Few questions for a curious mind.....

[NinaBean]

I'm sure these were asked a few times but I can't seem to find them...

When did you realize you were bisexual?
What/when was your first experience?
Would you ever date a bisexual parter and does that automaticly mean an open relationship?
What are you "attracted" to?

Here are my answers :)

I was actually 6 when I had my first "experience." The first three sexual experiences were with girls. I was 15 when I was finally with a guy. I knew that I was bisexual from the start but didnt really take it seriousely till I was about 16. I think (besids curiosity in childhood) my first experience with a woman was me and my best friend. We came across the subject and I found myself completely attracted to her. We went back to my place and We made out for a bit. I attempted to go down on her but I did not like how she tasted. So I stopped. Needless to say we are still best friends to this day and I'm so glad we had that experience. Iv'e actually dated a man that was bisexual. We were together for 3 years. We never experienced him with another man. He did watch me with my other friend (which was effing hot) But, honestly, it doesnt turn me on to the idea. Its not a bad thing that men are bisexual AT ALL, Ive just never experienced it so I refuse to judge. I wouldn't mind experiencing it. I respectfully believe that no matter who you date, it does not mean you have the right to mess around with the same sex partner unless its ok by them. I consider it cheating no matter what. Always ask questions before going about your sexual fantacies. The thing about attraction is that it really depends. Im not attracted to the "Butch" type. Although I found myself drooling for this woman I used to work with and she was that type. I guess it just really depends on the chemistry. I love bigger woman but there is a limit to what I will go for. As for men, I love the tall dark and handsom type :bigrin: BUT the guy Im talking to is blonde hair blue eyes and hes completely gorgeous. So it just goes to show, it depends on the chemistry. Were not dating as of yet but we do chat from time to time.

Your turn! I love getting to know new people :bigrin:

[CUMM2LBV]

I think it is fair to say that we, all of us have some experimental experience in our teen years. Whether or not we admit it is something else.

Myself, yes, as a teenager, I tried it a time or two. My first wife was soulmate material, regrettably I was too young, too dumb, either/or, probably both to realize the potential in this relationship. She was always playful, adventurous, imaginative and most certainly eager to, well you know... If you look at my age, then you will know that we didn't have the internet, digital camcorders or cellphones. We took our naked x rated pics with a polaroid.

Beyond that, I have always been curious. In the earlier years my work required a security clearance. Places that I traveled to and worked in provided opportunity to explore even the most outrageous of my fantasies but the security clearance had the same effect as pouring ice water on a perfect world class hardon.

Later on I dated a bisexual woman. We were swingers and after several several great group experiences we were in a club one night and she was approached by another woman in the ladies room (I guess doing all the dark, secret unspeakable things that you'all do while in there). In our circle it seemed like the girls always made the social arrangements. This woman was part of a Bi couple and wanted us to join them. My girlfriend approached me with this. I did agree to this, of course, being a true blue guy I let her believe this was an enormous sacrifice that I was making for her and the sake of the relationship. Needless to say, all went quite well and as opportunities presented them selves there were many other such encounters. For her part, she was quite visual and really got off watching two guys going down on each other and occasionally enjoying a snowball.

Regarding your comment asking if this implied an open relationship, in our case, we were exclusive. We both were endowed with many rich if not outrageous fantasies and we did explore them together. The only exception being a girlfriend of hers that she would get it on with came around periodically. I was not attracted to her and she did not like me (figure that one out:rolleyes:).

These days I do not have a partner. The equipment still works but for whatever reason, people aren't interested in grownups and it seems like all the grownups just want penpals and pictures to add to their collections. That is my:2cents:

[yohko469]

I have always been attracted to women for as long as i can remember, i check them out more than men, and i love a Bi man.
I was 15 when i had my first real sexual experience with a woman, and it was with my BF at the time mom, lol, it's still one of my fondest memories cause she showed me a world i only dreamt of. and from that day i have been hooked on older women, and breast..i love breast soo much..lol

[NinaBean]

These days I do not have a partner. The equipment still works but for whatever reason, people aren't interested in grownups and it seems like all the grownups just want penpals and pictures to add to their collections. That is my:2cents:

I understand what you mean. Although I think they may still want descretion in there lives. Being in the world back then it wasn't so open. I think eventually it will come out. I will always love men but having women there to look at is oh so tempting. I would love to share my experiences with the one I love most but we can't have everything we want :(

[Realist]

I'm sure these were asked a few times but I can't seem to find them...

When did you realize you were bisexual?

1. I've always been attracted to both genders. Before I knew what sex was, I had friends who would go to "hideouts" and disrobe with me and we would explore.

What/when was your first experience?

2. I was seduced by an older neighbor when I was 14. My first orgasm was from him giving me oral stimulation. Remarkably, his 40 year old married daughter was my first female encounter, when I was 15. Neither ever knew about my involvement with the other...as far as I know.

Would you ever date a bisexual partner and does that automaticly mean an open relationship?

3. My first wife was bisexual and my present girlfriend is. My experience is best with other bisexuals, even if no one else is involved.

What are you "attracted" to?

4. On a superficial level...first impressions are usually focused on larger, sensuous, softer, women. I love voluptuous, intelligent, sweet-natured, ladies. Personality and compatibility quickly overshadows looks, however. Some of the prettiest ladies I've known were not what I'd call pretty, at first glance. Their beauty grew from knowing their true selves.

My attraction to men has always been more intellectual and only became physical after knowing them for some time. I rarely see a fellow who arouses me upon sight....it does occur, at times, though.

Looking back, most of the ladies, I've loved (but not all) were very well endowed, with large breasts and hips. Almost to a person, they were good communicators, intelligent, sensuous and fun to be with.

Most of the male lovers fit the same criteria and were endowed with smaller "equipment".

[coyotedude]

1. When did you realize you were bisexual?

As a teen, I knew about and occasionally acted on my attraction to other guys. However, I never actually considered myself bisexual until I had a romantic crush on another man in my early 20s. (Yes, in retrospect, it seems odd even to me that I didn't consider myself bisexual when having sex with another guy. But it took wanting to buy a guy flowers for me to really come to grips with my own bisexuality.)

2. What/when was your first experience?

Explorations with a friend in my early teens.

3. Would you ever date a bisexual partner and does that automatically mean an open relationship?

If I was currently single (which I am not), I would have no problem dating a bisexual partner of either gender. That does not automatically mean an open relationship, however; that would depend on the comfort level of each of us within our relationship. (Besides, it might be more fun to share... :bigrin:)

4. What are you "attracted" to?

An open ended question! In general, I have been physically and romantically attracted to people of either gender. However, I am hopelessly in love with my partner of 14 years, who happens to be a very lovely woman.

Ciao!

[NinaBean]

I really like the responses. It gives me a peek to what you guys think about the differences of bisexuality. I'm such a dork sometimes but I love the different insights. :tong: Its so nice meeting you all :bigrin:

[kbigirl86]

When did you realize you were bisexual?
Well I think I knew deep down that I was when I was about 17. I was kissing girls a lot at parties and stuff but didn't want to admit to myself that I was yet. More recently I became comfortable enough to start telling close friends that I am bi.
What/when was your first experience?
For more than kissing, this past winter. I had been drinking so I finally got up the courage to kiss my friend when we were in bed together at her house. It turned into shirts coming off and kissing eachothers breasts, which then turned into me fingering her. She really seemed to enjoy it . She said she wanted to finger me too, but I was on my period, so we couldn't. She didn't want me to take her pants off though, and I was dieing to lick her. We don't really talk now and I think it's because she was religious and felt bad about enjoying it or something. That has been my only experience with a girl so far, which is why I joined this site. :tongue:
Would you ever date a bisexual parter and does that automaticly mean an open relationship?
Yes I think I would. That would not automatically mean an open relationship, but if he (although I'm in a loving relationship with a straight man that I love so this doesn't really apply) or she wanted it to be open or do threesomes, I would be ok with it.
What are you "attracted" to?
Depends really...I do have a thing for dark hair and dark eyes on both girls and guys though. On girls, I like some curves so I have something to grab :)

[M. Wolfe]

We don't really talk now and I think it's because she was religious and felt bad about enjoying it or something.

Oh no, I hate that. I have a serious thing for one of my good friends and I know (and I know that he knows) that all that stands between us and something beautiful is FKNG religion. I hate it so!

"Leviticus" he says! [/sigh]

[conswala1987]

When did you realize you were bisexual?
What/when was your first experience?
Would you ever date a bisexual parter and does that automaticly mean an open relationship?
What are you "attracted" to?

ive always known i think, it allways seemed natural. but i never told anyone how i felt i met a man got married then decided i couldnt live like it anymore ...nearly lost my marrage but just saved it and am happyer now then ever my husband knows who i am and excepts it.
i would date a bisexual partner but no i dont think it means an open relationship it must be discussed and agreed on its very important to know the bounderies in you relationship.
im attracted to lots of different things mainly confidence and freedom i prefer girls i like breasts and a nice figure im not particulary into skinny girl but i do have my eye on a mate of ours but she is unfortuently off limets as she is too close to our relationship bugger lol! im a great beleaver in follow the heart not the gender xxxx

[MickeyJohnson]

1. first realized at about 12-13
2. Havent had it yet:( not even a bi-kiss. Im too shy to go for it
3. yes and yes
4. I only like whiteboys for some reason. (Im black). I dont even judge nething else but...

[Realist]

Mickey, I don't know if this is a new trend, or not, but I know a black family who's daughter who has refused to date black guys. What's up with that? Seems like it's a kind of reverse racial prejudice, to me.

[NinaBean]

Mickey, I don't know if this is a new trend, or not, but I know a black family who's daughter who has refused to date black guys. What's up with that? Seems like it's a kind of reverse racial prejudice, to me.

lol what the heck is up with that?

[Realist]

Don't know....most people seem to stay within their own race, but I've rarely met anyone who would NOT date someone in their own race.

[curiousmel24]

Mickey, I don't know if this is a new trend, or not, but I know a black family who's daughter who has refused to date black guys. What's up with that? Seems like it's a kind of reverse racial prejudice, to me.


I don't know Mickey's reasons, but I'll tell you my reasons. I'm black (of course, otherwise this would be weird) and I don't refuse to date other black people I just tend to not be attracted to them. I was raised all around the world (dad was in the Navy) so I tend to have a absolutely nothing in common with American blacks. I'm not against dating someone of my race, although I haven't yet, I just tend to prefer people of the "lighter persuasion" (not limited to caucasian only). So I guess my short answer is I have more in common with other races than my own.....probably why most of my friends are white.

[Sean-Templar]

When did you realize you were bisexual?
Oh well I was having gay thoughts as a young child, but I have an important family heritage and it just so happen that I am the last in the family line. So I maintained being straight for quite sometime. Then try being gay but it was my 2nd boyfriend who made me gut check myself on who I am and who I wanted to be.

What/when was your first experience?
I didn't have my first sexual experience until I was 19 with a girl named Suzanne, I was in the Navy at the time and started meeting friends that we gay friendly and bi and my friend was a DJ one night and that's when I met Scott, he taught me allot that night he scared me straight, until a year later when I got my first boyfriend

Would you ever date a bisexual partner and does that automatically mean an open relationship?
I would love to date a bisexual partner not too sure about the open relationship, I mean with some guide lines perhaps as for 3ways or more ways, I do like to watch (sometimes) but a freely open I am not sure cause I would really want to know they are mine.

What are you "attracted" to?
I range allot of different attraction about men women its not necessarily their physique but it helps, I like to be active, been lazy lately but its summer now. With men its the testosterone, I want a guys guy not a little mammas boy. With woman the body doesn't have to be banging either but I like to man handle a woman so I typically like the thinner girls, but thick woman always seem to have more tricks. To me its all about character. My perfect mate is funny, creative, likes to listen's, openly communicates when there is a REAL problem, lets things slide when your just being dumb. Someone to always be willing to learn something new everyday like i.e. when your holding someones hand down the street you see the pole before you jump off the curb, or realizing my favorite meal IS breakfast even though I hardly eat it because sleeping-in is my 2nd fav thing to do of all time. Someone who is just as lamely romantic as I am.
That it
Sean

[Realist]

Now, that makes sense. As one who was in the military for 7 years, then worked for them for 23 more, I can relate to the military community. Thanks, Curiousmel24

[M. Wolfe]

When did you realize you were bisexual?

When I was 14/15 and realized that my most recent crush was on boy. At first I was terrified, I thought I may be gay or turning gay, but the girls I liked remained pretty. I decided that I was strait but with one exception, him. Later, my attraction to him broadened and I started being attracted to other guys aswell, but not nearly as much as I liked girls yet. Bisexuality was in a way unavoidable.

What/when was your first experience?

Well even though I knew I wanted to 'play' with a few of my friends, I didn't get the chance until New Years, this year (a little after I had come out as bi). I was at a party and ended up talking a friend into letting me kiss him (I reasoned that this could confirm to him his own heterosexuality). It was amazing for me, more than I thought it would be. He didn't enjoy it unfortunately but he appreciated that I did.

Would you ever date a bisexual partner and does that automatically mean an open relationship?

My ideal partner is bisexual, especially in guys because some gays tend to scare me some, and I figure a bi guy would appreciate my attraction to girls.

What are you "attracted" to?

I'm attracted first and foremost to androgyny. I like the thin and or athletic guys who spend time on their appearance (wild hair especially) and are a bit feminine. In girls, I like tomboys generally, but not short boy hair cuts - long sleek beautiful hair is a must.

[eightinches_bi]

Mickey, I don't know if this is a new trend, or not, but I know a black family who's daughter who has refused to date black guys. What's up with that? Seems like it's a kind of reverse racial prejudice, to me.

I suggest you to watch Sirk`s "Imitation of life (http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0052918/)" ;)

[Kermit Jagger]

I knew I was bisexual when I was watching my first porn movie and realized I wanted to be the actress dressed in sexy clothes, sucking cocks, licking pussies, and getting fucked. I still get that feeling every time I watch porn.

My first experience with a man was on a business trip when I met a very good looking guy, shared a few drinks, and ended up in his room. He was experienced and very patient as we undressed. He started sucking my cock. and laid down so that his cock was next to my mouth. I was so turned on by his sucking and seeing his cock so close to me that I started sucking him hoping that I was giving him as much pleasure as he was giving me. He was nice enough to tell me when he was going to cum, but I kept his cock in my mouth and swallowed his entire load. When we finished, we took a shower together and jerked each other off. I wish everyone's first bisexual experience is as wonderful as mine.

My wife has affairs with men frequently. She doesn't not even try to keep them a secret. I don't mind and am turned on thinking about her with other men. I would be equally ok if she has affairs with women. Maybe she does and I don't know. So, open relationships are fine.

I'm attracted to women who have intelligence, a sense of humor, a nice smile, and are not obese. Chubby is good, obese turns me off. I'm attracted to masculine men with strong personalities and in reasonably good physical shape.

Love to all

Kermit

[me n me]

:three:i have been attracted to women scince i was 4 my first experiance was at age 12 when i fell in love with the girl next door she was a lesbian friend i came to her house and told her my feelings about how i was really attracted to her. im not really attracted to men as i am attracted to women,boobs,sex .im now 24 and single

[brasilcouple]

I'm sure these were asked a few times but I can't seem to find them...

1. When did you realize you were bisexual?
2. What/when was your first experience?
3. Would you ever date a bisexual parter and does that automaticly mean an open relationship?
4. What are you "attracted" to?



nice thread! :cool:

1. when i start to think about sex, i already imagine me with a guy and a woman. i imagine me having a device that can be turned both, penis and vagina, lol.

2. Man with 19 years old, i know him in a chat and meet him @ his work, gave an receive oral. i fell pretty bad in the end, and think that i was a freak.

3. My wife is bi, but we dont really have a total open relation. we already have a threesome, but never had experience alone.

4. First of all intelligence and total open mind people dumb and limited people are a really really a turn off. a hot body is always nice but not essencial. physically i like tall men, and not skinny. women i like the more curve, but not fat, basically brasilian woman.

btw i´m black and think like curiousmel, i´m not closed to black people but i tend to lighter skin for the same reason that curious mel give, i grow up more with white people and i dont have too much black culture.

[MelissaMaven]

When did you realize you were bisexual?
What/when was your first experience?

These two generally coincide I guess, since I was 13 the first time I was with a guy. "With" probably isn't a very descriptive term though for what it amounted to (especially since it was cut short), but it was enough for me to realize that I was interested in it. As for whether the other party felt the same, I couldn't tell you, because he generally avoided me afterwards, probably in fear that I would tell someone!



Would you ever date a bisexual parter and does that automaticly mean an open relationship?

I only date bisexual partners since straight and gay don't exactly fit my (or their) criteria. But it doesn't mean an open relationship.



What are you "attracted" to?

Personality plays the biggest part in it for me. Being open-minded is important obviously. Has confidence in their sexuality. Friendly/affectionate, has a sense of humor, likes to experience life, etc. As far as appearance goes, I'm not into big buff guys or anything, or huge boobs on women. I mean, it's not a deal-breaker, because as mentioned, personality takes priority generally. But if I had to imagine the perfect partner, they'd just have an average build. Toned (something like a swimmer's build, perhaps), preferably taller than me, kind eyes, etc etc. I'll know him if I see him. lol. Or her too, I guess!

[niftyshellshock]

When did you realize you were bisexual?

About 2 years after I had my first sexual experience.

What/when was your first experience?

I had been entertaining thoughts of being with a friend of mine for awhile. One time I was over at his house, and we got to playing footsie, after that, we both went to bed and one thing led to another, next thing i know i'm giving him a handjob, kissing his toes, and culminating in a blowjob.

Would you ever date a bisexual parter and does that automaticly mean an open relationship?

Yes, but it'd have to be a woman. While I may be sexually attracted to guys, I don't see myself in a relationship with them. As for open relationships, I've never been in one, and I've always seen it as unfair for one partner.

What are you "attracted" to?

With girls: Physically: Nearly anything. Eyes, legs, feet skin color, hair-length, hair color, everthing. Personality: Gotta be geeky/dorky like myself, an ability to dish out and take jokes, and must be driven and passionate in their life and career.
With guys: I tend to get pickier with guys, they have to be a little bit fit, the less hair the better, nice skin, nice legs and feet as well. Personality: I don't find guys emotionally attractive that much, the guys I find attractive are assholes ;p

[Vegastud]

Never once thought I was bisexual until I was age 24, up to that time I only chased girls. Then while in the service on the island of Malta I went to a gay bar with a group of guys after the regular bars were closed and ended up drugged in the home of one of the patrons. He penetrated me and while doing so I woke up and felt the most fantastic pleasure in what he was doing to me, and I couldn't get enough. I experienced that pleasure a total of four times that night and have been hooked ever since.

I don't date guys but would definately date a bi-sexual woman and are actively searching for one. The only open relationship I would be comfortable with would be her bringing home women and me bringing home guys for sex only.

As for attraction I prefer slender women with small boobs who is a non-smoker; good kisser; can hold an imtelligent conversation; and are attractive to me in all other physical areas. As for guys, I am only looking for sex with them and if they fall within a HWP range that I'm looking for and not to off the wall kinky, we normally have an incredible time together.

[JoshuaGlynn]

When did you realize you were bisexual?
What/when was your first experience?
Would you ever date a bisexual parter and does that automaticly mean an open relationship?
What are you "attracted" to?

The answer to the first two I wrote a story about it... I might just post it up here later...

The second two... I would need to explain my attractions....

I find myself to be, what I call a people person. I'm attracted to the person, regardless of what sex organs they have... So for me a connection is the start. The attraction and what is their sexual preference... It all revolves around the connection... I have to have a spark with the person to be interested.

Joshua

[innaminka]

When did you realize you were bisexual?
Probably not until my first actual experience, but from say mid teens I always felt so very comfortable with other women, and a brief drunken University party fondle and kiss I had with another woman, although put down as just something that Uni students do when drunk was very, very pleasant.

What/when was your first experience?
I was in my early 30's, I had been on a self-discovery boot-camp thingy for corporate execs and a Canadian woman was my partner. We became very close in an emotional sense and purely by accident, ended up sharing a motel room at the completion. Wine, tiredness, emotional turmoil as we would almost certainly never see each other agian -- the kisses started and the knickers came off!
That was when I realised I was probably bi.
Neither of us had ever had sex with another woman before. It was an incredible experience.

Would you ever date a bisexual parter and does that automaticly mean an open relationship?
I am not into openly sharing at all.

What are you "attracted" to?
My whole persona is now such that I no longer consider myself bi. Almost 100% lesbian.

(Which may preclude me from this board!!)