Calling all bisexuals! I need your help!!

[bigirl_inwv]

A very talented blogger on Myspace.com wrote a blog about the benefits and downfalls of being straight compared to homosexual. She challenged her homosexual readers to post similar blogs arguing their points on homosexuality as opposed to heterosexual. I read all of them and they all had very valid points. However, I pointed out to her that, once again, we bisexuals have been brushed under the rug on this one. As stated many times before, we catch shit from both sides of the fence. Not to mention all of the "Are you sure you aren't just going through a phase?" comments.

She challenged me to write a blog from the bisexual standpoint. Having only been, for lack of a better word, a "practicing" bisexual for about a year, I lack the experience that so many of you have. So, I want your opinions.

What do bisexuals understand that straight/homosexual people don't?
What kind of things happen to bisexuals that don't happen to straight/homosexuals?

You get the picture. Post your ideas, comments, and opinions. I want to portray the bisexual community in the best way possible and I know that I cannot do that alone. I will be sure to post a copy of the blog here so you all can read it if you are interested.

Thanks!!!

[LoveLion]

I bet you can find alot of what your looking for just by browsing around the site :bigrin:

Be sure to check out some of the topics such as the "Bi Brochure" Lorcan is working on.

Theres so much information, views, opinions and experiences posted on this site that you could probably write a book on it, let alone a blog.

Good luck!

[MrFahrenheit]

What do bisexuals understand that straight/homosexual people don't?


I'm more aware of what women want than my straight friends are (which is why women tend to like me more than them). This is because I know what is attractive in a man, and apply those things to myself.

You could say gay guys have that 'advantage' too. They however, can only put it to use on other gay men.

This is the best I could think of for now, I'll try to give it some more thought. ;)

[ancestral]

i agree mrfahr, we definately have more insight into women being a bit more feminine ourselves, what do we know that hetero and gay dont? nothing as far as i know and ive been bi for almost 20 years. the best way i can put it for me anyway, it doesnt matter to me if your white/black/brown/or purple/male/female/christian/pagan/bhuddist/muslim/ whatever. i fall in love with people, sometimes its purely physical attraction both male and female, mostly i fall for intellect and emotions first, i dont personally think sex as in having sex is a big motivater for being bisexual, for me its just an added perk to make love to someone you care deeply for. i think we have the advantage of being more intuitive with both men and women only because we are more open to receiving and giving from both sides. one thing ive noticed is that bisexuals as a general rule are more abstract in everything we do, a little more free flowing with our words and emotions. and we tend to be unisexual with conversations, i.e. not appealing to one side more than the other but rather neutral. of course there are exceptions to every rule. hope this helps

[someotherguy]

Q: What do bisexuals understand that straight/homosexual people don't?

A: Good feelings need not be sanctioned, they just are.
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Q: What kind of things happen to bisexuals that don't happen to straight/homosexuals?

A: The same things happen, but both at once.

[welickit]

We are both bisexual and very comfortable with it. As we see it, gays and lesbians are, for the most part more or less accepted. When someone finds out you are bisexual or you post a profile as bisexual, you become radioactive material. We think bisexuals are more accepted in the gay and lesbian community than elsewhere in society. Most of our friends are either gay or lesbian and we do volunteer work for the "Pride" events here in Florida. One other thing we can add is that the majority of bisexual men are cheating on a wife they married for better or worse. No communication. That brings us all a bad name. :2cents:

[LoveLion]

I think Bisexuals have a stronger ability to self analyse and look within more the others. Unlike heteros and homos when we analyse our selves and really take a look at what in isdie us and how we feel, we have an ability to accept whatever is there. I think when homos and hertros take a look at themselves they try to suppress things they dont like, or change things that they feel uncomfortable with, or compare what they feel to a greater social standard. With Bis its more of a objective look. We see, we accept, and we make it part of our lives rather then hiding anything or trying to change ourselves. This goes for sex and for every thing else as well.

Reading and posting on this board for about a month has driven me to this conclusion.

Good luck on the blog

[mannysg]

My contribution:
Bi people can more easily feel comfortable in either a gay or straight bar/club.


And something that close friend said: When you're bi, you double your chances of having a date on Friday night.

[CountryLover]

[QUOTE=LoveLion]I think Bisexuals have a stronger ability to self analyse and look within more the others.


Lovelion, after more than 10 years hanging out with my bi guys, this is exactly the same conclusion I came to a long time ago. It's exactly why I decided on a bi man for a husband when it was time to remarry.

It was one of the best decisions I've ever made ;)

[the sacred night]

I think Bisexuals have a stronger ability to self analyse and look within more the others. Unlike heteros and homos when we analyse our selves and really take a look at what in isdie us and how we feel, we have an ability to accept whatever is there. I think when homos and hertros take a look at themselves they try to suppress things they dont like, or change things that they feel uncomfortable with, or compare what they feel to a greater social standard. With Bis its more of a objective look. We see, we accept, and we make it part of our lives rather then hiding anything or trying to change ourselves. This goes for sex and for every thing else as well.


That doesn't apply to me... I'm just as insecure as my straight and gay friends, although maybe about different things. I have things I don't like about myself, and I think everyone does.

I don't know that there's anything we understand that gays/str8s don't, but maybe we are more fortunate to be able to see beauty in both sexes. I don't understand how anyone could look at either sex and say "ew." I was discussing my bisexuality with a Christian friend of mine and I think I summed it up pretty well when I said "Both sexes are made in the image of God, right? So why is it wrong to see the beauty in both?"

[Long Duck Dong]

[What do bisexuals understand that straight/homosexual people don't?]

bisexuals understand the workings of a bisexual, from the inside out...on a level that a non bisexual would most likely struggle with

to put bisexuals in a class of uniqueness, requires that they are, indeed unique...and many of the traits that a bisexual can display in relating to and understanding aspects of the human races and the different sexes, are also found in non bisexuals

in my opinion, its not the sexuality, but the mindset of the person..... a anti gay hetero will never understand the desire or attraction for a same sex person, but a bi sexual would be able to relate to it on many levels

bisexuals have the ability to understand opposite and same sex desires, attractions and relationships, more than the average, hetero or gay.... but that is NOT bisexual exclusive

only a full natured bisexual / * true * bisexual ( I am refering to the bisexuals that have the traits and charactisics of both sexes, in body ( excluding sex organs ), mind and emotional levels )...has the ability to understand something that defies medical and psychological science... and that is the ability to live in the same body with two different and very distinction masculine and feminine sides, that are each one and the same personality
its not to be confused with crossdressing, multiple personality disorder etc etc
the * twin spirit * nature is akin to indentical twins, one male and one female...sharing the same body, mind, emotions and single personality....however the musculine and feminine sides show thru very clearly at different times


[What kind of things happen to bisexuals that don't happen to straight/homosexuals?]

ONLY and i strictly say ONLY... if straights and gays didn't blur the lines with sexuality, would bisexuals become the only sexual group to experience dual sex experiences

things like bi phobia, homo phobia etc happen to all people at different times... so it is not a bi sexual exclusive area....gossip is awesome at making a issue out of something that isn't true and damaging a persons image with a false sexual label

[bisexual versus the world, for better or worse]

bisexuals have the odd distinction of being the most diverse group around
under the umbrella of bisexuality, rests the crossdresser, the transvestite and the transexual, the bisexual, the bi curious, the undecided, the confused... and we embrace them as part of the family

now the gay comminity like to be pretty exclusive, holding the umbrella over gays and lesbians.....

but without a doubt the one group that likes to be exclusive and avoid facing the facts, has to be the heteros.... they like to be the straights of the world, the heroes and heroines of the human race....and yet they are quick to isolate the sexual groups that find a good part of the hetero group
pedophiles, zoophilics, nercophilics etc
now I am not saying that they are exclusively hetero..... but they do largely belong under the hetero umbrella cos that is their base sexuality.....
human sexuality is defined by the sex of the partner..... zoophilics step outside the human race for their chosen sexual experiences but they have human partners as well.....and necrophilics choose a form of sexual expression that is STILL part of the human race... tho many of us perfer live partners

pedophilies need no explaination... just a bullet ( please excuse my rather unneutral comment )

do bisexuals have a better sex life ????..... compared to what ???.. a celibate person ???.... fuck me.... why is it people think that bisexual means fuckoholic...sex maniac....mattress back.... full time swinger....orgy central ????....
seriously bisexuals have sexual desires and wants.... but we are human... we like to love and be loved... a marriage / relationship partner makes us glow brightly and also being single can make us glow brightly...

to think that we have a better or worse sex life, is to first draw a line on the ground and line all the heteros on it, then ask the bisexuals to take a side.... one side is better and the other side is worse.... and then deny us the right to stand with the heterosexuals.....

our sex life is no better or worse... its more diverse but .... we are no different from the rest of the world..... it is not our bisexuality that decides our sex life... but our personality, our life and our personal choice, that dictates our sex life

in all and total seriousness... what is the difference being bisexual, heterosexual and homosexual ????

the spelling of the words, bi, hetero and homo.... we are all sexual beings and humans

[ancestral]

only a full natured bisexual / * true * bisexual ( I am refering to the bisexuals that have the traits and charactisics of both sexes, in body ( excluding sex organs ), mind and emotional levels )...has the ability to understand something that defies medical and psychological science... and that is the ability to live in the same body with two different and very distinction masculine and feminine sides, that are each one and the same personality
its not to be confused with crossdressing, multiple personality disorder etc etc
the * twin spirit * nature is akin to indentical twins, one male and one female...sharing the same body, mind, emotions and single personality....however the musculine and feminine sides show thru very clearly at different times

i agree with this completely, i hate to differentiate but true bisexuals do exhibit both male and female traits, in the way we talk, move, act, react, and relate.
though to be fair, i think everyone has the potential to explore if not incorporate these same attributes whether they be straight bi or gay, we all have the potential, its just a question of whether or not you choose to acknowledge then accept it.

[LoveLion]

I don't understand how anyone could look at either sex and say "ew."

I know exactly what you mean. I was talking to a friend the other day and I said I wanna go see the film Borat. He said to me "Ew, dude you see a naked guy in that, why would you wanna see it?"

I dont understand that at all? I mean there is nothing on a guy that makes me feel notious or anything that I find unappealing. There are really very few differences between male and female bodies (2 legs, 2 arms, bully button, 2 nipples) and the differences arent anything that I can feel wrong looking at. To me both are very attractive.

Even if I wasnt Bi, I dont think I would have an eversion to naked male bodies.

[Herbwoman39]

What do bisexuals understand that straight/homosexual people don't?

Something I haven't seen mention of yet is that we as bisexuals understand that sexuality is NOT binary. It is not an either/or proposition. Instead it exists on a multi-dimensional scale.

What kind of things happen to bisexuals that don't happen to straight/homosexuals?

No one tells straight or gay people that they don't exist. They don't have to deal with the visibility issues that we do. They also don't have to deal with people telling them that being straight or gay "is just a phase".