Couples/Fems, did Personals work 4u?

[yumeQrius]

I guess I'm not trying hard enough.
I've put my listing on many a free personals sites and I can't say that it works.

and some of them are Gahdoful strict. You can't be in a relationship and looking for another person with some of them- AAAARRRRGGGG!

Maybe I'm just too green, but the messages seem to sound the same after a bit. I'm a writer and I can't come up with much that would be considered different!

Despite any concern for future reprisals, I have put my picture, a nice black and white with a friendly smile, on my lists and have gotten littel response.

What about anyone else, here? Have you couples had much luck landing a decent third?

Any ladies gotten "the right" attention?

Care to tell me how? IT'd be appreciated.

[deletetacount123]

It takes time :-)

I have profiles on here, date.ca and Womanline.com

Used to have a profile on Deafs.com till these 2 men REALLY creepied me out. Stupid horny OLD men that don't know how to read a profile.

Ive gotten some responses from date.ca and womansline.... Ive even talked to a couple people but nothing serious yet however I did meet two I would love to meet in person someday!!

There are some days you're gonna get mad at the sites cause people wither ignore your ad or view but don't do anything or ignore your responses to thier profiles.... BUT that just means they aren't a match for you :-)

Ive had issus with putting if i was deaf or not on my profile... one girl encouraged me to just add it :-) (saves having feelings hurt if I told the person AFTER talking to them and they never talk to me again)

One good advice is change your profile every couple of weeks, make it better or reword things that could have been said better... why?? cause then you'll apper as "new" again or "on top" and a lot of people usually read the newer stuff..... who wants to read a profile that hasn't been updated in months or even years?? chances are that person is no longer paying attention to the site (or is no longer looking but forgot to delete thier profile) so keeping active andupdated is always the best way to go.

There are days too when its a lucky day cause you get a lot of views :) MESSAGE/sent smiles if you like any!!! sometimes people are just shy so you have to encourage them to "write back!!"

There is a girl from Alberta who seemed VERY attractive to my profile but she was shy to reply but kept senting me firts and winks and stuff lol Finally I caught her online and IM'ed her and she said hi :-) Admitted she was shy at first :-)

A lot of people ARE STRICT... I am lol I don't listen to the ads if someone winked at me but has NOTHING in thier profile. :-) I like to know who the person is :-) And you have to be strict.... remember, some people may seem "too strict" cause perhaps they had real bad expereinces but are willing to try again with the dating online thing. There are tons of fakes on those sites so being strict helps you be safe too :-)

Just wait..... take your time... someone will reply :-)

Tasha

[deletetacount123]

Im updating to my post above :)

I am VERY annoyed when a person reads your profile, you clearly said your deaf but you can hear with hearing aids/cochlear implant and can speak.

So they asl about webcam (Im shy with that) and askes if she/he can call and I said no cause I don't use the phone since I have a VERY hard time understanding what is being said since I can't read lips though the phone. (I'll have to have known your voice for years to understand you on phone)
So I tell her that.

She suddenly ignores me then!!!!

Sounds like a red flaggie to me.... cause it was also WAY TO SOON to be asking for a phone number AND it seemed like I did most of the talking.
Oh well, I like the other 2 I was talking to MUCH BETTER... :-)
At least they talk often too and never bring up "phone" once.... meet in person yes but not any time soon it seems.

Ok... end of rant :-)

Tasha

[Herbwoman39]

What annoys the hell out of me is when people don't thouroughly read your profile. Mine says I'm married and monogamous. I'm looking for friends that hubby and I can both hang out with. And YET I keep getting women who just want to jump on me.

Since when does "friend" imply "WooHoo! SEX!"??

I Finally added this paragraph to my profile and haven't heard one word since then: "Since I'm a Bi virgin, I'm not looking to rush head-long into anything. I'd really like to get to know you first. Any sort of relationship depends on mental compatibility and hubby's comfort level. He is my primary relationship and his comfort level comes first."

Honestly I don't know if this is a good thing or a bad thing that I'm not getting any interest at all now.

It's probably a good thing since I have baggage as a rape survivor and I genuinely do need to keep it slow.

[yumeQrius]

I've read a suggestion somewhere that a person should make their Personal ad more like a "Help Wanted."

What do you think of that? It sounds practical and all. Very serious, very direct.

Not that I'd really know how to go about that, myself.

One other thing, and I'm not sure if I should start a new thread with this Question or what, but:

Does the club scene work better? Actually getting out and pushing yourself out there?

BiTW: Thank you both, so much, for answering!
Yu_Me.

[deletetacount123]

I think online ads are tricky since they can easily be faked :-( Thats the bad side of online personals... fakers ruin the fun for the honest. :-(

I think you shoudl try club scenes... check out the bars in your area, not all are "stupid" type. Some are nice bars :-)
Better chance of meeting someone there.

You're gonna have to push yourself..... I know I am and its hard :-) But Im gonna do it :-)

Tasha