Where to find a FWB?

[Wantone1234]

I consider myself straight, Im not attracted to men, the thought of kissing a man is a bit repulsive, but I used to swap head with a roommate years ago and want to do it again on a semi regular basis. So I?d like to find a buddy to swap blowjobs with and maybe bottom for from time to time. Im married and my wife isn?t into it at all so discretion is a must. Im in a small central Illinois town, there aren?t gay bars here, the online selection is slim. Im sure there are other guys looking for the same thing but how do I know without outing myself?

[Jazminedress]

Honestly, check on grindr, many guys who are looking for a regular thing

[Willlburrr]

I consider myself straight, Im not attracted to men, the thought of kissing a man is a bit repulsive, but I used to swap head with a roommate years ago and want to do it again on a semi regular basis. So I?d like to find a buddy to swap blowjobs with and maybe bottom for from time to time. Im married and my wife isn?t into it at all so discretion is a must. Im in a small central Illinois town, there aren?t gay bars here, the online selection is slim. Im sure there are other guys looking for the same thing but how do I know without outing myself?

I'm in the same boat, so to speak as you, I'm not into kissing a guy but looking for a FWB and it hasn't happened yet. I haven't posted an ad yet but I think that's my next step and I'm going to look at Grindr too. I've been looking at Doublelist but I don't think that's going to work. Everyone has what I call their "shallow requirements" and as a guy I get that, I also have some and decided long ago I'm flexible with this but not flexible with that. Being married and not seeing my wife as understandable contribute to those "requirements" but that is what it is. We'll see where this goes, I'm 66 now and it doesn't look promising but I haven't completely given up.

[Jazminedress]

I'm 66 now and it doesn't look promising but I haven't completely given up.

Ummmmmmm, many of us dont mind an older guy, less ego and trying to prove themselves which is nice

[SlowNEZ]

I understand that ?silverdaddies.com? is a good site for like-minded guys. I have not signed up yet, but I do check the site occasionally. I have seen some fairly attractive guys. Perhaps someday I will take the plunge. Good luck.

[Grant_Norman]

Unfortunately, the hardest part of finding someone is the always be looking part. I put myself out there as available to suck a lot...still somewhat hit or miss. Hopefully will improve after divorce and have own place to host. Yes with wife now and open so I get regular shit from that celibate queen. I love sex. I will always love sex. I'm now fully openly bisexual and will never change. All you can do is keep trying...everywhere. Once you have a regular hookup it is great, but you will be waning more.

Grant

[SilkyHoseLover]

Ummmmmmm, many of us dont mind an older guy, less ego and trying to prove themselves which is nice
LOL - many of us ARE older guys! (or gurls...)

[Wantone1234]

I may have to give that a try again. It seemed in the past it was mostly young guys and not many guys in my area.

[Wantone1234]

I'm in the same boat, so to speak as you, I'm not into kissing a guy but looking for a FWB and it hasn't happened yet. I haven't posted an ad yet but I think that's my next step and I'm going to look at Grindr too. I've been looking at Doublelist but I don't think that's going to work. Everyone has what I call their "shallow requirements" and as a guy I get that, I also have some and decided long ago I'm flexible with this but not flexible with that. Being married and not seeing my wife as understandable contribute to those "requirements" but that is what it is. We'll see where this goes, I'm 66 now and it doesn't look promising but I haven't completely given up.

Its so frustrating. I wish there was an easy way to find out who’s interested without outing myself. Im certain there are guys walking around right now with the desire but not the nerve to say so, just like me.

[csreef]

Do you know any gay people who could introduce you to one of their friends ?

[bikurinpa]

I been trying ALl the sites and apps, no luck, I find that 99.9% of them on the sites and apps, wont reply or will claim to be serious and will ghost out after one or two chat sessions. Lots of BSers!

[Willlburrr]

Its so frustrating. I wish there was an easy way to find out who?s interested without outing myself. Im certain there are guys walking around right now with the desire but not the nerve to say so, just like me.

I didn't expect it to be easy but certainly not this difficult not that I'm looking 24/7 either. I'm hoping it might be easier where I'm at now and time will tell as I'm just starting to put some effort into this.

[jimkimball]

Yes I'd like to find someone to hang with as well Have been looking for awhile now.I ll find someone and it ll last awhile then they disappear but I'd like to find someone into the same stuff I am into so we can be friends in and out of bed and no one is to curious about us.

[P-Henry]

It's extremely hard to find a good FWB, and I can appreciate how much harder it is in a small rural town. And I agree with others that you need to post profiles on various sites. But it's important that you include a narrative description of yourself, what you like and don't like, and what you're looking for. It's important to prepare a profile that is not only accurate but stands out and gives readers reasons why they might want to reach out to you. I'm sure the OP is sincere in wanting to connect with a great guy, but even on this site he has not included a profile that provides a clue what he's like, what he wants, or where he lives. (I understand he referenced "central Illinois" but that needs to be in the profile.) There could be other guys on this site in your area looking for a guy just like you, but you will never connect with them without a good profile that says something that catches their eye. I'm amazed how many guys post profiles on SilverDaddies and other sites that say virtually nothing.

Make no mistake, it will be very hard to find a FWB even with a good profile, but without one you're just wasting your time.

[Jozyxt]

It's extremely hard to find a good FWB, and I can appreciate how much harder it is in a small rural town. And I agree with others that you need to post profiles on various sites. But it's important that you include a narrative description of yourself, what you like and don't like, and what you're looking for. It's important to prepare a profile that is not only accurate but stands out and gives readers reasons why they might want to reach out to you. I'm sure the OP is sincere in wanting to connect with a great guy, but even on this site he has not included a profile that provides a clue what he's like, what he wants, or where he lives. (I understand he referenced "central Illinois" but that needs to be in the profile.) There could be other guys on this site in your area looking for a guy just like you, but you will never connect with them without a good profile that says something that catches their eye. I'm amazed how many guys post profiles on SilverDaddies and other sites that say virtually nothing.

Make no mistake, it will be very hard to find a FWB even with a good profile, but without one you're just wasting your time.

I agree.

I was lucky to find a FWB pretty quick once I put an ad on DL that said a lot about myself and exactly what I wanted. I just connected with a guy that browsed DL and was looking for someone like me. He is about my age and lives alone. We have had some great times together.

And yes there are a lot of flakes looking for beat off fantasies rather than the real thing. Take them for what they are and be open to the idea that everyone is a possible match.

[Willlburrr]

It's extremely hard to find a good FWB, and I can appreciate how much harder it is in a small rural town. And I agree with others that you need to post profiles on various sites. But it's important that you include a narrative description of yourself, what you like and don't like, and what you're looking for. It's important to prepare a profile that is not only accurate but stands out and gives readers reasons why they might want to reach out to you. I'm sure the OP is sincere in wanting to connect with a great guy, but even on this site he has not included a profile that provides a clue what he's like, what he wants, or where he lives. (I understand he referenced "central Illinois" but that needs to be in the profile.) There could be other guys on this site in your area looking for a guy just like you, but you will never connect with them without a good profile that says something that catches their eye. I'm amazed how many guys post profiles on SilverDaddies and other sites that say virtually nothing.

Make no mistake, it will be very hard to find a FWB even with a good profile, but without one you're just wasting your time.

What your saying makes a lot of sense but it's not that easy. You want others to know what your looking for, you want to get some responses from sane guys, I have an ad up on Silverdaddies but no picture, that's not going to happen, I'm just an average sane guy, MWM looking for a local FWB, a this is what I'm interested in, what I'm not interested in, I'm a good guy with a good sense of humor etc.

My thought was to get a local response and an email or two and then meet up for a face to face to see if their is any real interest. Well so far nothing worthwhile has happened, one who told me he got home last night, another who comes off as out of his mind, but nothing worthwhile. It's a new ad, only been up a few days so we'll see what happens. I'm also going to respond to a fit that fit my interests so we still have that.

[Jkf665]

LOL - many of us ARE older guys! (or gurls...)

Indeed! LOL

[Jozyxt]

I answered a ad on DL the other day that I am hoping ill pan out. He is younger than me with a GF but likes to suck cock on the side. He like porn and talking about sex with his GF. We are meeting for coffee tomorrow to get a feel for each other. Because of schedules, we have time to consummate the deal. He seems genuine and is very interested because we live close to each other and both in a relationship.

I may have to devise a curtain for the back seat of my truck to get some privacy. There are plenty of big parking lots where we could meet without anyone getting suspicious. The curtain will just be a dark sheet. The vanilla reason for it will be an ad hoc back seat cover for when I am with friends outdoors.

But it can't be public indecency if no one can see you.

[rich19531953]

Bud, I tried to find you on SD but no info to go on. Start by adding some info here.

[rich19531953]

Bud, I tried to find you on SD but no info to go on. You can start by adding some info here.

[remington12369]

Try going to an adult only night at the local pool or YMCA. I have a fwb that got proposition that way. Besides you get to check out the cocks in the dressing room!

[Jozyxt]

I answered a ad on DL the other day that I am hoping ill pan out.

Once again a cocksucker flaked.

Showed great enthusiasm the night before but failed answer the morning email about how to recognize each other at the coffee shop. And didn't show. There were so few people there it would have been easy to spot a guy looking for me. I guess he got laid that morning and then developed cold feet.

[bikurinpa]

Once again a cocksucker flaked.

Showed great enthusiasm the night before but failed answer the morning email about how to recognize each other at the coffee shop. And didn't show. There were so few people there it would have been easy to spot a guy looking for me. I guess he got laid that morning and then developed cold feet.
You will find that to be a common thing with 99.9% of guys on DL or any the sites.

[licyou69]

The biggest problem I have, and I imagine a lot of bi people have, is it the urge to have a man's cock in my mouth isn't constant. There's times when all I want is to be on my knees with a throbbing cock filling my mouth with hot cum, but there's other times I zero interest in being with a man.

[skuz69]

Had a meet set up for this morning, and he was a no show. If you're going to get cold feet, at least have the courtesy to call it off.

[Neonaught]

Had a meet set up for this morning, and he was a no show. If you're going to get cold feet, at least have the courtesy to call it off.

I've had that happen to me so many times I almost expect it now.

[Jozyxt]

I've had that happen to me so many times I almost expect it now.

Me too.

I suspect many guys are wannabe cocksuckers. They are one stage past watching porn as beat off material but not quite there yet. Others I suspect are occasional cocksucker but ashamed of their desires. I don't go far out of my way for a first meeting so I try to be patient with them in the hope that they will finally come through.

[Neonaught]

Me too.

I suspect many guys are wannabe cocksuckers. They are one stage past watching porn as beat off material but not quite there yet. Others I suspect are occasional cocksucker but ashamed of their desires. I don't go far out of my way for a first meeting so I try to be patient with them in the hope that they will finally come through.

I have always thought the same thing: many seem more in love with the idea than the actual act!

[Wantone1234]

The biggest problem I have, and I imagine a lot of bi people have, is it the urge to have a man's cock in my mouth isn't constant. There's times when all I want is to be on my knees with a throbbing cock filling my mouth with hot cum, but there's other times I zero interest in being with a man.


I feel exactly the same way. Also I don?t want to kiss. Im not interested in the man, only the cock.

[travelmanNW]

Is it to much to ask I want a nice clean cock to suck. If you say yes SHOW UP and get a nice blowjob and you can be on your way

[Cum1st]

The biggest problem I have, and I imagine a lot of bi people have, is it the urge to have a man's cock in my mouth isn't constant. There's times when all I want is to be on my knees with a throbbing cock filling my mouth with hot cum, but there's other times I zero interest in being with a man.

I'm with that, but if the opportunity came up, I'd like to think I'd push myself to do it if I was at the zero side of the graph. I think I'd easily get caught up in it. The missed chances always bother me sometime after.