Rural Action

[PickleRick]

It sure can be hard living this life in a rural area, maybe 50K ppl within a 2 hour drive. A small city with 30k people just beyond that. You'd think there would be more like minded people, and they're probably out there, but they're sure not easy to connect with.

A little background: Attached guy here with a female partner, she is not aware of my bi side, and I have no intention of letting her in on it. Our sex life has been a bit of a flop, she gets horny occasionally, but prefers to lay there and not move while I give it to her, discussing that has only ever led to extended periods of no action at all, we're best friends otherwise.... Me: Always horny, late 30's, a little overweight but not too bad, still have all my hair and teeth haha.
I first got interested in sucking D back in college. My partner told me how one of the guys in her college residence, from back home, would have a buddy up for a weekend time to time and they'd blow eachother :yikes2:, but otherwise chased the girls. I never got in on their fun.

Flash forward 6 years, something snapped in my brain and I needed to try it. Went on craigslist and low and behold, one ad nearby from a guy in his 50's looking, he would host and it was on my way home from work. Tried it, felt weird, decided it wasn't for me.
Needless to say, I changed my mind about it not being for me, it's an urge that hits me about every 6 months and I go on the hunt, with very limited success. I have met up with the original guy once or twice since then.

I would love to find a FWB guy or couple, just something casual, but they just don't seem to be out there in my part of the world. I use doublelist and tinder, so many flakes out there, I'm always upfront about what I'm looking for, inbox is full of dick pics lol, most end up ghosting though.
Maybe it's the same everywhere, I don't know... maybe it's me..?

I have travelled to a city(400k ppl) for work a few times, and not much luck there either, granted I don't get there often. Met up with a guy from there last fall, he said he has no luck at all in the city.
I've been running a couple of ads on doublelist for a long while now, I get the odd response usually from someone asking "ever come to (insert 6 hours away here)?"

Don't mind me, Just venting here. Thanks for reading.

PS Located in Nova Scotia, Canada

[TheBiPoet]

I feel this so much. I'm in much the same boat as you. Kinda a slow progression if curiosity hit me. And I took a chance on it when I got the opportunity. Had a short lived FWB, met on Doublelist, but we conversed a bunch before we did anything. It was great, and I really liked it. We had progressed beyond just oral. I really loved getting cum on. And vice versa. But he moved. Now it just seems like a no man's land. All flakes. All pushy meet now now now types... no thanks. It's gotta be comfortable with someone I yryst.

[BikerJimLV]

I would try different websites to cover more "ground". There's Adam4adam.com (moderate success), Sniffies.com (two hookups)-but don't set your position on your actual address, Silverdaddies.com (good success) and of course Grindr (haven't used). Hopefully this will help you out. Good luck and let us know how it goes.

[jimkimball]

I have better luck finding someone in the city then I do in the country where I live .
I like sucking cocks over 7" and I can do that all day long in the city ,hard to find in the sticks.

[jjourneyman]

It sure can be hard living this life in a rural area, maybe 50K ppl within a 2 hour drive. A small city with 30k people just beyond that. You'd think there would be more like minded people, and they're probably out there, but they're sure not easy to connect with.

A little background: Attached guy here with a female partner, she is not aware of my bi side, and I have no intention of letting her in on it. Our sex life has been a bit of a flop, she gets horny occasionally, but prefers to lay there and not move while I give it to her, discussing that has only ever led to extended periods of no action at all, we're best friends otherwise.... Me: Always horny, late 30's, a little overweight but not too bad, still have all my hair and teeth haha.
I first got interested in sucking D back in college. My partner told me how one of the guys in her college residence, from back home, would have a buddy up for a weekend time to time and they'd blow eachother :yikes2:, but otherwise chased the girls. I never got in on their fun.

Flash forward 6 years, something snapped in my brain and I needed to try it. Went on craigslist and low and behold, one ad nearby from a guy in his 50's looking, he would host and it was on my way home from work. Tried it, felt weird, decided it wasn't for me.
Needless to say, I changed my mind about it not being for me, it's an urge that hits me about every 6 months and I go on the hunt, with very limited success. I have met up with the original guy once or twice since then.

I would love to find a FWB guy or couple, just something casual, but they just don't seem to be out there in my part of the world. I use doublelist and tinder, so many flakes out there, I'm always upfront about what I'm looking for, inbox is full of dick pics lol, most end up ghosting though.
Maybe it's the same everywhere, I don't know... maybe it's me..?

I have travelled to a city(400k ppl) for work a few times, and not much luck there either, granted I don't get there often. Met up with a guy from there last fall, he said he has no luck at all in the city.
I've been running a couple of ads on doublelist for a long while now, I get the odd response usually from someone asking "ever come to (insert 6 hours away here)?"

Don't mind me, Just venting here. Thanks for reading.

PS Located in Nova Scotia, Canada


I feel for you. When I was living in SoCal, I could find all kinds of action. Bubble butts, cocksuckers were plentiful. Or I could find FWBs easily. When I moved to a rural area, it was like the entire sex pool dried up. Now it takes an act of Congress to find anyone who isn't inhibited (female or male). Covid only made a bad situation worse.

[KDaddy23]

An acquaintance who came from a small, rural town told me that it's like living in "Peyton Place." Everyone knows everyone and there were few secrets and lots of "scandals" and rumors about who was fucking who, who's the baby momma/daddy and he'd said that it made being able to get some dick incredibly hard. He'd said that even if he went to a neighboring town, the folks where he lived knew about it and might have even know why he went on a road trip. He'd told me about a time where a guy came to visit him and the townsfolk were all up in the business and giving the poor guy the third degree and especially about why he was there.

I've written about my country cousins, who lived in very rural parts of Virginia so I had an idea of what he was talking about; I understood why my cousins were, um, keeping it in the family since the closest neighbor could literally be miles away and one cousin in such an area told me that you couldn't sneeze without "everyone" knowing that you sneezed.

My protege had a FWB who lived in a rural town in Texas and he was initially unnerved by how the folks there was behaving: Why was he there, who was he visiting, why was he visiting this guy, etc. I told him what I knew about such places and that chances were that the people there already knew why he was there because they already knew that his FWB was gay.

Finally, I was away on a business trip and ran into a guy who was very eager to suck my dick and to be fucked. He explained that he was from a small, rural town with a population around 1500 people and being able to have sex with anyone was almost impossible because everybody knew everyone and everything. I agreed to have sex with him not because I was horny but because I felt so much compassion for him because I couldn't imagine what it was like to live in such a place and literally having everyone knowing my business.

[Modude]

I can relate to this, when my wife and I were in the lifestyle, we didn't dare give our location on our profile as the town closest to where we live.
We would make it a larger town usually about thirty miles from where we lived, and never, ever put any face pics on the sites, we even kept the background as generic as possible. Because, and especially in small rural communities, there are people that make it THEIR business to know EVERYONE else's business......

[KDaddy23]

I didn't live or grow up in a rural environment but I lived in inner city neighborhoods where everyone knew everyone else's business and especially who was fucking whom and all the juicy details. My first wife and I were open - and the whole neighborhood seemed to know it - and we would often play with other couples - and they knew that, too - and it just amazed me since this wasn't information we felt was for "public consumption" and we confirmed that the couple we had sex with didn't say anything to anyone about it... or so they said. I had sucked a guy off one day and an hour later, some guy let me know that he knew that I'd did that and I'll be damned if I knew how he knew because the guy I sucked off was... sleeping it off on my sofa.

Weird.

[BiProbeBabe]

Isn’t that the truth. It’s hard when your zip code is EIEIO ��