Thinking this isnt a Bisexual site anymore.

[hydropop]

I know this will touch the nerves of some people. But someone has to ask ? RIGHT ?

For as long as I have been coming to this site , and my intentions were purely bi. I find that more and more Gay and lesbians come here than Bisexual.

Cant the Bi community have a site of their own? It seems that there are plenty of Gay sites and Lesbians sites out there. Am I wrong in my thinking, or is there no true bisexual site here?

[littlerayofsunshine]

Isn't one always to lead by example?? How in the world are people to be accepted by people, if someone isn't showing them what acceptance is?

We can't beg to be accepted and included, if we deny who comes here.. >I don't hear you complain about the amount of straight people that are here.




I know this will touch the nerves of some people. But someone has to ask ? RIGHT ?

For as long as I have been coming to this site , and my intentions were purely bi. I find that more and more Gay and lesbians come here than Bisexual.

Cant the Bi community have a site of their own? It seems that there are plenty of Gay sites and Lesbians sites out there. Am I wrong in my thinking, or is there no true bisexual site here?

[MissyMissy]

i have been judged all of my life for being myself and believing in what i believe in. i may not be a superior activist but i believe if everyone being able to be themselves safely as long as no one is hurt and there is not something illegal going wrong. some people here are str8 to i hope you know that and some are here because they support us. yes some are here for just a piece of ass and that is it.
some gay and lesbian people sometimes are not accepeted by thier own "kind". some are curious as well. some may possibly think they may not be gay or lesbian but are unsure just yet. some are here to support us too.
i love the gay and lesbians that visit if thier intentions are not cruel.
but consider this...
no matter what sexuality you are here there or anywhere you can still be a fucktard.

[grneyedbeauty]

no matter what sexuality you are here there or anywhere you can still be a fucktard.

Wow! A great statement of fact.

[stroke1man]

I still am able to have what appear to be good bi conversations here and have found some good support.

I do agree however that there are a few people who really shouldn't be here.

I don't mean to offend but I know someone will take offense.

Here goes.....

If you are a man hater or a woman hater why are you here???

This should be a happy place for all. To be attacked or ignored just because you like dick AND pussy is stupid. I am always amazed when people in the main chat area get all bent outta shape when two guys start sex messaging in the main room. Yes, we could take it to pm mode but I for one like it when the ladies and gents encourage us and offer suggestions.

I know I'll get some flack for this but I'm pretty sure this is a bi-SEX-ual site.

As for the straights.... We're all voyeurs in some way aren't we?????

Feel free to throw rocks at me now....

Or kisses.....

[_Joe_]

* shrugs *

There's no utopian site. Gotta take some of the bad with the good, there's not enough bad here to warrent me making a huge fuss and packing my bags and moving away. The good certiainly outweighs so I stick around. I do have a few folks on person ignore here, and we all get along great (since they don't know they are getting ignored!)

[FalconAngel]

I know this will touch the nerves of some people. But someone has to ask ? RIGHT ?

For as long as I have been coming to this site , and my intentions were purely bi. I find that more and more Gay and lesbians come here than Bisexual.

Cant the Bi community have a site of their own? It seems that there are plenty of Gay sites and Lesbians sites out there. Am I wrong in my thinking, or is there no true bisexual site here?


I think that you may be missing the point a little here.

Allowing others here is paramount to showing that we are big enough to accept other sexualities here as well.

It does two things when we do it;

1. As was earlier pointed out, we lead on the path of acceptance by example.

2. We get the opportunity to help educate those who may be disinformed or know little or nothing about Bisexuals and Bisexuality.

So you should take all of those opportunities for us into account.

Yes, this is a Bisexual site, but not all bisexuals are looking only for other Bisexuals to meet, either. So there is that as well.

[hydropop]

i have been judged all of my life for being myself and believing in what i believe in. i may not be a superior activist but i believe if everyone being able to be themselves safely as long as no one is hurt and there is not something illegal going wrong. some people here are str8 to i hope you know that and some are here because they support us. yes some are here for just a piece of ass and that is it.
some gay and lesbian people sometimes are not accepeted by thier own "kind". some are curious as well. some may possibly think they may not be gay or lesbian but are unsure just yet. some are here to support us too.
i love the gay and lesbians that visit if thier intentions are not cruel.
but consider this...
no matter what sexuality you are here there or anywhere you can still be a fucktard.

wow .... now im a fucktard , guess that clears that all up.

This was mearly a question and some how I knew it would ruffle someones feathers. Guess I should have tossed in the straight people too.

I for one never............ oh F it it wont matter what I recant with.

Maybe someone will delete this post. geezzzzzzzzzzzz

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

First of all, she didnt mention that YOU were a Fucktard, she said a generalization as in Some People. She did not call you a Fucktard personally. And I dont see why it should bother you to have Lesbians Or Gay men in this group. I dont know of all that many Lesbian ladies that are on board with us, and it wouldnt matter to some of us if there Were more.
Most of us accept people for who they are, and as long as someone has a decent attitude in chat, or on the boards, I see no problem with them. I think its kind of discriminatory to say "Why cant we have something all to ourselves with out Them coming in" Thats just plain wrong in my book.

And for Strokin', I fail to have ever seen any derogatory remarks when 2 men flirted with each other in chat. Must have been at some point when "I" personally wasnt in there.
All I can say if..if ya'll dont like the site the way it is, then happy trails and I hope you find what you are looking for. But I can guarentee, you'll never find a bunch like us anywhere else. We that put people before labels.
Nuff said before I get ticked...
Cat

[onewhocares]

[QUOTE But I can guarantee, you'll never find a bunch like us anywhere else. We that put people before labels.
Nuff said before I get ticked...
Cat[/QUOTE]

Well said Cat.

As many of you know I am the straight wife of a bi man. In the beginning when we joined this site I was apprehensive as to whether or not I would be accepted because I personally was not bi. Oh how very wrong I was. I was welcomed by two very lovely ladies....Kate and Arana, and welcomed in my role as a straight wife. I have learned so much here, from the most kind and generous people who grace this site. As a matter of fact one of the earliest " discussions" I was a participant in was on this very topic. I am still reminded on occasion on the tenacity of my argument that ALL are welcome regardless of their sexual identity.

I have learned to be understanding, tolerant, loving, giving, honest and open. Not only with those around me but most importantly with myself. To say that a certain "labeled" group does not belong here is absurd. ALL are welcome as long as they treat others with respect and dignity. Everyone is free to express themselves in an honest and forthright manner. One should also be able to understand the feelings of others as well.

For those who wish to discuss the issue of gays or lesbians having a right to be here in a private forum...please do not hesitate to contact me. I love a good joust, for I speak from the heart and am not afraid to stand behind my convictions.

Belle

[csrakate]

As one of the resident "straights" of this site, I will say that I don't think the sexual orientation of a person needs to be an issue here and perhaps hydro should have worded his comments a bit differently. In hydro's defense, I believe that some recent behavior in the chat room has caused him to feel this way. There are many that come to chat that feel they have to be "militant" in their sexuality and they refuse to bestow common courtesies to their fellow chatters. Yes this is a bisexual site, but that doesn't mean it doesn't have a use for others of different orientations. That being said, because it IS a site of diverse orientations, simple rules of decorum should apply and if we treat each other with common courtesy, there should never be a reason that anyone shouldn't feel welcome.

I am very happy that I have been made to feel welcome here and many of us come here for various reasons, bisexual, gay, lesbian or straight. I do have issue, however, with the individuals who don't offer a simple hello to others in the chat room, quickly stating that they aren't here to talk to men, women, etc. I don't care what your sexual orientation is, it is never right to be rude, judgmental or out and out dismissive of others when in the chat room. If someone speaks to you that you don't care to speak to then so be it.....but please.....we're adults...there is never a need to be a man hater, a woman hater or anything but a people lover! Saying hello to others does not mean you want to fuck them, for God's sake! Just be polite and go about your business! No one cares what you want to do or who you want to do it with, but by all means just be a simple courteous person as you would be expected to be in a real life situation. Plain and simple.

[texasman6172003]

Once again,Well said Kate!!!!!!

[ShyLassUk]

My personal opinion is you can learn alot from a gay or lesbian person.
If you are bi-curious then talking to someone who has experienced it with the same sex could be a good thing, no?
Also can't a gay/lesbian/ be bi curious too hydro?
Just looks like really that you are implying this site should be for Bi-Sexual people only which really means gay/lesbian/straight/bi-curious are not to be here.
But thats my opinion!

[mrplayfuluk]

in my opinion (and i don't wish to spark any riots :eek: ) many bisexual people have relationships/liaisons with str8, gay and lesbian people so its inevitable that all ends of the sexual spectrum come here to feel good and get and lend support to the community. So in the end its all about their attitude. When we had troll problems on here my issue was the attitude of those individuals not their sexuality and hydropop has the right to question any issue with the same openness offered to the rest of us. He may have a point based on his own experiences but as I haven't shared those I can't comment. For me this is still a cool place to visit and very rewarding for a person who identifies as bi. Freedom of speech is fine as long as its done responsibly.

[elian]

I am glad the site is inclusive, I enjoy talking to people who are DIFFERENT then myself because they may in fact, help me to learn something that I didn't ALREADY know.

As long as a person isn't making constant, slanderous personal attacks on others I am glad for the variety of opinion..of course it is a two-way street - I would hope that person would also be open and accepting of others as well.

[onewhocares]

As one of the resident "straights" of this site, I will say that I don't think the sexual orientation of a person needs to be an issue here and perhaps hydro should have worded his comments a bit differently. In hydro's defense, I believe that some recent behavior in the chat room has caused him to feel this way. There are many that come to chat that feel they have to be "militant" in their sexuality and they refuse to bestow common courtesies to their fellow chatters. Yes this is a bisexual site, but that doesn't mean it doesn't have a use for others of different orientations. That being said, because it IS a site of diverse orientations, simple rules of decorum should apply and if we treat each other with common courtesy, there should never be a reason that anyone shouldn't feel welcome.

I am very happy that I have been made to feel welcome here and many of us come here for various reasons, bisexual, gay, lesbian or straight. I do have issue, however, with the individuals who don't offer a simple hello to others in the chat room, quickly stating that they aren't here to talk to men, women, etc. I don't care what your sexual orientation is, it is never right to be rude, judgmental or out and out dismissive of others when in the chat room. If someone speaks to you that you don't care to speak to then so be it.....but please.....we're adults...there is never a need to be a man hater, a woman hater or anything but a people lover! Saying hello to others does not mean you want to fuck them, for God's sake! Just be polite and go about your business! No one cares what you want to do or who you want to do it with, but by all means just be a simple courteous person as you would be expected to be in a real life situation. Plain and simple.




As Texy said Kate, WELL SAID.

Belle

[Kermit Jagger]

As a bisexual man seeking male partners, I don't care whether the man is bisexual or gay. Some gay men might prefer only other gay men (I really don't know). So, any gay man on this site should be interested in bisexual men, and I am interested in him. I suppose the same reasoning would apply to bisexual women and lesbians. What's the problem?

With regard to chat and forums, it's great to have input (bad pun, sorry) from as many different points (another bad pun) of view as possible. Again, what's the problem?

Let's cut out the name calling and recriminations. By the way, what's a fucktard?

Love to all,

Kermit

[Kermit Jagger]

As a bisexual man seeking male partners, I don't care whether the man is bisexual or gay. Some gay men might prefer only other gay men (I really don't know). So, any gay man on this site should be interested in bisexual men, and I am interested in him. I suppose the same reasoning would apply to bisexual women and lesbians. What's the problem?

With regard to chat and forums, it's great to have input (bad pun, sorry) from as many different points (another bad pun) of view as possible. Again, what's the problem?

Let's cut out the name calling and recriminations. By the way, what's a fucktard?

Love to all,

Kermit

[12voltman59]

I am glad that more gays and lesbians come to this site-----that they either are accepting of bisexuality or are open to the idea that "bisexuality is real" and want to get to know us.

As far as I am concerned--anyone who wants to come here is welcome--as long as they are not some nutcase who makes up personalities to harrass people here----and that those who come here are generally respectful of the views of others and express their views in appropriate ways.

[rissababynta]

I pretty much agree with what mrplay said. Lesbians will stickk to lesbians, gay men with stick with gay men...since when do bisexuals only stick with bisexuals. That's the point of bisexuality, because we are diverse with our attraction we might spark up a relationship with another bisexual, or a gay man, or a lesbian, or a straight man or woman. So why begrudge any of them being here?

Also, if they weren't welcome the option would not be there when you sign up to state whether you are straight, gay, bi, transgendered, etc...

[Realist]

I once knew a gay fellow who was very militant and antagonistic toward bisexuals. I was not out as bi and he did not know I was "one". I had to work with him, off and on, and we had a good working relationship.

A married lady, who was openly bisexual, received the brunt of the gay fellow's tirades about his theory that you were either gay, or straight...there was no in between.

After I had known him for some time, I revealed to him that I was bisexual and I truly did like both sexes and had loved both genders. He was shocked, because he had never had the slightest idea I was bi.

But, by not getting in his face and explaining how I felt in a matter-of-fact tone, while not involving myself with his animated discussions about his theory, he began to calm down and finally decided that it really was possible to be bi. I did not have sex with him, but we remained friends.

I learned, years later, that he had actually developed a relationship with a lady and had shared a sexual relationship with her. He was nearly 40, by then. I assume he now understands that anyone can be bisexual!

[allbimyself]

Realist, your anecdote made me think of something. Like homophobic, gay bashers are almost always repressing latent homosexual urges, it could be true that militant, anti-bisexual homosexuals are often repressing latent heterosexual urges.

[diB4u]

Well to be honest everyone has their own views and opinions.. and whilst i fence sit on most subjects diversity is one that i feel passionatly about and for.

Well lesbian women might like bisexual women. Straight women might like bisexual men who like gay men.

Bisexual men might like other bi men or gay men and they might even fancy a straight woman everynow and then.

Least not forget the pansexual members, who, can and do fall for individuals under the umbrella.

People are people.

Anyone that asks me, I like bi men, gay men, transmen, straight men...sigh.. but i also like gay women, bi women and straight women..for different reasons.

Bicurious people are cool to..

:tongue:

[alex_d]

LABELS LABELS LABELS !!!!!

Aren't we all people first and foremost? let's focus on that and respect others for what they believe without criticism. This may be a bisexual website in theory.... but in reality it is a forum for people to come and converse, make friends, seek support, and yes...for some it's a place to find a potential lover.

[still_shy]

LABELS LABELS LABELS !!!!!

Aren't we all people first and foremost? let's focus on that and respect others for what they believe without criticism. This may be a bisexual website in theory.... but in reality it is a forum for people to come and converse, make friends, seek support, and yes...for some it's a place to find a potential lover.

I agree with most of what everyone has said here, but the words that hit home the most were "Labels labels labels" Why does it matter what orientation we are, if we are here to respect each others diversity and embrace our differences? Personally, I love the fact that so many different walks of life are represented here. I enjoy the chance to get to know people of every orientation, something I can't find in rural Indiana. I always have, and always will, love this site for everything it represents. As always, OP you are entitled to your opinion but I respectfully disagree.

[DiamondDog]

I know this will touch the nerves of some people. But someone has to ask ? RIGHT ?

For as long as I have been coming to this site , and my intentions were purely bi. I find that more and more Gay and lesbians come here than Bisexual.

Cant the Bi community have a site of their own? It seems that there are plenty of Gay sites and Lesbians sites out there. Am I wrong in my thinking, or is there no true bisexual site here?

Oh no! We must stay pure! Heaven forbid that gay men and lesbians go on a site for other queer men and women! Or that heterosexuals come here! (sarcasm)

If you want to publically show your disdain and homophobia this is your choice to do so but don't act like you won't get any backlash for it.

I really don't care that you don't like gay men or lesbians but this sort of mentality gets tiresome and it's not my problem that you're homophobic.
:2cents:

Not all gay men hate bisexual men and they're not biphobic for the most part.

Get out there and actually meet gay men and you'll realize that this isn't true.

FWIW I've had nothing but acceptance from gay men and even straight people, as being a kinky queerman.

[hydropop]

Couldnt see where I said I HATED gays or Lesbians.

Love ya kate :-)

[jem_is_bi]

I am mostly homosexual. So, I do not have strong urges to have sex with women. But, I still like women very much and need their presence in my life. I have absolutely no desire to have sex with heterosexual men. But, some of my best friends are heterosexual. I already have a male lover and do not need another. But, I have very little opportunities for contact with others that like both men and women. So that is why this site is important to me.

Perhaps, there is confusion of bisexual men only seeking men and bisexual women only seeking women. That does not mean they are gay. Rather, they already have an opposite sex relationship and only have same sex needs to be satisfied.

[oldcalhippie]

I come here to be openly bisexual...something I can't be anywhere else in my life. Others come here for other things maybe...like to understand...or maybe to be understood. I don't really care. I just wish I could remember my password! We all need to get over ourselves.
Peace..

[AlternatingRed]

Well, i am a pansexual. Am I allowed?

:female::female:

[Mr. X]

I just wanted to toss in my 2 cents here as well :tongue:

I am not Bi but my wife is. This is the only site where there are people for me to learn from. I am grateful for all the stings and hopes this place has given to me. I log in almost ever day to see if their is anything I can take away and apply to my marriage and myself.

There is no fine line that any of us can walk when it comes to sexuality.

...ok I'm done.

[rissababynta]

I don't really care. I just wish I could remember my password!

LMFAO that was probably the best thing I've seen so far.

[hydropop]

Some how I knew someone would twist my words.

I really don't care that you don't like gay men or lesbians but this sort of mentality gets tiresome and it's not my problem that you're homophobic.

where did you read that I wrote that in my post? Some like to adlib a post.


talk about a fucktard.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Fantastic points, all. I know for one I Hate being discriminated against and I dont feel its right to be judged. This site is for Everyone. We all need a place where we can be free to be Us without worry of being looked down upon by Anyone. All I can say without getting further ticked is that if you dont like how it is, then seek what you need elsewhere.
To the rest of you, kudo's and kisses :}
Cat

[missus_stewartATyaho]

[QUOTE But I can guarantee, you'll never find a bunch like us anywhere else. We that put people before labels.
Nuff said before I get ticked...
Cat

Well said Cat.

As many of you know I am the straight wife of a bi man. In the beginning when we joined this site I was apprehensive as to whether or not I would be accepted because I personally was not bi. Oh how very wrong I was. I was welcomed by two very lovely ladies....Kate and Arana, and welcomed in my role as a straight wife. I have learned so much here, from the most kind and generous people who grace this site. As a matter of fact one of the earliest " discussions" I was a participant in was on this very topic. I am still reminded on occasion on the tenacity of my argument that ALL are welcome regardless of their sexual identity.

I have learned to be understanding, tolerant, loving, giving, honest and open. Not only with those around me but most importantly with myself. To say that a certain "labeled" group does not belong here is absurd. ALL are welcome as long as they treat others with respect and dignity. Everyone is free to express themselves in an honest and forthright manner. One should also be able to understand the feelings of others as well.

For those who wish to discuss the issue of gays or lesbians having a right to be here in a private forum...please do not hesitate to contact me. I love a good joust, for I speak from the heart and am not afraid to stand behind my convictions.

Belle[/QUOTE]

Here, here! "I", personally, am bi (I am probably a fucktard, too, btw, but a very loving, accepting, communist fucktard), but my g/f is straight... ish. It's hard to explain... My servant is also straight, but he is willing to play bottom for Me on occassion, when my male lovers have a mind to play. My G/F asked me to arrange more playdates for us with men (the few we can both agree on, us both being stubborn, demanding women). She adores my servant, and they (we, when a man has gotten her past the point of no return) play very well together, but he is not local, and has very little opportunity to serve us both... oh, hell. Now I'm rambling. I just wanted to say that I will now, for the rest of my life, use that ADORABLE quote! - "I am haunted by the things I did for that Klondike Bar..." :bibounce:

[lixxnsuxx]

Speaking as a bi man I have no problems with folk of other sexual orientations on this site. However I do have trouble with the "We will be this_____ site TO the EXCLUSION of others. People didn't get here by accident so they have reasons to be here on this site. Maybe they are looking for something-, confidence, acceptance or maybe reassurance they are not alone in their feelings? I usually don't tell people I am bi for fear of being reacted to negatively, while being Gay or Lesbian has seemingly become very stylish these days. Frankly that confuses the hell out of me because being bi to me is the most natural thing in the world.

[MissyMissy]

i am not saying anyone here is a fucktard unless they honestly deserve it. i was saying it in general and letting out my anger in general at ignornant people is all.
you had a question and were string enough to ask it despite your fears. i see that as a person who wants to look beyond themself and get a different viewpoint than his/her own. that is a good thing. you admitted your issue. many people will not do that.
i do not hate men or women or anyone for the most part. i love people a lot. ask around.

[lixxnsuxx]

TENS? A girl after my heart...

[davem]

Well, I have felt the same way..But is really more of a "club" than it is a "bi-sexual" It always seems to be the same threads in the forum...."Who likes to drink cum" and stupid shit like that. Would anyone in their right mind ask a straight person that question? There is a better site on YAHOO. Not as much of the stupid "club" shit

[hydropop]

Sure do like how people can twist words. There was never a hateful word in my post, but I see hatred come from other replys. I am bi far a hateful person, and was mearly asking a question. Most are correct in saying we all need a place to go and find comfort and a place where we all can be accepted and not judged. SO dont hate when someone pose's a question. I knew I would get flack and can handle it. But like I said never did I once post I hated anyone for who they are. But sure did see the hate come back at me.

[bityme]

I say "Turn out the lights and crawl into bed." I'll be happily satisfied with whoever and how many ever I find under the covers.

I had a marvelous time with an out of state M/F couple Wednesday night and we a doing it again tonight, but adding another male.

The only label I think of is are they "SEXUAL?"

[PolyLoveTriad]

I havent had a problem with not finding bisexuals here.... is it just me? I think I have seen only 1 lesbian... Im sure theres many but cmon, not enough bi's that it was pointed out? Everywhere I look I see bisexuals!

[BrazosBiMale]

I've met a handful of gay men that LOVE the bi/curious married type.
I for one, like gay men that like the bi/curious married types. :)
Interestingly, I think I've learned a lot about being bi from the gay men I've chatted with, they offer a different perspective.
I say the more the merrier, as long as nobody is trying that "there is no bi, you're just gay and don't want to face it" crap.

[hydropop]

Just pointing out that isolationism never works. If it bugs you that much, start your own website with the constraints you see fit to impose. I am not being 'hateful', merely trying to keep it constructive.
Consider everything.



another twist

[**Peg**]

Sure do like how people can twist words. There was never a hateful word in my post, but I see hatred come from other replys. I am bi far a hateful person, and was mearly asking a question. Most are correct in saying we all need a place to go and find comfort and a place where we all can be accepted and not judged. SO dont hate when someone pose's a question. I knew I would get flack and can handle it. But like I said never did I once post I hated anyone for who they are. But sure did see the hate come back at me.


well, hydro... there was no venom in your question.

but I saw it come back to you tenfold.....and from some people I thought were "cool". I no longer consider them as such.

On the login page of this site it clearly states:

"Bisexual.com is the internet community for bisexual men. women and couples."

hydro had a valid question. and like it or not he is right: there are LOTS of gay and lesbian and other (lifestyle) websites out there, and precious few "exclusively-bi" sites and not ONE as great as this one [used to be].

Some of you owe him an apology.

relax, hydro they'll turn on me next LOL.

[vittoria]

well, hydro... there was no venom in your question.

but I saw it come back to you tenfold.....and from some people I thought were "cool". I no longer consider them as such.

~~~~

Some of you owe him an apology.



Tres vrai!

*rolls over and goes back to sleep*

[recognize]

I'm kinda confused

When did a simple question turn into a pissing match? No one was targeting anyone in here, and suddenly some just bum-rush the thing and its just insult after insult--and whomever hydropop is never said anything hatefilled

Neither did 'Peg'--she has a point

Neither did 'vitto'--maybe she tires easily she only agreed with 'Peg'LOL

and I like pansexuals just fine, 'Red'


'Bityme' turned out the lights and crawled into bed a long time ago and no one complained

Neither did 'dib4u' the best damm comment Period

:grouphug: Its our differences that make us unique! :grouphug:

[hydropop]

Azeral who ever you are , you just a hateful person as far as I can see. And hateful people get iggied.

[_Joe_]

There's simply a total lack of love here. Less hate. More Naked pictures ?

[MissyMissy]

Well, I have felt the same way..But is really more of a "club" than it is a "bi-sexual" It always seems to be the same threads in the forum...."Who likes to drink cum" and stupid shit like that. Would anyone in their right mind ask a straight person that question? There is a better site on YAHOO. Not as much of the stupid "club" shit
\i would ask a str8 girl if she did

[welickit]

We suspect that some folks missed a dose of their meds before they spouted off. :2cents:

[jem_is_bi]

\i would ask a str8 girl if she did

I would ask a bisexual or gay guy if he did.

[hydropop]

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[csrakate]

THIS SHOULD PUT THIS ALL TO REST


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Gee Hydro, I was willing to stick my neck out and try to clarify what you may have been trying to say in your initial post, but by posting this, you are beginning to make me believe that you don't welcome my presence here either. This Friday marks my 4th year coming to this site and while I am sure people may still question why I am here, I have nothing but good things to say about what this site has done for me as an individual AND as the wife of a bisexual man....a man, btw, who hardly ever visits this site himself but is so very glad that I do. Open your heart just a bit, hydro, and remember that this site is not just about hooking up nor is it just about bisexuality and how if affects the bisexual. It's also a place where people who are facing issues with bisexuality can come to find support, solace, education and information. Try to ignore the ones who irritate you and instead revel in the ones who offer so much more. You'll find you'll enjoy your time here so much more!

[hydropop]

sorry kate , I found that on the site , and I was trying to make a point. Kinda put it there for one person and one person alone. Not you , sorry to fooend you.


Maybe Drew will just delete the whole post.

[hydropop]

ok ok ok

[12voltman59]

This thread is no worse than others we have on here----most of us just like to let off some steam about the topic at hand---the thing for people to do---just accept that is what people do and go on----don't take what anyone says too personally---I say with the boards---"what is posted on the boards stays on the boards!!"

[paddington]

I'm so glad this site is here. i was so mixed up having ended a affair with a woman- i've been married a long time and had ALWAYS considered myself to be straight. this was/is the only place i can be 100% honest,ask questions,think out loud etc.

i'm very lucky that i can talk to my husband but there are times when i hold back as i love him and i don't want to cause him more pain. it's been a huge comfort to know i'm not alone. reading the messages here has meant i've learnt not to be so judgemental! that's a good thing.

Kate,you post such common sense and echo my own thoughts.

[rissababynta]

Kate,you post such common sense and echo my own thoughts.

Yeah, Kate has a knack for taking what the majority of people are thinking and putting it ten times better than any of us ever could haha.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Quote *Bisexual.com is the internet community for bisexual men. women and couples*.

This statement alone should have answered your question before you even got this whole thread started. :tongue:
Other members of this site have started their own bisex sites where they allow just certain folks in, you could do the same if you wished.
Good luck with whatever you choose to do.
Cat
Cat

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

You tell 'em Kate!
This a haven in a sense. A palce where those of us who want to be the persons we Are can come in a relaxed, un-hassles invironment, and feel like we are free...maybe for the first times in our lives. Here we can be US, and its a great feeling to come somewhere and be free of the constraints that we feel "Out There" I'm sure I speak for more than just myself on this, too.

I for one, am very glad my best male friend introduced me to this wondrous place. I have met and befriended some fantastic folks. I dearly adore it here and will stauncly protect it, and my friends. For those that are feeling disgruntled, I can only tell you, "There's the door, dont let it hit ya in the ass on the way out" :2cents:
Bad Cat

[pete3333]

I do agree with Hydro that the site used to be primarily bisexual. Maybe it just changed is all. Not sure if thats a good thing, or a bad thing. Thats for each person who comes here to decide for themselves and act accordingly.

Regardless, the fucktard comment was a bit much, and annoying.

[csrakate]

I do agree with Hydro that the site used to be primarily bisexual. Maybe it just changed is all. Not sure if thats a good thing, or a bad thing. Thats for each person who comes here to decide for themselves and act accordingly.

Regardless, the fucktard comment was a bit much, and annoying.

Acting accordingly is the key phrase here. Since this site IS primarily set up for bisexuals, those who are not part of that group need to respect the ideals and principals of those who frequent this site and not act as if they are being ill treated when simply being given the courtesy of a hello. There is never a need for women to recoil in disgust when a man smiles at them nor is it necessary for a man to speak ill of a woman's sexual performance with another male. We are all different and all seeking different things and as long as we show each other a modicum of respect, there should never be a problem.

[hydropop]

Quote *Bisexual.com is the internet community for bisexual men. women and couples*.

This statement alone should have answered your question before you even got this whole thread started. :tongue:
Other members of this site have started their own bisex sites where they allow just certain folks in, you could do the same if you wished.
Good luck with whatever you choose to do.
Cat
Cat

Ive been trying to let this whole thing die, but them someone comes along and fuels it all up again.

WHY? did it piss you off that much?

I will say ive seen the angry come of of people. Damnnnnnnnn RELAX

[Long Duck Dong]

when I joined bisexual.com, it was with the understanding that it was for the bisexual community...... and community to me speaks of community / family / friends / supports / lovers, those that seek to learn and teach...and those that seek to question and seek understanding

I have no issues with LGBT / hetero people in the site... even if this is a bisexual site.... as I have yet to see a full definition of bisexual and at what point people fall outside of the bisexual spectrum....

people identify with labels, but just cos they do not identify with the label of bisexual, doesn't mean that they do not have a bisexual nature, or a interest in matters of LGBT learning.......

should my partner be excluded from this site cos she is not bisexual.... or should she be included in the site cos she is interested in learning about how I interact with other LGBT people on the net, and learn how others deal with and face the issues of living with bisexual people

seriously, I do thank bisexual.com for the help and support that they have given my partner..... and myself..... in identifying issues and aspects of relationships that we may not have worked thru or even acknowledged outside of this site......

[AdamKadmon43]

By the way, what's a fucktard?

Kermit

According to a lot of people around here..... that would be me.

[TaylorMade]

There were cookies a page back. :p

*Taylor*

[BrotherJack]

According to a lot of people around here..... that would be me.

That would be true...the chat room keeps telling you!

[BrotherJack]

According to a lot of people around here..... that would be me.

And you have nothing better to do...at twoish in the afternoon , your time! Sheesh!!

[BrotherJack]

I come here to be openly bisexual...something I can't be anywhere else in my life. Others come here for other things maybe...like to understand...or maybe to be understood. I don't really care. I just wish I could remember my password! We all need to get over ourselves.
Peace..

Smiles at password forgetfulness. And we do indeed need to get over ourselves. People are just that....people. I have had some conversations here, that have helped me a lot, with my sadness.

[rissababynta]

Great. Well put. Now live up to it.

Ummm....k.

[artsy girl]

I think everyone has made a valid point. I came to this site as a bisexual and i have found it very helpful to read all the advise put out by people. There are defenitly times when i find it more supportive to talk to someone who is bisexual. But we must be honest with ourselves.. we are all a little bit gay even if we do not like to be defined by that word. We all basically come from the same big group.. some are just gayer than others. That's my 2 cents.

I've heard people complain a lot about this on this site.. but i truly don't see the problem.. i like to have bi friends.. i have gay friends and I have straight friends. It's all good

[AdamKadmon43]

I do not visit this site with the express purpose of finding other completely bisexual people to have sex with.... so I really have no problem with gays, straights or whatever being in here.

However, I think this entire notion that "diversity" is something that should be "celebrated" is completely insane. While we may experience new and interesting ideas and concepts from groups of people who are different from ourselves, in the over-all, that diversity causes one hell of a lot of problems for the world. I don't care how hard you may try to, you are never going to be comfortable and happy with people who are so very different from you. Not if you are being completely honest with yourself. So diversity is not something to celebrate, but rather a necessarily evil that we must learn to live with and deal with and put up with.

Having said all that, I am not real sure that it had anything to do with the subject at hand, but after I spent all this time typing it, I ain't gonna just throw it away.

And I am still the chief Fucktard in here, so don't anyone go trying to steal my title.

[littlerayofsunshine]

Under your name, your title says senior member..Not " Chief Fucktard. Easily remedied...

As to the rest of what you said.. celebrating brings people together...Even if you don't think its necessary, its still true.. Rioting also brings people together... but usually not people of difference. One brings joy and the other brings destruction....

[PansexualGuy]

There are some gay men and gay women that absoutely hate bisexual people.

And there are others that love them and only date them.

I'm guessing that if they are looking for a bisexual person, this would be the place for them. Or if they only want bi friends lol.

This isn't my site, honestly I dont know who created this site, but I'm sure that person didnt make it to exclude everyone who isn't bi.

Maybe you had some bad experiences on the site, and you're just venting it on ALL the gay and lisbean members here.

And I know you didnt say you hate gay/lisbean people, but you must dislike them to some level because I dont see you complaining about straight people.
It's only obvious here are angry at your response and see it as homophobic.

[BrotherJack]

I do not visit this site with the express purpose of finding other completely bisexual people to have sex with.... so I really have no problem with gays, straights or whatever being in here.

However, I think this entire notion that "diversity" is something that should be "celebrated" is completely insane. While we may experience new and interesting ideas and concepts from groups of people who are different from ourselves, in the over-all, that diversity causes one hell of a lot of problems for the world. I don't care how hard you may try to, you are never going to be comfortable and happy with people who are so very different from you. Not if you are being completely honest with yourself. So diversity is not something to celebrate, but rather a necessarily evil that we must learn to live with and deal with and put up with.

Having said all that, I am not real sure that it had anything to do with the subject at hand, but after I spent all this time typing it, I ain't gonna just throw it away.

And I am still the chief Fucktard in here, so don't anyone go trying to steal my title.


Why was I not surprised to see that you'd re-opened your ad!!! Every time we argue a lot.......you do stuff like that. You don't go anywhere with the intention of meeting anyone.....r/t or on line.......so all that is a load of rubbish!

Your second paragraph.....what a load of.........
This is the man who in a typed ''discussion'' the other night said to me, ''you humans''....I pointed out that you, too, were human and not a Vulcan and you said that you wished you were. Sheesh!!

Oh, and we do know what you are.....but Mister.........you made a mistake.......it should have been an upper case C on the ''chief.''

Happy camping in the woods! Maybe you'll get beamed upby aliens....or eaten by a squirrel!!!

[BrotherJack]

I still got your back, FWIW. From one head-case to another, no disrespect intended.

Dear, sweet Az...or Tom......I don't cope well with abbreviations. What's FWIW??? I just don't do abbreviations, that often.

''From one head-case to another''....lol...lol...lol...........Az, my boy....you iz brill in comparison....original...unique....not repetition, repetition, repetition...or the parrot asking who wants a cracker.

Thing is....the great AK doesn't know what he is...oe where he is, half of the time.

Now, Az....you like recipes, don't you.......I have an ace one for an Italian trifle....never knew it's name....but my sister used to make it and then my mother (sister married an Italian). I'll have to dig it out!! You'll love it.

Hugs and kisses

J :tongue:

[BrotherJack]

I like Kate :)

[BrotherJack]

Forgot to add.....she often speaks very sensible words! :)

[rissababynta]

I make a bad-ass peanut butter banana nut bread :tongue:

*gasms*

[rissababynta]

Easy now. All is well. I got this.

lmfao!
Sorry, saw peanut butter and banana and got all kinds of excited.

[_Joe_]

That there is some good stuff too.

[quiet1fornow]

well said Kate.....oh but sometimes when I do play "wal-mart/chat room greeter" and I say hey to everyone ...it is quite possible I might want to have sex with them...maybe not at that moment I mean they can cum in and sit down and all!!! :bigrin::cool:

[BrotherJack]

Sounds like a blast ;)

I make a bad-ass peanut butter banana nut bread :tongue:

Awesome.......peanut butter and banana sandwiches rock.....especially on wholegrain bread.......linseed and soya bread is good too.

[BrotherJack]

lmfao!
Sorry, saw peanut butter and banana and got all kinds of excited.

LOL and LOL again

[void()]

I read a lot. I read a lot on this site. Recently, been posting a bit more frequently than normal. There are a dozen or so reasons why. One of them is a bit of selfish therapy. Been told I need to express the views / opinions / thoughts in the noggin.

Some those get rather Charles Manson or Eddie Gien sort of dark, weird. Others I can safely put into public view. That's a lovely thing about thoughts, unless you act upon them, there is no 'fouls'. Here are some that do not engender perception of causing 'fouls'.

I think AK has a valid point regarding diversity. It is great to make a diligent effort to get along. But if you delude yourself long enough with some perverse socialized dream of heterogeneity, or is that homogenized, either way you'll wind up screwed. It is not reality. Sorry but even if you are a rainbow, the Earth is still mud and blood. Folks ought to not forget something like that.

But this is not to say I wholeheartedly condone or play advocate for AK's view. I can understand his point well. Let's follow a quick little example here.

I've met a great loving guy on this site. From what I gather from him, he prefers not being labeled yet leans more toward being homosexual. That's fine, I love him as a person. Great that he's more into guys in bed with him presently! I need a good boyfriend. He's my only man.

On the site I'm free to sit in his lap in the chat room. Free to tell him my butt is missing him real bad. No one here will stop me, no censors will toss yellow flags. Gay guys, bi guys, gay women, bi women ... transformers, those lovely butterflies who decide or feel a desire to become another gender, straight guys, straight women ..... all allowed here. But, no one may call me a queer twinky bitch on the site, unless I say so. They might behind my back anyway, I don't care. If you ain't got 'nuff to say it to my face, you won't like me, stay away.

I'm honest.

So is my wife, who suggested I go out and get a boyfriend. Yes, she begged me to find a guy! :-) "You might stop being so bitchy," she said. And she's met him, approves, likes him as a friend. My mom has met him, she likes him well enough, too.

All peachy keen, huh?

Wrong. I wouldn't dare walk into a bar around here with him on my arm. Sorry, it would end up probably getting me a lethal injection. Because I'd kill the first good ol boy redneck that even so much as looked at him cross eyed. And they would, too.

That's reality, not this site. Here we're safe. Here it really doesn't matter. We still need to work toward global domination. Make it our perfect ideal world. We don't do that by exclusion. Everyone here is people, humans. Get over it, I already did.


P.S. & N.B.

"Fuck the bozos!"

[**Peg**]

..... I'd kill the first good ol boy redneck that even so much as looked at him cross eyed....

not if I got to that goodoleboy first Ben LOL...

I love him too ... for the person he IS, not "what" he is.

*sigh*

[elian]

Ahh, geesh - you guys are making me blush - more so than usual. <evil grin>

I said it before (really, about 2 pages back or so) that I like the fact that people of many persuasions are on here - sometimes that means you have to put up with some *CUTE FUZZY KITTENS* jerk who hasn't been *BRIGHT BLUE SKY* in years and is just really hard up. frustrated and *FLUFFY BUNNYRABBITS* at the world for no good reason.

I admit that I'm a dreamer, I want the hetrogenous and homogenous world to coexist - I think that most people have something of value to share in telling their story and this site helps people to do just that.

Keeping feelings, especially feelings about sexuality (since our society has repressed them for so long) completely bottled up and isolated is a sure way to frustration and a slow miserable existence. People are equally capable of great kindness and much malevolence - it's all in how you look at it (hopefully not down the business end of rifle).

I'm also a realist and I know that there are times when you can be TOO honest in this place, some people just aren't ready or willing to hear the truth. What the truth actually is will be a subject for future debate but regardless I am greatful for a site that allows freedom of expression because plain and simple - secrets kill.

Love makes us vulnerable, but my life is so much better having really loved and cared for someone else.

[roy m cox]

well i am 100% BISEXUAL and im glad i found this site and all the wonderful people hear to...


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