Are We Really Just Fence Sitters?

[DuskTillDawn]

Scuse me while I vent some frustration

I just done a google search on whether or not bisexuality exsists. I was curious about what the majorities opinion was. I done the search knowing full well it would probably just wind me up but my curiosity needed satisfied.

How can people make judgements on things its imposible for them to understand. If your not bisexual you cant possibly say whether it exsists or not because you cant judge something without having experienced it!

Bisexual isnt even officially defined so it is not a debatable matter.

You would think with so many people in the world identifying as bisexual people would have some faith by now. Why would so many people tell the same lie about thier feelings?

I cannot stand judgemental people!!!

The worst part, is that when I finally get to come out I'm goin to have to resist attacking people like that. Might need to learn some control before then.

I know this is goin to happen alot but Im still a newbie.

Thank you for putting up with my rant- i really needed it.

[Dagni]

People always judging about everything, and i don't see any reason to be mad about it.

Ok, we're bisexuals, they're don't, so i don't see any reason for aggressive behaivour when you come out. If someone can't understand that, you don't know have to defend yourself at all. I think it's wasting time to explain to straight people why are you bi.

It's easy, just come out, turn around and enjoy in biseuxal life.

[DiamondDog]

I've posted my opinions about this before (see your poem post) but I embrace the terms fence sitter and switch hitter and I don't mind if I get called these terms by gay friends.

It's like how as queer people we can use words like faggot and dyke and it's not offensive or a slur.

[LoveLion]

Yeah, I know what you mean. I have a friend who has this opinion about bisexuality, and I get furious at him when ever we get talking about it. I just avoid the subject in conversation now. It seem so natural that so many people think they know what is going on in your head better then you do. Sometimes a little verbal aggression can remind them how stupid they are being. Dont get to carried away though and do something you might regret! :tongue:

[bearisbare]

One of my favourite pictures from a Pride celebration is of a bisexual person at San Francisco Pride, with a decoration on his head. It was a fence. The slogan on it said "This Fence Feels Good".

[Long Duck Dong]

lol I don't actually exist as a bisexual... I am a pansexual ( omnisexual )
it simply means that I don't have a preference to male or female or both
I simply love people and so I can love intersex, trans, shemales, any form of the human body in any gender / sex form.....

[DiamondDog]

honestly I gave up trying to please others a long time ago.

Here's how you don't get boxed in, you don't give a FUCK as to what others think of you.

I could care less if someone thinks that I'm gay, or meets me and thinks I'm homosexual based on how I look or if I happen to be wearing things that would identify me as queer.

[TxGuy]

I've not yet gotten the oppertunity to be harrassed about my sexuality. Is it a bad thing that I feel left out?

Anyways, should I ever, I would say it's about whom I have feelings for at that moment. I can fall in love with either sex, it's all about personality, similar interests, and attraction. Man or woman, if they fit the bill then it doesn't matter to me what sex they are.

[biwords]

Rather than get all upset or attempt to convince someone who levels the 'fence sitter' charge, I'd be inclined just to respond "You're wrong". If asked to back up this statement, I'd just add "Experience" or perhaps "I don't care to argue the point". Hey presto, end of THAT discussion....

[Solomon]

i used to sit on fences sometimes... i guess i am a fencesitter...?

is that a bad thing?

it was the only place to sit in the whole field! i've not sit on a fence in ages! honest!

[darkeyes]

Thing bout sittin on a fence..afta a while it makes ya arse numb...prefer 2 hav sum real feelin...but no me not sittin on fence.. bein bi aint..for me its bout who I am, an livin..

[Tulsatomcat]

I personally don't beleive that there is such a thing as bi-sexuality. Or straight or gay sexuality.
Need a new heading of TRY-sexuality!

[Enoll]

Here's how you don't get boxed in, you don't give a FUCK as to what others think of you.


I may not know you Dog, but I'll be damned if you haven't won my respect.

[happyjoe68]

Labels liberate, but they can also oppress. I think its OK if you want to give a label to yourself. I choose not to because being bi is just one feature of me, and it would obscure those others aspects of myself that are just as important. There is a danger of applying labels to others since that often involves the projection of your worldview onto the other person - if someone doesnt see/define themselves as Bi then other people dont really have the right to call that person Bi.

[12voltman59]

I agree with much of what has been said here--especially with Diamond Dog's statement: "honestly I gave up trying to please others a long time ago."

It is not possible to please other people or try to live up to their standards or ways of looking at the world--in the end--you can only do for yourself what you feel is best.

I guess for me--what I want is for us to just be able to live the way we want to without value judgements made on us by others and I don't want us to be restricted from living our lives in the way we see fit.

It always gets me--when the whole issue of gay marriage comes up--like it is in some of our states---those opposing that always say "the gays want special rights"--bull crap--they just want to be able to live their lives like everyone else does--by declaring their love and fidelity for one person--those family value types should be cheering that---gay marriage does not threaten the marriage of any straight person---promiscuity by straight people does--the promiscuity of either party in any particular marriage and promiscuity in general are the culprits that threaten a straight person's marriage-----a gay or bi person's promiscuity is no threat to a straight person, unless they themselves are both wanting to "step out" generally or with gay or bi person in the particular!

For me--I don't like any kind of label-to be put into some kind of neat little box--that pretty much goes for anything in my life--just like politics--I may tend to the "liberal" side of things in most regards but not all and the way "liberal" or "conservative" are defined in such narrow fashions today-neither serve me well--but we do seem to have to labels attached to us!!!!

When I first came here-I classified myself as "bicurious" and that was an accurate label for me at the time-at least it got as close to what my feelings and such were at the time.

As I posted in a recent thread--I do now know that I am bisexual---and for reasons that really go far beyond merely sex---I won't go into them here-but suffice it to say that is what I have found for myself-

My desires to be with both men and women-are part of me--and I have my own explanations as to why that is so--they are there and they are natural ones--as much a part of me as things like my height, the color of my eyes, etc.

Label it what you will--I just am me!!!!!

Just another person trying to get through life the best way he can----