Questions about Hotel fun.

[dowmass]

Until the pandemic hit, I was traveling within the US. I used to stay Monday through Thursday, in a decent hotel. I used to post in the local page of Double list to see if anyone was interested in safe fun (me being a bottom). Unfortunately it never worked out because all I got to hear from was from flakes, guys who gave me the creeps (one liners "Whats up" types, guys who wanted nothing short of bare backing etc.)

I was reading a thread the other day about picking up a partner in the bars of a hotels.I am kind of a newbie at this - so how does one go about picking up or getting picked up? Is there a "technique", or is it vibes that one gets naturally? Can someone please tell me how to become skilled at this?

If I sound silly, please ignore my post. Thanks. :)

[Jazminedress]

When traveling it has never worked out for me.............so I dont have any suggestions for ya

[cornholejoe]

i allways had a conection before i met in a hotel ever try silverdaddys

[KDaddy23]

In my traveling days for work - and there was either no apps or they were still in their infancy stage - I'd just go the hotel bar or a bar closest to the hotel if it didn't have a bar - and just be there and checking people out while seeing who's checking me out. If there's a technique to be learned, it's how to read people and their body language - and that's not easy and carries no real guarantees of success - but it can help. I've had guys checking me out but their body language would tell me that they wanna come over and strike up a conversation... but they're hesitant and understandably so when you have a 50/50 chance of guessing wrongly about the guy you'd like to wind up in bed with. Sometimes a guy would come sit next to me at the bar and start a conversation - a good sign - but, nah - all he wanted to do was talk. Picking up someone - or being picked up - is very much a hit-and-miss situation and I'd just be there and be seen and hope for the best.

[JordanCD]

Similar situation, never worked out for me either. Most people at hotels are there for business, with friends, family, etc. so I think it’s hard to find someone who’s just going to ‘let loose’ in that environment unless they’re openly gay. I did once almost take back to my hotel an openly gay guy from a bar who was hitting on me, but I was with a colleague so that would have given me away...

[Warmnsalty]

I used to travel a lot for work, back when CL was available it was perfect for hooking up. Plenty of bi guys and horny str8 guys if the city was of decent size. Since CL ended have been trying doublelist but it's horrible, at least in my area. Nothing but flakes and pic collectors. I'd suggest trying Adam4Adam and Grindr, that work well. Picking up guys at a hotel bar? Don't see where that is plausible unless it's a gay bar. Keep trying, hopefully once things go back to normal random hotel sex will return to "normal" LOL

[fredward]

I'm still struggling with the conversational transition. How do you go from talking about baseball to asking if he's interested in something intimate?

Some of you must have transition strategies, reliable questions you might ask, other ways to direct the conversation ... is there some comment you throw out there that might lead onwards, while still being innocent enough for plausible deniability if you guessed wrong?

[BeauKnerr]

When I used to travel, I never did explore the bar option. But I've actually been fantasizing about this topic recently.... that when I get back to traveling, I'm sitting in a hotel bar having a friendly conversation with a guy and somehow, I end up in his room giving him a long, slow blowjob to completion. And that he hits me up first thing in morning for a repeat. :) The way the conversation goes in my mind is that we are talking about our women (or his lack thereof) and he mentions that it's been so long since he's had a good blow job and then casually jokes that at this point, he would take one from anyone. And from there, I take the bait and before long, am between his legs in his room.

So there's an idea.... some casual banter about wives, girlfriends, the lack thereof, and that "it's been a while". If the guy is totally straight, he would just play it that way and you haven't over-extended yourself. On the other hand if he's open to it, the conversation might start to lead that way. And a semi-joking line like, "I'd _____ anything at this point", might help to safely test the waters. Much safer than just blurting out, "hey, can I suck you off?" :)

[Alex_rose]

I used listcrawler.com worked for me. Met this woman at a hotel.

[BiGuyinMA]

I've spent a lot of time in hotels for business over the last twenty years and have tried numerous approaches. One thing that has surprised me, given just how many Craigslist/Double List posts end with 'You must host!', just how many no-shows there are, and how often you suddenly find yourself ghosted. It's still very 'hit and miss' but the way I do it is multi-pronged.

AdultFriendFinder... A few days ahead of my trip, I change my profile location to my destination and put up details of where I'll be staying. Do a search of members in the area and reach out to those who fit your criteria. Concentrate on Gold members, they've paid the subscription so they're serious about meeting.

Double List... Start putting up adds a few days ahead of time. Start a dialogue with interested guys. This also gives you time to start weeding out the flakes (you'll get plenty).

Sniffies.com Getting better and better as more guys sign up. You can see at a glance who's close.

Have a hook-up app on your phone. I use Scruff and on more than one occasion I've found guys staying in the same hotel. On one occasion I got a match with someone <25Ft away... He was next door in the adjoining room. :-)

Many of the posts on Double List are from married guys... just because you can host doesn't mean they can suddenly drop everything and come on over. But with a little advanced warning, if they're serious they can arrange reasons to be out of the house.

Even with all this, I strike out far more than I succeed. The thing is to be careful. I could definitely get more cock than I do but if I get the slightest weird vibe off someone, I politely decline. I've probably missed out on some great guys but don't compromise your safety.

[Christopher South]

I've met maybe 5 guys in hotels (they were travelers.) The key was that we contacted a few weeks before and made arrangements. Trying once you are in the hotel room makes it more difficult.

[bblover]

Don't overthink it. Guys that are alone are the most likely targets. if a guy comes and starts talking he has done the hard part by initiating the contact. talk about whatever B.S. comes up to break the ice. Sports, weather, etc. Bring up traveling for work all the time, and the challenges of not being home (missing regular action). Doesn't have to be graphic just opens the door to sex talk. Most guys will willing talk about sex, but need the topic brought up by someone else. If he reciprocates continue to build on the topic.

If you are interested and feel he may be worth a shot throw out the hook. Something about taking any kind of action you could get, or heading up to your room for porn and a release. If he's interested he'll take the hint. If he isn't you were simply mentioning what "you" were heading off to do.

Good luck, and don't overthink it.

[Flypaper]

I've spent a lot of time in hotels for business over the last twenty years and have tried numerous approaches. One thing that has surprised me, given just how many Craigslist/Double List posts end with 'You must host!', just how many no-shows there are, and how often you suddenly find yourself ghosted. It's still very 'hit and miss' but the way I do it is multi-pronged.

AdultFriendFinder... A few days ahead of my trip, I change my profile location to my destination and put up details of where I'll be staying. Do a search of members in the area and reach out to those who fit your criteria. Concentrate on Gold members, they've paid the subscription so they're serious about meeting.

Double List... Start putting up adds a few days ahead of time. Start a dialogue with interested guys. This also gives you time to start weeding out the flakes (you'll get plenty).

Sniffies.com Getting better and better as more guys sign up. You can see at a glance who's close.

Have a hook-up app on your phone. I use Scruff and on more than one occasion I've found guys staying in the same hotel. On one occasion I got a match with someone <25Ft away... He was next door in the adjoining room. :-)

Many of the posts on Double List are from married guys... just because you can host doesn't mean they can suddenly drop everything and come on over. But with a little advanced warning, if they're serious they can arrange reasons to be out of the house.

Even with all this, I strike out far more than I succeed. The thing is to be careful. I could definitely get more cock than I do but if I get the slightest weird vibe off someone, I politely decline. I've probably missed out on some great guys but don't compromise your safety.

These are great tips!

[Footstep40]

I had pretty good luck with Silverdaddies, make a connection prior to traveling. Meeting men at a bar can be easy depending on what city you’re in, look up the gay bars before you book. I’ve only had one encounter at a bar next to an extended stay hotel. There were traveling construction workers there as well. Started a conversation with one guy about the Law & Order episode that was on t.v. He brought up his lack of action lately after a few, his buddy showed up later and we ended up having an incredible booze fueled 3 some in my room after the bar closed.