Sexual labels and definitions are social constructs which unfortunately have a deep impact in our human sexuality. The existing moral divide implanted in our brain between different so called sexual orientations is a clear example of the subject being manipulated by these artificial constructs, among them we find the concepts of heterosexual normality and homosexual deviation. Trying to fit in these two opposite extremes any other sexual manifestation and preferences which may not abide by the accepted social standards is an economic imperative of our current socio-economic environment since the diversity could undermine the accommodating bipolarity of what's good or wrong in sex following the oppressive morality of the moment. As pure biological entities we belong to one of the rare species in the planet where sex is not just a reproductive instinct but an integral part of our interaction with other human beings. In our case sex is an inseparable mix of need and desire. If we tried to apply our labels and definitions to the other species known to be involved in sexual activities beyond the rigid biological reproductive obligation, we would have to face a gruesome dilemma. They simply ignore our rules and therefore display a wide variety of sexual activities where the same individuals engage with both genders following only temporary and circumstantial factors. Are they then naturally born bisexuals? No, they just don't need any labels. There is no need for them to define themselves within any shade of the sexual spectrum since they may move without distinctions along this same wide spectrum according to the factors mentioned earlier. Then what happened to us? What makes us different from the bonobo apes or dolphins with respect to our sexuality? If you read The History of Sexuality by Michael Foucault there is an interesting thesis which I believe may explain this awkward situation in which we are now. Sexuality was transformed during the Victorian times into just another instrument of oppression. The elite wanted people to focus on their work, to increase the productivity and thus multiply the profits. Sex was an undesirable distraction and needed to be confined exclusively to the matrimony bedroom and for the unique purpose of reproduction. Nobody should even talk about sex acts in public. This thesis allowed me to understand that sex has been also mixed into the same cauldron of oppressive tools together with religious institutions and bourgeoise morals in order to suppress any manifestation of free will which could affect the productive output of the individual worker. If we link the History of Sexuality with the previous scientific fact about the open sexual behavior of the other sexually active species, we should arrive to a compelling conclusion that sexual orientation, as it's understood in our current world, is a cynic artificial invention forced into our own state of mind and imprinted in the internal and external projection of our self within the existing socio-economic framework. What we see today as the standard, the so called heterosexual normality, is not a natural phenomenon nor the result of any evolutive process taking place in our social mind. It is simply an artificial creation, a social construct to serve the governing elite in their purpose to extract more profit and to keep the masses submissive and focused exclusively on their work. Only by recognizing this fact, this social construct could be then successfully deconstructed. Humans like the other sexually active species are born without prejudices or any firm unchangeable sexual preference. With the exception of a truly hormonal distortion which could affect the biological inner self gender and thus making someone to become biologically inclined into following the sexual behavior of the opposite sex, the rest of us are supposed not to follow any preset rules about what we should desire and the way we could obtain personal gratification from sex. We should respond exclusively to the circumstantial and temporary factors mentioned before like availability, compatibility and our own sudden sexual impulses of the instant. The way we decide to engage in sexual activities with someone in specific or with various individuals together from both genders should be an exclusive non judgmental process happening in our brains where we would analyze only those specific circumstantial and temporary factors mentioned above. In summary, the heterosexual normality is just an invention so deeply imprinted in our mind that we truly believe it is something that most people would follow by instinct while the other forms of sexuality are merely deviation of that norm. Homosexuality situated on the other extreme of the spectrum is trying now to gain social recognition and to establish itself also like an alternative norm for those who claim being born that way. In my opinion there is no point in encapsulating our human sexuality in either of these extremes and a mistake implying that these are natural states of mind defining someone to be born straight or gay. I'm not saying it is a choice because it is not, but we haven't found yet a gene that defines sexual preferences from the moment we were born. Sexuality should be separated from the rest of our social behaviors because being a biological urge to receive gratification from sex is not a cause for projecting ourselves as representatives of a preset norm of sexual conduct. We should get rid of these internal and external taboos and feel free to experiment with any form of sexuality without having to put a label or fit into a specific definition. Socially we are entities well above the sexual preferences of everyone. Sex is just for our very private entertainment and should never have become a social issue nor a political flag. However, due to the existing conditions, the long term repression of our sexuality, the degradation of homosexuality and the oppression of women, it's understandable and totally necessary to fight for our rights and to get the recognition we deserve as sexual beings no matter what preferences we believe we have. On the other hand, this should not be an obstacle for our own internal liberation from the same taboos and preset norms we are trying to fight at the social level. By first stripping ourselves from the labels and definitions we can then experiment and explore every single way of obtaining sexual gratification and be bound only by the criminal code forbidding non consensual sex, the only restriction which should stay in place inside our minds. That was supposed to be our true History of Sexuality until the production relationships entered in the equation together with one of the most horrible crime committed by our specie, the oppression of females by the males. This gender oriented power structure in our human society undoubtedly created the imprint in our minds about the superiority of the masculine over the female and therefore the association between authority and virility. Any submissive role taken by a male in sexual interactions was viewed as a lack of virility and therefore socially and mentally diminishing. This together with the requirement to suppress sexuality in general made possible the establishment of the monogamous heterosexual normality and the social degradation of anything outside of that imposed standard. I'm totally convinced that if we could hypothetically isolated a small group of human babies and follow up from a distance their social evolution focusing exclusively on their sexual behaviour we would be able to witness a large spectrum of preferences these individuals would develop once they had reached their puberty. Under the lack of externally preset norms, we should expect that a great diversity of sexual interactions would be displayed among the subjects without any specific gender preference. Following this line of thoughts in that direction it would be impossible to define one specific set of sexual cannons as innate or the natural outcome. Therefore we should arrive to the conclusion that our normative standards enclosing human sexual behaviour are entirely determined by the dominating type of production relationships and enforced through known tools like the religious morality, the conservative traditionalism and the political and economic existing framework. I do believe that the origin of the heterosexual normality currently predominant in our modern society was born under the influence of these external non biological factors which we can call social constructs. Meaning that the socio-economic environment is the one that dictates how we as individuals view our own sexuality and forces us to encapsulate our mind in an apparently natural state which defines our so called sexual orientation which must be constantly projected towards our internal self and also outside to the social being that we represent. Sexual preferences if left alone and outside of the social framework would develop spontaneously and in response to circumstantial and temporary factors, changing and evolving indistinctly and without any moral ranking. In this scenario the use of sexual orientation as a social identifier would be not only superfluous but damaging because as soon as sexuality becomes part of the definition of who we are as social beings, there would be the need to apply the concepts of right and wrong to these interactions and be measured using the same rules of conduct as with the rest of our social behaviors. Therefore we should stay away from any labels or definitions and feel free to search for new ways to expand our own sexual gratification without having all the time to question ourselves if we are gays or straights or bisexuals.
[FONT=Helvetica][SIZE=3] Conflict[/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Helvetica][SIZE=3]Remembering that the purpose for the blogs is to express the writer’s opinion of what ever topic that the blogger wishes. It may be about your feelings about sexuality. It may be about an event in your life or society. [/SIZE][/FONT][FONT=Helvetica][SIZE=3] [/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Helvetica][SIZE=3]It seems to me that some recent blogs on this site are really better off in the threads. Opinions may vary about what is being blogged and other posters may comment but basically a blog is to express an opinion. Drew has created a survey system in the threads if you wish to survey people's opinion. Respect of the blogger’s post is good but people may want to comment. They may also want to take the topic to the threads for more discussion. Blogs are not really the place to debate in great detail. That is what threads are for. Threads are not just for how big is your dick and do you like.... ;)[/SIZE][/FONT][FONT=Helvetica][SIZE=3] [/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Helvetica][SIZE=3]With that in mind, I write the following.[/SIZE][/FONT][FONT=Helvetica][SIZE=3] [/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Helvetica][SIZE=3]It seems that the world is once again not at peace this summer. It never is completely at peace but is there more turmoil in the summer of 2014? The conflicts between the Palestinians in Gaza and Israel seem impossible to take sides. I do recall seeing a map of the area in 1947 and a map today. It is shocking how much the Israeli’s have taken over the land under the argument of their safety. Their argument is weak when you look at how much Israel has invaded the area over nearly seventy years. The original Israel territory has now grown to be many hundreds of percent of larger than originally planned. The UN made a mistake in creating Israel without properly dealing with the Palestinians equitably. [/SIZE][/FONT] [SIZE=3][FONT=Helvetica]Hamas is the democratically elected government of Gaza. Israel and the Canadian government call them terrorists. It is true that rockets are being fired from Gaza. The question is why? The answer is extremely complex and beyond my space in this blog. It seems true that the people of Gaza have built secret tunnels in to Israel. It is also true that Israel has blockaded the ports of Gaza so that only the small amount of goods needed by the people of Gaza are permitted in. Israel is strangling and holding the people of Gaza prisoners. They may not leave even as they are bombed by Israel. Are the children of Gaza lambs being offered to the god of Abraham as a sacrifice for three killed Israeli teens? (no..that is too cheeky and disrespectful of all the dead children) The government of Gaza should have found and arrested the killers of the three Israeli teens. The killers should have been tried by the courts of Gaza. Instead no arrests, all the people of Gaza were made to suffer.[/FONT][/SIZE] [FONT=Helvetica][SIZE=3] Yet, my government has come down extremely firm as a supporter of Israel. I think that it is inhuman to bombard and kill children. Israel has done this time and time again. I think that Israel has killed so many more Palestinians than their own people have suffered in 2014. It is difficult to recall which teens were killed that started this recent crisis? (Israel) What would happen if some Canadians kidnapped some US teens? Would the US bomb us and kill our children? Go after the guilty and stop killing the innocent seems appropriate. There is much that is hidden in West media when it comes to the devastation in Gaza. There is no escape. Yet, Canada supports Israel? The US heavily finances the weapons that are killing people in Gaza. Is the US a war criminal? The leaders of Israel are in my opinion. Yet, there is no formal war between Gaza and Israeli. I think that Israel takes the position that Gaza is part of Israel. This is not true according to the 1947 map.[/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Helvetica][SIZE=3]Ok, I seem to have taken a side.[/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Helvetica][SIZE=3]Russia is busy invading in a slightly deceptive manner the Ukraine. It seems obvious. What doesn’t seem obvious is the solution. Time will tell but it does look like the renewal of a cold war. Economic sanctions against the inner circle of Putan’s power base so far has not stopped the “silent invasion”. I’m glad that some aid is getting to the Ukraine and it seems that the Ukraine military is uniting under a new leader. Still the media speaks of the training ground for the rebels as based in Russia. Might makes right continues to win.[/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Helvetica][SIZE=3]In Canada, the treatment and resolution of indigenous people continues. I would think that is our greatest flaw. The "Idle No More" movement is quiet but unresolved. The issue of why so many indengious women have disappeared is not being dealt with by the government. Racism is a probable cause but we just don't know. The Quebec situation thankfully is reduced for the moment. People tire of conflict after so many decades.[/SIZE][/FONT] [SIZE=3][FONT=Helvetica]If people tire of decades of conflict why is the US once again dealing with the mistreatment of Black citizens? The militarization of police is a concern in many countries but this summer has ripped off the veil of peace in the US. No where else in the western world is there such a historically racially conflicted society rooted in slavery.[/FONT][/SIZE][FONT=Helvetica][SIZE=3] [/SIZE][/FONT] [SIZE=3][FONT=Helvetica]On this web site there is judgment rather than acceptance. To me this moral judgement seems rooted in religiously based heteromonosexual values. Conflict may be internal as to what directions our lives are going. My own internal conflict presently is about why I do certain things when it is intellectually obvious that it will do me no good. ;) Emotion can over ride logic. I seem to enjoy playing close to the flame but so far have been able to pull back in time. [/FONT][/SIZE] [SIZE=3]Well, that is some rambling opinions on conflicts today. [/SIZE][FONT=Helvetica] [/FONT] [FONT=Helvetica] [/FONT] [FONT=Helvetica] [/FONT]
Updated Aug 17, 2014 at 1:29 PM by tenni
His erection is back on. That's the signal for the second round to begin. We are still embracing together with him in the middle. My wife smiles at me with that special face expression that makes me shiver with anticipation. She grabs our heads together for a three way sensual kissing. She likes kissing both of us at once with our tongues interlacing together. I gently touch his balls and move my fingers up until they firmly frame his throbbing member and slowly begin to stroke it while he moans with pleasure. My own dick is pressed hard against his leg. His right hand moves to take mine and cup it together with my balls. His left hand is now on my wife's wetness in between her legs. The play is definitively on. I stand up and release from under the bed the restraining kit we had recently bought in the sex shop. We have already mentioned it to him and he said that he would love to try it. While my wife is still kissing him, I attach the Velcro straps to his ankles spreading his legs wide but in a comfortable angle. Next I tie up his wrists and finally place over his eyes the blindfold. He is now our private prisoner in bed, totally naked, exposed and unable to resist our advances. This is the ultimate trust, being tied up and blindfolded, placing his body at the mercy of a couple, a woman and a man, for both of us to do whatever we want to him. This is also our common fantasy, to share him as we do with a tasty main dish of a succulent buffet. My wife does the first move and mounts him straddling his face and placing his pussy right over his mouth. He can now smell the sweet essence of a woman in heat. I can see his cock pulsating against his stomach. I touch his feet, massaging his soles and toes while listening to my wife moaning, his warm tongue surely exploring her wet insides. I move in between his legs and without hesitation encircle the head of his cock with my lips and gently increase the pressure, with my tongue tasting a drop of saltiness on the tip. My wife looks backs and makes eye contact with me. We both smile with the certainty that we are ready to give him the pleasure he deserves. I move my lips down trying to accommodate his hardness within my mouth while cupping his balls in one hand and the other caressing his stomach. Now he is the one moaning loudly forming a synchronized chorus with my wife who is slowly moving her pelvis so that his tongue can reach the most sensitive parts inside her. His breathing gets faster. I slide my lips up and down his shaft stopping for seconds at the head to let my tongue play with a sensitive spot I discovered right under it. I feel the tension building up within my mouth. I slow down the pace and finally move my tongue down towards his shaved balls, taking one at the time in my mouth. Then I go even further down under his balls. I feel his legs shivering with pleasure when my tongue reaches the entrance to his back door. I can hear his muffled moaning, my wife's pussy blocking most of the sounds. My tongue works slowly it's way in wetting the entry channel and playing with the many nerves that exist on the walls. Next I place my index finger together with my tongue in position and gently push it inside while letting his muscles relax. I now let only my finger moves in and out very gently and his moans increases every time I touch the delicate membrane separating his prostate from the rectal channel. I continue massaging his male G-spot with my finger while I take back his hard dick in my mouth, my tongue sliding back and forth along his shaft. He can't talk, he can't said a thing, he is under our spell, a wet pussy blocking any sound from his mouth, a finger locked in his insides exploring and slowly driving him crazy. I increase the pace of my mouth working hard and consciously on his stiff and hot pole. Now I encircle the base with one hand and start stroking it faster with my mouth focusing on the upper part. I feel he can't hold it any longer. It's my decision to let him explode right now or wait. But my wife is the one who goes first with loud moans and shivers all over her body. I decide to not wait any longer and grab his wet dick with one hand and start to stroke it faster, my mouth buried in his tense balls and my finger feeling the contractions inside him. He explodes like a fountain of pleasure, my wife pressing harder against his mouth to muffle his wild screams. That moment seems to last forever. Once it becomes too sensitive for him, I gently let my finger out from him and place my warm mouth on his still throbbing member. I'm also ready to shoot my load. I'm kneeling in between his legs and I use my right hand to stroke mine while my left hand is resting flat on his stomach. The tip of my dick is brushing against his pulsating ass, the sensations are overwhelming, seeing my wife still saddled on his face and his dick deflating slowly inside my mouth. I can't last any longer and explode covering with my juices his balls and in between his legs. My wife moves out and falls at his right side. She gestures me to come to the other side. I do that and look at his face. His smile says everything I need to know. We both kiss him at once and his smile is now even broader. I remove the straps freeing his ankles and wrists from the attachments. My wife removes his blindfold, his eyes seeing us for the first time after the most intensive orgasm he confesses he ever had. He grabs each of us within his arms and the three of us embrace together forming an unscramble entangle with our naked bodies, legs and arms all over each other. This time nobody talks, we allow the silence to reign only bothered by the soft background music playing in my iPad on the night table.
So I guess I consider myself bi curious because I often fantacize about sucking cock and take things in my ass. I am not all attracted to men in any other way besides for a big throbbing cock. I have never had one but would love to be bent over and buttfucked, get my throat rammed and take a face/mouth full of hot cum. Sense I am only attracted to cock, my ultimate fantasy is a tranny. I am married but my wife doesn't know any of this about me.
With all the recent hooha on here about cheating and relationships, it has raised a question about our self-image and self-esteem. How can someone who is living part of their life in secret keep from being ashamed of their sexuality. Now cheating is shameful in my own eyes but for the sake of our discussion we aren't going to tackle that issue and move on to self-image issues. Having a positive self- image is important to maintaining good mental health, sexual repression is fertile ground for all sorts of psychosis and other mental health problems. There are two ways to approach the issue of self-image, how YOU see yourself, and how everyone else sees you. For the most part, how everyone else sees you is more beyond your control. The best you can hope for is to put out positivity and hope others don't judge you. You are at the mercy of their attitudes and morals, and are subject to judgement however deserved or undeserved it may be. What you can control, is how you see yourself. A big part of not being involved in self-deprecating behavior is acceptance. Self-acceptance is the basis on which a positive self-image is built. Many people of alternative sexual orientations engage in self-destructive behaviors because they aren't at home in their own skin. This often leads to excessive drinking or drug use, or risky sexual behavior. These are signs of self-loathing and can lead to further disfunction in relationships and in wider society. We have to learn to love ourselves for who we are, that often requires us to disregard what those who would judge us feel. Irregardless of what someone else thinks, your own self-worth is more important. Being bisexual isn't a crime, nor does it make you morally bankrupt. What it makes you is more openminded than your average heterosexual. You can be bi and be a good person still. Loving yourself is more important than acceptance from others. Without self-acceptance there can be no self-love. There can be no self-acceptance if there is shame about what you are. Being honest with yourself is a good first step to self acceptance. If you are doing things that are contrary to good moral and ethical behavior,it's easy for shame to set in. Self-examination is key, examining your behavior and eliminating things that are hurtful to yourself or others goes a long way to feeling more at home with yourself. Once hurtful behavior is eliminated, you stand a much better chance of a clear conscience and self-acceptance. Give yourself no reason to feel guilt or shame associated with your sexuality and that's definitely a step in the right direction. Being bisexual isn't shameful in itself, engaging in behavior hurtful to yourself or others because of your bisexual tendencies is. We as bisexuals often are judged by others, we fear that judgement. An important step in becoming self-accepting is removing the opportunity for others to judge us. We have to stop caring about their judgement and realize it is okay anyway. Often those who would judge us don't really matter to our everyday life. Some, such as family members do matter, and that remains a choice about how much you wish to disclose to them and how important it is for them to know at all. After all, you don't have to wear your sexuality on your sleeve, and unless there is a real reason for someone to know you are bisexual, it's really none of their business. Being out for the sake of exposure is not necessary. You don't have to advertise, you just need to find a happy comfort level. Unless you are emotionally beholding to someone, like a spouse or partner, then disclosure is optional. The last thing, is giving yourself permission to be you. Being free to be yourself, a fully actuated practicing bisexual, is important because it allows you to make the choice of realizing what you are is okay. This isn't to say you are giving yourself permission to cheat, if you situation dictates cheating to be a fully actuated practicing bisexual person, then you have more issues to deal with than just yourself. Giving yourself permission to be you is a very important step in learning to love that person. One has to be at home in their own skin to ever be able to love and accept what is housed inside that skin. Giving yourself permission to be bisexual is accepting the whole person, not just the heterosexual half, but the same-sex part too. Self-acceptance allows you to find peace within yourself and live a self-actuated life. What others feel about you is secondary, their acceptance is appreciated but not necessary to be happy. Life is too short to live in a way that makes you unhappy. Feel free to be yourself, and I hope you find peace within yourself.
I am a so far just curious guy. I often fanticize about getting ass fucked by a wman with a strap on while I suck her mans cock....I love ass play...never had anything but a dildo, but would love to try the real thing
WOMAN ARE SO STUCK UP ON WEBSITES , I THINK THEY SEND MEN EMAILS SO THEY CAN LAY IN BED AND STROKE THEIR CLITS WITH THEMS VIBRATORS TIL THEY CUM ..... I FIGURED OUT WHY SOME JERKS WEAR A NYLON SOCK ON THEIR HEADS , TO KEEP THE LICE FROM JUMPING UP FROM THAT UGLY ASSED KINKY HAIRED BUSH ,WHILE BEING BANGED UP THE AHOLE AND ELSEWHERE ! TRUE. / FALSE
As acceptance is gained by the gay community in our society and the same sex marriage issue is resolved, it begs the question of how bisexuals will be seen in the future. I am out, I came out years ago to my wife when we first got together, she told me of her own bisexuality and we decided to explore together. That choice has set us free, we have no shame in our game, we don't wear our sex life on our sleeve either. But being bisexual is an ever evolving thing and the next generation will be far more accepting of alternative sexuality than we have had to deal with. Bisexuality used to be something girls explored in college with room mates. Now, they have explored it and liked it and have no fear of expressing it openly. Many who indulged in the Rave culture surrounding the drug MDMA (Extacy, Ex, X ) explored bisexuality openly at rave events. The drugs ability to break down inhibitions often opened doors not previously explored. People relished in new and exciting sexual experiences for the tactile sensation alone. The sensation of giving oral sex was something many guys explored freely simply because the drug heightened the awareness of how a cock felt in their mouths. Suddenly bisexuality had a foothold on acceptance among the next generation. They learned not to care about preconceived ideas that bisexuality was bad and just explored for themselves. They learned these taboos were simply barriers in the mind that done safely, had no effect on how they lived their lives. The sun came up the next day, the world didn't end, no one knew unless they divulged it to them. As long as no one was hurt, what difference did it make? With the debate over same-sex marriage still raging in the courts, it has swayed in the direction of marriage equality. With each court decision the momentum gathers despite spirited opposition from faith based organizations. It seems soon marriage equality will be the law of the land, as so far the issue has come up in 16 state supreme or appellate courts and all 16 have ruled in favor of marriage equality. As that debate rages on, and as we see the pendulum swing toward equality for the LGBTQ community, where will it lead us Bisexuals as a community? Will we gain acceptance in larger society and be able to be open about it? Will the male dominated hierarchy change it's view of masculinity to include a bisexual men? Will female bisexuality become so common it will be passé? Will we as bisexuals go beyond just sex with both genders and move more toward polyamory? Will that move us to seek marriage with both sexes? What does true gender equality mean? What does our future look like? These are all good questions. We have yet to come together and really jell as a community even within the LGBTQ world, let alone society at large. But these are questions we need to ask ourselves to determine where we need to take ourselves as a community. I'm sure there are more questions that I haven't even thought of yet. But we need to begin thinking of these kinds of questions in order to bring about acceptance and change in society. It begs us to question ourselves, what are our goals? What should they be for the future?
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