Bicurious...

[drw00020]

I think I am bi-curious as ive had thoughts about men (no one in particular). Im pretty confused I guess. Any thoughts?
Drew

[MikeW]

I think I am bi-curious as ive had thoughts about men (no one in particular). Im pretty confused I guess. Any thoughts?
Drew

That pretty much describes bi-curious...

What holds you back from going from think to accepting? Is it social pressure? Do you have a girlfirend/wife? If so have you talked about this with her? Are you simply afraid of the unknown? If so, what are those fears?

[drw00020]

Im single. Just want to talk about it with someone similar. Not really sure if I want to try anything. Make sense?
Drew

[Diddybidaddy]

Im single. Just want to talk about it with someone similar. Not really sure if I want to try anything. Make sense?
Drew

You don't have to try anything or do anything. It makes absolute sense. It sounds like you're trying to resolve something. Like you're rolling something around in your mind. What is it?

[Patrick43]

Kinda describes me, except I had experience many years ago.
I understand where drw is at.
Is it okay to remain "curious"?? I think so.

-Pat

[rumple4skin]

Drw,
You are not the first person to be confused by these thoughts. I was pretty confused about the thoughts I had about guys for a long time. I felt guilty about the M/M thoughts I had for years. It took me some time to get over that guilt. Do you know what confuses you about the thougths you have about guys?

[innaminka]

In my experience, the world is loaded with bi-curious people according to your definition.
Believe me, its a natural situation. Don't worry.
Probably 90% of those people never act on their wonderings, and (this I can verify) a proportion of those that do, get very cold feet when the down and dirty actually gets close or starts.
For those of us who have found out about our wonderings, bi-sexuality can bring all those emotional highs and lows that exist in "normal hetero" lifestyles.
Don't worry that you may be bi-curious, but the next step, if any is really up to you: no one can hold your hand.

[oralolder]

I think I would hold his hand and help him decide what action he may or may not want to take. A helping hand, so to speak, could be just what he needs.

[anne27]

I think I am bi-curious as ive had thoughts about men (no one in particular). Im pretty confused I guess. Any thoughts?
Drew


Only you can decide if trying bi sex is for you. I agree with what innaminka said, probably nearly everyone has had sexual thoughts about the same sex. Not everyone acts on them.

Personally, I am glad I did, but it can be a rocky road.

Best of luck to you whatever path you follow!

[BrownTag]

Sounds normal. I mean thinking about those that are of your sex. Normal to think, but problematic when you act.

Where we live shapes the way we are required to 'act' to these feelings. We have signed some kind of contract that dictates the way that we have to act a certain way. I learned a long time ago that was bullshit. I also learned to keep it to myself. As I got older, I slowly began to emerge from this self denial. It caused me to miss a lot of joy, friendship and happiness.

Better late than never.

Go forward drw00020. Explore and expand your feelings. Maybe some pain, but whole lot of gain.

[tookme30years]

Okay, so basically I (a female) feel very sympathetic to this thread since that is essentially why I joined this site. I was never interested in women during my teens and didn't notice myself getting hot watching F/F (and M/M, M/F/F, M/M/F) sex until my late 20s. Wouldn't you know that is around when I got married. So here I am supposed to be in a monogomous relationship and I am now constantly daydreaming and thinking about being with a woman. I think my husband knows I am curious but has no idea how serious I am. For example, I am pretty sure he would freak if he knew I was on this website. So now what? I know you will find this hard to believe but there aren't any lesbians or homosexuals in my close circle of friends. How that came about I don't know since I am about as liberal as they come. If I had a friend I could talk to who was willing to experiment with me or send me in the right direction I think I'd go for it...in spite of my relationship with my husband. It is a dilemma because on one hand I respect him and wouldn't want to do anything to hurt him and on the other hand I just need to know.

[Nisse]

Iv'e been confused like you for six years now, but the four years before that I didn't KNOW I was confused. From age 16-20 I regulary fantasized about men, but never really gave it a thought. Then I started thinking about it from 20-24 and it confused me and worried. From 24-26 I confronted the thoughts and faced them...so now I'm still confused, but accept just being confused. My sexual drive is so complicated, that I've given up trying to understand it, just as i've given up trying to understand the meaning of life.

OK, but confusement isn't always good. So, my advice to you is, do what you want to and dare to. My opinion is that trying doesn't harm. And if you get the "cold feet" while trying, or feel humiliated, or think you'll go to hell...at least it will damper your confusement.

Hope I wasn't raving.

Take care.

[BI BOYTOY]

hey bicurios:well you made the first step anyway,in atleast your trying to deal with your thoughts.i do simpathize with you. perdon my spelling.i was allso confused for while,everybodys different wow they deal.but eventually your going to want to try it and see if it is something that is for you.i say someday in your own time try it one time. be carfull in whom you choose so you have a good expieriance.if thats what you do.i hope this helps,and also if your have thoughts theirs a good chance your bi.anyway i wish you lots of luck in your quest :2cents: :bigrin: :bigrin: :bibounce:

[bothofus]

I've had many the same thoughts for many years. what made things easier for me was to actually play. Use toys. think about it and play as much as you want. If you find that this kind of play turns you on then try some. I still have not to this day been with another man. i know I'm bi but am very picky about who i let into my life. I am married and wife helps things along and plays with me and is open and is curious herself. I think the more you get comfortable with the thought of being bi and coming to terms with that in itself is the main thing. actually meeting someone you want to be with is another adventure entirely.

[Sparks]

I think I am bi-curious as ive had thoughts about men (no one in particular). Im pretty confused I guess. Any thoughts?
Drew
Lots of good advice for you here. My thoughts? Be kind to yourself. If, and when the time is right for you, you'll know it. Take good care.