I Wanna Take You To A Gay Bar

[the sacred night]

I've been single for a looooooong time now after breaking up with my fiance, and I've finally decided to do something about it. I'm just not sure how.

I've bought myself some sexy clothes for a hypothetical trip to the gay bar, but thus far have only made it there twice (months apart). I really want to go again, but 7-day workweek aside, I'm not sure what to do when I get there. The times I've been, I've only talked to people I knew already and didn't get how I was supposed to meet new people at these places. I'm hoping to try a different gay bar this time, and hopefully there will be dancing or at least something going on that I can chat someone up about... if I have the nerve. Part of the point behind the sexy clothes is that I'm hoping a woman will come to me, it might be the only hope I have.

Venting over.

[Rambigent]

Good luck with that, I really have no advice for you other than to make yourself look available...make eye contact with people you find attractive, smile, maybe even shake your groove thang on the dance floor. Basically, have yourself a good time whether you end up chatting someone up or not!

I'm terribly shy in bar situations whether I'm supposed to be hitting on men or women or either...the few times I've been to gay bars I was with a mixed group of friends and not really looking to pick anyone up. Always had a lot of fun though, I guess there is just a more open vibe in general. I did try going to a gay bar solo one time when I was stuck in Virginia for a week without my wife. I was so nervous I went in the wrong door....this place had a gay side and a lesbian side and I entered the lesbian side! I hung with the lesbians for a while and they were very nice and friendly with me (ok, most of them were also pretty sloshed), then one nice lady dragged me over to the other side and introduced me to the small crowd of guys on the gay side. I stayed over there for a few minutes hiding in my beer and then headed out. Not a successful mission. The lesbian side was a lot more fun. I told my wife about it the next day and she laughed her ass off at me.

She's so supportive...

[RickB]

Hi
Interesting. I used to live near Clapham High Street in London which has two gay bars. I would like to share my three "gay bar nights"

The first night, I had told a bi girl that I lived with that I was bi curious so we went into both. I found her far more attractive than any of the guys that were around. I remember at one place I went for a piss and another guy arrived and stood next to me, making no effort to hide his rather large penis. That was weird.

The second "gay bar night" was when I was on a date with a girl and we were looking for nightclubs and the only place without a queue was one of the gay clubs I have mentioned. To be honest, all I wanted to do was to dance especially in one room which was playing hard trance music and I quickly lost interest in her.

The third gay bar night was in the South-East of London. I was with a very straight couple who I suspect went to this bar with me because they realised I was bi curious. There was a very dirty transvestite comedian there making jokes about the gay lifestyle. I thought she was hilarious. But the guy I was with was feeling very uncomfortable so we went to a more traditional pub instead where he felt more at home.

Regards
Rick

[frikidiki]

Sounds like the makings of a great song, maybe by Magnetic Fields or 6ths.

Gay bars & clubs serve the best drinks; and most of them are a fine party of some sort. But yeah, no creepy penis peekers, please. I still believe the bathroom is for purging, not urging.

[Bluebiyou]

the sacred night
Go! Especially if you have a bi male friend who will be your wing-man. I love going to gay bars because they're much more fun, the conversation is nearly always better than straight bars.
Straight bars mostly are full of guys with advanced "John Wayne Syndrome" disease. "How rough and tough can I be" or "how predatory can I be?". And the women are so defensive from the predatory thing... normal conversation is nearly impossible. The guys can only spurt sports statistics, or work in predatory manipulation. The couples are usually far more civilized, but usually conversation quickly entails children and child rearing.
Gay bars, the women are far more approachable. In fact, whenever I bring my girlfriend, there's usually quite a greeting for her from the lesbian/bi female crowd.
the sacred night, if you want advise,
get a gay/bi male friend (someone with social skills) to be your 'wingman'. Come in with him and leave with him.

[RickB]

Hahaha! I love the idea of a girl having a "wingman" at a gay bar!
I am sure you will have a great time.