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Cherokee_Mountaincat
Feb 16, 2009, 11:36 PM
M'loves, I got word today that my last remaining brother passed away last night from Cancer in Oregon. He was the last of my 5 brothers, three half-sisters preceeded him, plus my Mother, and neices. There are only three left of my original family now. A much older half-sister, my blood-sister, and me. I'm not close to my older sister, (She resented the fact that I came along and took her position as only daughter..lol) My little sis has Downs Syndrome. Havent seen her since my Mom died in 1989.
Lost all of my Brothers back to back. Seemed one went, and all of the rest followed closely after. Scary.
My brother was 65 (I think) and had chain smoked all of his life, and I think he worked in jobs where there was alot of Asphestis(sp). Insulation like in Mobile Homes and houses.
Well one consolation, they are all with my Mom and generations back, and that makes me smile a little. :}
Thanks for letting vent, loves. Not thinking too clearly right now...
Cat
Laken
Feb 16, 2009, 11:46 PM
((((((((((( Cat ))))))))))))
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Northerncalifornia
Feb 16, 2009, 11:48 PM
I am so sorry CM for your loss, *hugs n kisses - nin
rissababynta
Feb 17, 2009, 12:24 AM
Aw Cat I'm so sorry to hear that. If you need to talk to any of us you know we're all ears *boobie hugs*
texasman6172003
Feb 17, 2009, 1:03 AM
BIG HUGS CAT!!! So sorry for your loss. I got 2 brothers,and don't know what id do with out em....
Lonewolf76
Feb 17, 2009, 1:28 AM
Sweet Lady,
I am so very sorry for your loss. I know that words can never replace the pain and grieving - but know that he is never gone from you. He may be gone in body but always around your in memories and spirit. And as always, you know you can cry, vent and talk to all here who love you. Hugs and kisses from Colorado. Sad wolfie. LW
evilpanda
Feb 17, 2009, 2:55 AM
Hi there. So sorry to hear about your family's loss. It's difficult when a family becomes a little bit smaller and the feeling of loneliness is often unbearable. Your friends here care and hope to hear of better news from you soon. ;)
Cherokee_Mountaincat
Feb 17, 2009, 3:03 AM
Thanks Loves. Your kindness has made me feel quite a bit better. Spirits bless all of you.
Kisses
Your Cat
parkerbi
Feb 17, 2009, 4:00 AM
I'm so sorry to hear that.
MarieDelta
Feb 17, 2009, 6:21 AM
I am really sorry to hear of your loss, Cat. My thoughts are with you.
Much much love dear and lots of hugs.
Jezexploring
Feb 17, 2009, 6:30 AM
I'm so sorry for your loss. Losing someone always seems to make us think more than ever.
onewhocares
Feb 17, 2009, 10:02 AM
Miss Cat,
My thoughts and prayers are going out to you dear sister of the soul. As Wolf said...your brother will never be far from you...he lives with in you, in your heart, in your spirit and in your memories. You shall have him to watch over you in times of sadness, celebrate with you in times of joy. We can try and comfort you for you know you are in our thoughts and prayers.
Belle
Realist
Feb 17, 2009, 10:32 AM
Cat,
I feel so helpless to do, or say, something that may sooth your pain. But, what can you say to let others know you feel their sorrow? I know if you were close to your brother it'll be harder to say goodbye, but you will have good memories, hopefully. Memories are how loved ones live on.
Just yesterday, we put my mother in a nursing home. She has severe arthritis and mind-crippling dementia. As the doctor told us, "The mother you knew is no longer home."..........but still, she is our mother. In a way, hers is a fate worse than death, as she lingers, unaware, uncaring, mindless, but still her body functions continue.
So, I certainly empathize with you, as our pain is similar. God's speed you to, Sweet Girl!
Cherokee_Mountaincat
Feb 17, 2009, 2:42 PM
Realist, my heart and thoughts are more so with you today for you deal with the living. I know its difficult watching someone you love being in that kind of limbo. Just love her for who she was, and for who she is and give her as many hugs as she'll let you give her. :}
I wasnt very close to my brother, but he was a brother all the same. Like I said, he is with the rest of my family, and thats a great comfort to me.
Hugs to you, honey
Cat.
rassilon953
Feb 17, 2009, 3:32 PM
Poor Cat, so sorry to hear this. Having read many of your posts it strikes me that you have a pretty big family here on this site. Ask for help if and when you need it and know that the thoughts of many are with you. Love Charlie xx
alegrias
Feb 17, 2009, 4:18 PM
So sorry, Cat. "Spirits" be with you.
TwylaTwobits
Feb 17, 2009, 4:58 PM
Awwww Cat, love, remember you are never alone. Even when it feels that way just reach out to your memories and you will be surrounded by your loved ones.
Bi-Zarro
Feb 17, 2009, 5:26 PM
You have my sympathies, Cat. <big hug>
SJ37AndSteph
Feb 17, 2009, 5:51 PM
Cat,
Sorry to hear of ur loss wanted to give u Big Hugs..
Sweet Juices 37
elian
Feb 17, 2009, 5:56 PM
Sharing in wishes for many, many hugs and nuzzles for a dear person I know who has a big heart.
I know that sometimes it doesn't make it any easier, but I always remember those I have loved who have passed as not gone, but rather gone home.
Will keep you and family in my thoughts and prayers.
<<HUUGS>>
-E
vittoria
Feb 17, 2009, 6:05 PM
((((((Cat))))))
I sooo feel your pain hun. Its sad to hear something like this happening to you. Just lost my aunt and went to her funeral this past Saturday, AND found out my father's muscle disease is bringing him closer to the grave. Sending you big hugs and kisses--you are never alone.
rolandiscool
Feb 17, 2009, 8:09 PM
I'm sorry that you feel alone Cat. You are a sweetie! *hugs* Life tends to make us think we are alone when our biological family leaves us, but our family of friends are always here with us no matter what when we need it.
Cherokee_Mountaincat
Feb 17, 2009, 10:45 PM
I'm sorry guys and gals. I didnt meant to come across as so depressed, but having this sprung on me so suddenly like it was just caught me off guard. That, and having been so worried about my own health issues has really talken a toll on me. My biological family (My kids and grandkids) are in Calif, Wash. DC and London, and not having a significant other anymore just got me to feeling alone. I know btwn my Lifestyle family, and This family, I am Not alone, and I had to remember that after the grief-fog lifted.
Thank you one and all for your love and fantastic hearts.:three:Blushing Cat.
Doggie_Wood
Feb 17, 2009, 10:46 PM
Even though you may feel alone Cat, know that you are not - and that you are loved very deeply by more than just a few.
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Take care of yourself love - be good to yourself - and feel the love that comes your way.
Doggie :doggie: mmmmuuuuuaaaaahhhhhhhh!!
writes at night
Feb 17, 2009, 10:57 PM
Ms Cat,
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I wish that I could help take some of this pain away from you, but I do have an open ear and a strong shoulder if you should need it.
jem_is_bi
Feb 18, 2009, 1:56 AM
I am old enough such that I have lost almost all those in my parent's generation including my mother. So, I know the pain and loneliness you feel. With each loss, you and I graduate to a higher rank of elder in our family. That can be painful and cause loneliness because we remember how comfortable we felt with a full generation above and below us. AHHH!! During that time in our live we were so comfortable with aunts, uncles, brothers, sisters, and parents to offer us support as well as love. I still have occasional fleeting waves of loneliness and loss sweep across my soul when events trigger acute memories of those that have passed away. But, like me, you still have the privilege to be alive and experience both the heartache and great joy of life. So, I very much hope your future is filled with much more JOY of life than loneliness from family that has been lost.