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deletetacount123
May 18, 2007, 11:54 AM
Watching a Julia Stiles (Shes hot!) Movie, I got to thinking my own "10 things I hate about you".....
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10 Things I Hate About You: A letter to my ex

1. I hate that you lied to me, tricked me into a relationship.

2. I hate that you married me only for the sake of BEING married cause all your friends were, also that you used me as someone to have a quickie with whenever YOU felt like it. My needs/wants were of no concern to you.

3. I hate that you spent all your time playing online games making me feel like I wasn't important.

4. I hate you used my hearing impairment as an excuse not to have converstations with me, when I tired, all you had to say was one sentence while you told people on voice chat your day and accussed me of being unfair when I asked you to talk to me more.

5. I hate how you could never have a serious converstation with me. You would get moody and not want to talk about it at all even tho some topics were important.

6. I hate how you stole 10 thousand from me (grandpa's gift for me when he died.) and never returned it then claiming you never took it.

7. I hate how you tried to put me in a loveless relationship knowing full well I come from a background where everyone loves everyone and that kisses/hugs play a big part.

8. I hate how you commented on my body, making me feel very ugly and unwanted. You never had one nice thing to say and even when I had my "feeling hot and sexy" days you made me feel down and terrible about it.

9. I hate how you made me feel worthless and a failure. Saying pretty much what guys in the past have said to me. You knew how I felt about myself yet you wanted me to feel worse about it. I am happy Im stronger now to and won the battle of depression you brough on.

10. I hate how after we split, you told your mother and everyone that I cheated on you, when you knew full well I am against cheating. At least Im being the truthful one when I tell everyone the REAL reason why we split.

Now my life is taking the turn for the better.
The Depression that started to grow so strong is fading and I am surprised I was able to get through when it almost killed me once long ago.

I am in a happier place. All my memories of you is being washed away down a river.
Say all you want, for I know Im correct. You made me realize some important things however in my life that I had been hiding.

Goodbye.

Da Doctor
May 18, 2007, 1:32 PM
Good for you Tasha. It's very healthy to get those kind of emotions out.

Happy Healing

DuskTillDawn
May 18, 2007, 3:16 PM
Thats a great movie! God I love Heath Ledger!

and ye, its good to get that out of your system. Im glad your doin better now!

biwords
May 18, 2007, 3:18 PM
On the other hand we have the advice of the great Samuel Johnson (writing in 1751):

"A wise man will make haste to forgive, because he knows the true value of time, and will not suffer it to pass away in unnecessary pain. He that willingly suffers the corrosions of inveterate hatred, and gives up his days and nights to the gloom of malice...cannot surely be said to consult his [own] ease...[but] may justly be numbered among the most miserable of human beings...[and] of him that hopes to be forgiven, it is indispensably required that he forgive". -- Rambler, No. 185

sexybicplinwv
May 18, 2007, 3:39 PM
Dear Tasha... Are you sure you was in a relationship? Because it seem to me this person meaning your ((EX)) Was just useing you :( She is the one that should feel terribile not you shame on her, I am glad that you are geting strong you dont need this person in your life, Be ((HAPPY)) and smile, Because you know what they say (((What Go AROUND COME AROUND)))... Just my :2cents: :female:

Bisexualnewbie
May 18, 2007, 5:07 PM
Hi Tasha,
Good for you, it feels good to write things down that we want to get off our chests, even as you say he will never see it.
Your a better person than he can ever be or hope to be and Karma will come around and bite his ass.
Now your free to live YOUR life and I hope you find everything you ever want or need in life.
Have a great weekend.

Andy

ladydelanie
May 18, 2007, 5:40 PM
Oh Goodness...

Dear Ex Husband.....of too many yrs..
This could be very good......However I will keep it simple.
I hate you but I forgive you.....This you know.....So to make it very simple in terms of my feelings........

I hate everything about you X10.........Simply said! :bigrin:

Ladyd :)

innaminka
May 18, 2007, 6:44 PM
A concise list, Tasha.
Talking/writing does help the healing process.

Now, time to move on, girl.

If you live in the past - letting the dislikes fester and multiply you'll never grow.

Let the whole thing go. Learn by your pain, but only go forward from now on.

deletetacount123
May 18, 2007, 7:03 PM
Yep. :) Now in talks with the lawyer to do the divorce stuff (now that 1 year is over lol stupid law that you have to be separated at least a year before divorcing.... why can Hollywood couples get divorced within months?!?!)

Just wanted to get that out of my system and now ITS TIME TO MOOOOOOOOOOVE ON!!!!!!!!! YIPPIE :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :)

Thats why Im trashing (or giving away) and writing things... everything that reminds me of my ex. I have issues when I can't forget someone just cause I have something reminding me so.

My mom saw him recently and said he looked REALLY bad..... gained tons of weight and all. She was saying this while I was admiring myself in the mirror lol I love my body. Been working out more now and work of course plays a part lol (lifting stuff!!)

Im happy now :)

Tasha

arana
May 18, 2007, 7:57 PM
I hope this was good therapy for you Tasha and it's the start of your new life of freedom and happiness.

onewhocares
May 19, 2007, 3:14 AM
Tasha,

I am SO SO proud of you. Getting this off your chest is a great sign that you have moved forward. Now is the time that you get to work on the most important person...YOU.

Belle

ladydelanie
May 19, 2007, 4:49 PM
Tasha,

Can you tell I read the post ALL wrong in the first place! :eek:
I was telling my ex off.......LOL!

I would like to tell you congrats for facing the issue of your ex. It does get better I swear. A few things I have learned from being divorced.

1. Don't let it tarnish your views on love, just don't give up. The RIGHT person is there for you!

2. Forgive him. Just dont ever forget. That way you wont allow this to happen to you again.

3. Remember if he has or does move on, and the person knows what he did to you and forgives him, well.......they deserve him.

4. Keep your distance from him. There is nothing written that says we have to be friends with our ex's. Its just always possible.


5. Take your time when searching for love. Don't settle for anything less then what you know you want and need.

6. Live life to the fullest and be happy. This is for you, your peace of mind. Above all else "to thine own self be true"!!


Good Luck!! :)

Ladyd

heavenlea
May 19, 2007, 5:03 PM
Congrats to you . It is good to vent and heal yourself.Thank goodness you are stronger than you ever imagined. Once again Congrats..And smile often... :tong:

scubaman
May 20, 2007, 5:44 AM
Good on ya Tasha. That is what I should have done with my ex about 14 years ago! Live and learn!