Why is it that I want to tell people I am BI?

[rajones]

Almost 2 months ago I hired a woman to work in my shop. One day she told me she was a lesbian, and I told her I was BI. Ever since then I have wanted to tell everyone I am BI. For all my life I have kept this a secret (only straight person that knows about me being BI is my wife). I am not running around telling everyone this but if the oppertunity arises I will tell. Just the thought of telling someone this is a turn on, is this normal?

[Meliss]

Sharing who you are is important especially if you wish to share with people you already know. Remember show and tell in grade school?

Perhaps you also are hoping to find other bi people either to chat or play with?

[rajones]

You are right about finding other BIs to play with or talk to. It is a strange thrill talking about sex and could talk about it all day.

[whistle1]

I guess telling your lesbian employee was liberating for you. That seems understandable.

Who you tell about your sexual orientation is a personal matter.

If you feel like paying for a billboard with your picture on it that says "I am bi", that is your business.

I am a more private person and don't feel the need to discuss my sexuality with anyone...

[bw299]

"Who you tell about your sexual orientation is a personal matter." Thank you whistle1 !!!

I am so friggin' sick and tired about the LGBT community running around wanting to tell everyone about their sexuality. NEWS FLASH...I DON'T FRIGGIN' CARE! :yikes2:

I don't advertise, project, or share my sexuality. My sexuality is personal and private; I share it only with those with which I chose to share. My sexuality is my business; so is yours, and if you aren't in my circle of friends, I don't really care about it. The LAST thing I want to hear from an athlete, newscaster, actor/actress, coworker,or whomever, is anything about their sex life.

[csreef]

If you wish to tell people about your sexuality, fine, that is your business. I am out only to a very few people that I trust.

[rajones]

Same here, only 1 straight person knows about me being BI. It is not that I am going to run out and tell everyone, but I don't want to hide anymore. In my business there is a lot of gay bashing and I just don't want to be a part of that. Usually I defend gays and then I get asked if I am one, from now on just going to say yes. These gay bashers can go to hell, I am not going to hide something I enjoy.

[rajones]

I am glad you brought that up, I too could not care less who is what. It is like owning a Harley, the bike could be put up for the winter but, you can always tell who owns one. I do not want to be labled as anything. Mainly I was talking about friends and family who talk about gays. I do not want to hide my feelings anymore. Of course I am not going to run in the street and act queer. Just not going to sit back and be quiet when the subject is brought up.

[DMercator]

For me, it's not so much a matter of sharing sexual orientation, it's a matter of finding someone with whom I can share my secret self. Being able to share something intimate and personal has risk and with risk comes a level of excitement. And a sense of relief at being able to say aloud that which so often forced into silence by social norms and fear.

[SilkyHoseLover]

Well, stated, DMercator. It's a joy to have someone with whom you can share your 'true self' and discuss your innermost feelings. Nearly all my life, I've had to hide the desires driven by my nylon fetish. Instinctively, I knew that there were others like me, but I had no way of getting to know them to strike up a friendship. Then, in the aftermath of a party we attended on one of my wife's kinks -- spanking -- she and one of the party's hosts were sitting outside chatting and drinking wine. They were under the influence enough that they started sharing secrets about their husbands, and it turns out that the other guy and I were both born with the 'nylon gene.'

My wife didn't tell me about this until we were on our way home, probably thinking that I'd be upset and embarrassed. Not at all! It was almost a relief that somebody knew. Somebody who understands how I feel, someone I can talk to about it!

And several years later, I had my first M-M sexual contact, which I loved right away. I readily accepted and embraced bisexuality. I'm not shouting it on the rooftops, but enjoy talking about these things with my brothers & sisters on sites like this.

[rajones]

Yes, there is a level of excitement to talking about sexual orientation, but also some relief. I have been hiding my sexual orientation all my life and am tired of not being who I truly am. I am a very private person, who would never just come out a say I am BI. My group of friends all of which are older 40+ and straight as an arrow, do talk about gays in a bad way. I am tired of hearing the bashing and am going to start to defend gays and let my friends think what they want of me.

[rajones]

Glad you brought the pantyhose thing up, I too love wearing them. Of course I only wear them after work or at night. At my job I do not have air conditioning and find hose to be uncomfortable when sweaty. I too would never shout from the rooftop but is great to find other likeminded people to talk to.

[sysper]

for some reason i like the idea of talking about my attraction to the same sex with girls especially if they have attractions to the same sex

[csreef]

I have been lucky in that I have had 3 different GF's that were very accepting of me being Bi. I met these women when I was involved in the Kink Community.