Rude people

[lilbitsva]

I have but only one thang to say to people that are rude "BACK OFF!!!" I hate people who think that they know everything. This site is for the use of everyone and is hear for everyone to use and to enjoy themselves. Haven't your parents ever told the smart people that "If you don't have nothing nice to say don't say nothing at all." I hate people who are mean to people they don't even know. Have you ever had that one person get under your skin. I look at the good in everything like they say what comes around goes around. Carma get everyone. Especially the ones that ask for it. lil bit

[ambi53mm]

Well said, Lil bit

Ambi :)

[deletetacount123]

Suddenly Im in love with you lilbitsva :) You said it perfectly.
I hate rude people too. I think if you don't like something then DON'T read it. Mean people are hurtful.... I don't know why some people think its ok to hurt others. :(

"If you don't have nothing nice to say don't say nothing at all" <-------- One of my favortie sayings.

I know if I don't like a post, I don't reply or read it again.

*hugs you*

[lilbitsva]

Thank ya'll for the wonderful posts. I just hate it so much when a person thinks that they can harm someone and not think that someone isnt' going to take up for them. I hate mean people but they will get there come around thanks again lil bit

[flexuality]

I have but only one thang to say to people that are rude "BACK OFF!!!" I hate people who think that they know everything. This site is for the use of everyone and is hear for everyone to use and to enjoy themselves. Haven't your parents ever told the smart people that "If you don't have nothing nice to say don't say nothing at all." I hate people who are mean to people they don't even know. Have you ever had that one person get under your skin. I look at the good in everything like they say what comes around goes around. Carma get everyone. Especially the ones that ask for it. lil bit

I'm really feeling confused by what you're saying.

I don't like rudeness either....but sometimes I might take something as being rude, while the person saying it is not intending it to be rude, so I think that sometimes it's in the "eye of the beholder."

I don't really "hate" anyone....so I am unclear as to what you mean by that. I sometimes hate what people DO, but find it difficult to "hate" an entire person. Maybe I'm weird......wouldn't be the first time! lol!

How can this site be "for everyone" if we come up with a "rule" that says "except this kind of person and except that kind of person?"

I don't think there is such thing as a "mean person".....I think that everyone can be mean sometimes. Some people just do it more than others.

I feel confused as to why I should only say "nice" things.....I posted a thread a while back about my frustrations with dealing with my autisitic daughter and some of the things I said in there might not have been nice.

What do you mean by "nice?"

I am just trying to understand what you are saying is all. :rolleyes:

[Lisa (va)]

I for one try my best not to be rude or disrespectful of others, and thus far most of the folks I have encountered on this site are quite nice and accepting. When you deal with individuals you must take into account their personalities, never be too quick to judge others (in fact who am I to judge anyone for that matter). There have been persons here that upon initial impression seemed rude and downright arrogant but in time when you realize how to take into account the personality of the individual there are quite nice as well. Personally I have found when you deal with folks in a nice manner they usually treat you the same way in return, we don't have to agree on everything, just respect there are and will always be differences.

Lisa

hugs n kisses

[woolleycouple]

I have but only one thang to say to people that are rude "BACK OFF!!!" I hate people who think that they know everything. This site is for the use of everyone and is hear for everyone to use and to enjoy themselves. Haven't your parents ever told the smart people that "If you don't have nothing nice to say don't say nothing at all." I hate people who are mean to people they don't even know. Have you ever had that one person get under your skin. I look at the good in everything like they say what comes around goes around. Carma get everyone. Especially the ones that ask for it. lil bit


You said it babe Karma is a kicker. You treat others how you want to be treated that is how I raise my children you show kindness you will be show kindness. But rude, ignorant and plain obnoxious(spelling) people you know karma will bite them in the :mad: . Ok *I will try to be good. Happy thoughts.

[Solomon]

yep... that's the current medical solution, if something feels bad or even uncomfortable, then medicate it away

of course it also forces us to forever be stuck in the same situation as today.. over... and over.... and over...

so for those who enjoy insanity it sounds pretty good to medicate and medicate and medicate lol

but the truth is found in the embrace of the beast that's medicated away

i'm not looking to offend anyone, but to share wisdom that's been passed to me.....

[mouse46]

:bibounce: This is for the new people who try to come in the site and join in the conversation only to be ignored. Very, very rude I think to do that to someone who is clearly trying to meet friends and maybe find more. I find that acceptance is important for finding friends. If they don't allow you to talk then friends can't be made. They clearly have misjudged you because of who you were at one time talking to, but no-longer are. Rudeness being my point of view, ignorance, period. I have recently come to change who I talk to finding those type the ones that want to change you to their ways when instead should have excepted me as I was.So I will try again to enter this site with hopes of acceptance of those whom have been so rude. :bibounce P.S For those who want to chat commmon courtesy would be to read a person profile first. I find that to be rude. Thank youfor the article. :flag1:

[InsaneTyga]

Sadly, this is the internet. Rude people abound wherever you turn.

The internet makes it easy to be mean and hateful towards people, In most cases we're a world apart from each other. All that represents us is code and text, it leads to a feeling of security, a feeling of "I can say whatever I want, if people get pissed, so what? they don't know who I am, they cant touch me"

I see it quite a bit on this very site, especially in the chat room. For example, I've been harassed, sworn at, called a fag and pretty much every other name you can think of (mainly because i don't want to plaster naked pictures of myself all over the internet or to cyber with someone) in both IM's and in general chat. I've seen it happen to others as well. People tend to be mean and nasty if they don't get their own way (not all people, just some) But they're safe. It's not like I can walk/drive around to their house and beat 15 colors of shit out of them for what they say, even if I wanted too.

I treat others with the same respect that they show me, if your rude..expect to be dealt with the same way or expect to be ignored. I've been around the internet for a long time, theres nothing anyone can say to me that I haven't heard before.

In closing, it's just text....it only gets to you if you let it

~Tyga's :2cents:

[GreenEyedLady(GEL)]

I havnt read everyone's post here about this topic , but there is something very very valuable that this site offers in chat and that is the ignore option. Trust me when I say that it is extremely useful , and I use it plenty. Before I starting utilizing this option I found myself arguing regularly with some that I too would consider rude and obnoxious. Funny thing , the joke was on me because I let those particular individuals annoy me. Ive never been the sort to keep my mouth shut nor do I mind stepping to the plate if someone wants to pick at me. So I've learned that rather having someone spoil my fun, ignore them, even when I have to do it countless times because they leave and come back , leave and come back lol

There are alot of good people on this site, and often times we do get carried away in conversation and not realize someone has just entered the room, and who might be a new comer. Most of us do try our best tho to extend a warm welcome. I hope you keep coming to the site, ive come to consider a number of people here part of my family because they make up for the lack of family that lives out of state. Im sure if you keep coming back you too will feel the same.

Gel

[lilbitsva]

I want to thank everyone for your reply's. I have read all of the post up to this point. When i say that i hate rude people it's just that i hate what they are doing. I don't hate but a few people in my life. I think that mean people are the people that just keep attacking you no matter what you do. And when i say everyone that means everyone. No matter whether you are bisexual or not you can come to this site. i know that it's for bisexual people but i'm sure that more then bi's come hear. I also want to say that sometiems you have to be mean. But i'm talking about the people that have nothing but negative things to say. I hate that, If you have nothing nice to say then don't say nothing at all. Sometimes there isnt' nothing nice to say but that is different from what i'm talking about. I'm talking about the people that every post that they have or nothing nice. I have come across some wonderful people hear. I just posted this thread because i was upset i know that i shouldn't have done that. But i feel that if you don't get your feelings out that they will come back to get you. The whole carma thang that is true for those of you that pick, bully, be rude, and all other things that are mean dont' think that it won't come back to you because no matter how you look at it one of these days it will come back to you. All of you that have told me about your stories about things that have happen to you i thank you for that. That means alot to me that you would share that with me. lil bit

[BiMSlutDFW]

New guy here...

I agree that rudeness sucks rocks. And yes, I have noticed that often people seem to think the internet makes them bulletproof and they can be as hateful as they like. Well, I suppose they're right, they can.

I am a bard, words are my weapon of choice. That, and with my personal motto being Cave Tyranniam Timorium Suorum (beware the tyranny of your fears), I suppose I am more likely to "take unacceptable risks" than some people.

When someone is rude to me out of the blue I consider them to have just designated themselves a target of opportunity. Most of us have at least something of a cruel streak in us somewhere. People who delight in being shitty to strangers are people I feel I can be as mean to as I like and not feel bad about it. After all, they volunteered.

Granted, I personally feel that everyone has the right to be just as rude and offensive as they please. It's called freedom of speech. But likewise, if someone chooses to be a dickhead, it is my right to treat them as one.

Let's see... I have asked someone in a chat room if they were raised by wolves or something, because they obviously didn't learn manners from *humans*. I have asked people if they were so irrational as to believe that being hateful to strangers made them look cool or sexy. Because rather than just flaming I debated the validity of their behavior, often people have become even more hateful and offensive. As such, I have had people threaten to come to my apartment with guns. I quietly gave them my *actual* address, what time they could expect me home, and informed them that they wouldn't be the first person to shoot at me, wouldn't be the first person to hit, and wouldn't be the first person I had taken a gun away from. Which is all true, by the way...

I guess the point of all this rambling is that when someone acts that way, don't just snap a return shot at them. Take your time, stay calm and rational, and consider your target carefully. Don't just fire, fire *for effect*. Do that a few times and even the most ignorant lout will learn that it is in his self-interest to keep his mouth shut around you.

And if you aren't willing to send back as good or better than you got.... well, an earlier poster said it best: Ignore is Your Friend.

Slut

"The man who raises a fist is a man who has run out of ideas." - HG Wells

[Keliana]

I have but only one thang to say to people that are rude "BACK OFF!!!" I hate people who think that they know everything. This site is for the use of everyone and is hear for everyone to use and to enjoy themselves. Haven't your parents ever told the smart people that "If you don't have nothing nice to say don't say nothing at all." I hate people who are mean to people they don't even know. Have you ever had that one person get under your skin. I look at the good in everything like they say what comes around goes around. Carma get everyone. Especially the ones that ask for it. lil bit

Ahhh....a woman of character!

[biwords]

... when someone acts that way, don't just snap a return shot at them. Take your time, stay calm and rational, and consider your target carefully. Don't just fire, fire *for effect*.


This reminds me of the wise old saying that 'revenge is a dish best eaten cold'.

[The Cheshire Cat]

*Scratching my head...* I have been comming to this site for a couple of years...and I have never met a rude or hateful person yet. Is it just me-or am I not worthy? :rolleyes: lol

[flexuality]

This reminds me of the wise old saying that 'revenge is a dish best eaten cold'.
Wasn't that from "the Wrath Of Khan"?? as a quote from the Klingons? :rolleyes:

[lilbitsva]

Hey keliana thanks I loved your post. To The Cheshire Cat If you haven't meets some of these people then you are very lucky. I have come into contact with more then a few hear. You should feel very lucky. Maybe one of these days you will cross the path of one and you will understand. lil bit

[TaylorMade]

I have but only one thang to say to people that are rude "BACK OFF!!!" I hate people who think that they know everything. This site is for the use of everyone and is hear for everyone to use and to enjoy themselves. Haven't your parents ever told the smart people that "If you don't have nothing nice to say don't say nothing at all." I hate people who are mean to people they don't even know. Have you ever had that one person get under your skin. I look at the good in everything like they say what comes around goes around. Carma get everyone. Especially the ones that ask for it. lil bit

It's the internet... this is where the mean people of the world are distilled into one easy to reach area.
Unless they institiute some sort of screening for use of the internet, mean people will be one facet of it.

*Taylor*