assuming everyone is like you may be at the root of such assumptions.

I think that it might be wiser to state that most people have thought about same sex attraction. Most people today are aware of same sex activity and have contemplated it in order to decide that they are not attracted to same gender.

Increasingly, they probably have heard of people who are attracted to both men and women. There is far more open discussion on sexuality but still a fair amount of denial one way or other. Even though many people will not identify and announce same sex attraction, many will have weighed their attractions to reach a position. They think that they are straight until possibly they start noticing same gender appeal or curiosity.

If there was not so much concern about sexuality, there will be no need to be out like gay people feel compelled to do.

[darkeyes]

Actually pole, you are partially correct and partially wrong. I agree that most people are not bisexual.

Just as some gay people state bisexuals are in denial and really gay, both statements are false assumptions. Using words like "most" needs a lot more evidence. It might be argued that judging from your own position and assuming everyone is like you may be at the root of such assumptions.

I think that it might be wiser to state that most people have thought about same sex attraction. Most people today are aware of same sex activity and have contemplated it in order to decide that they are not attracted to same gender.

Increasingly, they probably have heard of people who are attracted to both men and women. There is far more open discussion on sexuality but still a fair amount of denial one way or other. Even though many people will not identify and announce same sex attraction, many will have weighed their attractions to reach a position. They think that they are straight until possibly they start noticing same gender appeal or curiosity.

If there was not so much concern about sexuality, there will be no need to be out like gay people feel compelled to do.
For gudness sake, tenni.. willya stop feeding the seagulls.. it only encourages them and they make a rite bloody mess of me car.. :eek2:

:love87:

[tenni]

For gudness sake, tenni.. willya stop feeding the seagulls.. it only encourages them and they make a rite bloody mess of me car.. :eek2:

:love87:

h eh he Perhaps you might like to borrow my parking spot in the garage? ;) :)

[jackofbothtrades]

It happens that some men never had thought about same sex action and all of a sudden they find their thoughts switching to guys..often just the dick. The age of 40 ish seems to come up in self disclosure

Exactly my situation. Suddenly got same sex desires for first time at 41.

[charles-smythe]

I always thought I was straight too. I had occasional thoughts about being with a guy, but the more I thought about it, the more I was turned off by the thought. I did have some guys come onto me, but turned them all down, so I suspect they knew something I didn't. In my late 30's, I started to have more thoughts about it and finally acted. I have only been with a couple of guys and still consider myself bi-curious. However, I really think that I am bi.
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...by acted on it can I assume you sucked cock?...if so I'll bet you liked it and the only thing stopping you from pursuing it further is public opinion...
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[Fzmr9t]

I was in my early 40s when I started thinking about what sucking a cock would feel like, and was in my mid 40s when I "took the plunge", so to speak.
i still love women , they are awesome creatures, but I do enjoy the feeling of a stiff cock in my hands, mouth, ass too

[charles-smythe]

It happens that some men never had thought about same sex action and all of a sudden they find their thoughts switching to guys..often just the dick. The age of 40 ish seems to come up in self disclosure

Exactly my situation. Suddenly got same sex desires for first time at 41.

...yours and half the guys in the US...if they are truthful...

[tenni]

Tenni: So when you say "Our sexualiy changes" does that mean. I am now Gay? Bisexual?, Curious?
I feel this desire, I have not dealt with it by allowing myself to indulge, if and when I do, I may not like it at all, or I may get close enough to doing it that I change my thoughts on it.
Here is my problem, or whatever I guess you would like to call it. I don't know a gay or Bisexual person or at least no one has evr opened up to me about it. I have a perception of what they are like but thats about it.
When I was younger, say in may mid 20's through say 40 years old, I did not hate gay people but I definetely could not see myself as one. I would tell my wife that I loved pussy so much that I would only be gay if I was a female, so that then I would still be able to taste pussy.
So it's difficult for me to understand how over just a week or so, I could now have this desire to have sex with a man.
I am not disagreeing or arguing, it certainly does appear that you have a better understanding about it than I, Iguess I am still trying to get my lips around it.

I had not read the section where you wrote that you have felt this way for only a week. I would hold off on seeking out a guy to have sex with if you have only felt this attraction for a week. Give yourself time to adjust to your changing perspective. You have by now read several people tell you that this happened to them. What people on sites like this know is the fluid ebb and flow of attraction. It has been really upsetting for some people regardless of their age to begin to realize that they are now attracted to both genders and that their feelings can change.

Perhaps looking at it in comparison of your tastes for certain foods. When you were a kid you may not have liked a certain food. As an adult, you may have found that the same food that you disliked as a kid you now like.