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Just so u know.. I am still the same me.. I still care about the same things I did this morning, last week, last month.. I love the same people and will see no harm come to them.. I am in love with the same person and that will never alter..my priorities are the same and my heart is in the same place.. any thoughts to the contrary are bollox..

That harsh words are screeched in my ear, even unjustifiably does not mean I love any the less those I have always loved, most of all the judge, jury and executioner.. I still care no less.. but it does bring home the loss and vacuum I shall feel should reconciliation prove impossible...

tjcilua

Bisexual and gay/lesbians are treated as blacks were in the early 2oth century. Really, its that bad. I'm proud to be bisexual and try new things, aren't you all?

Just a random thought, and granted this has only happened twice to me. But I hate that when I see people I know well and have shared holiday dinners with avoid me and stare at me like please don't come near me, or approch me like I am a freak of nature of sorts because I am no longer dating a family member of theirs who decided to tell them all I am bisexual after we slpit up.
And they claim to be Christians. If you were truely christians you would know the Bible says "Judge not upon another before being judged upon thyshelf."
Oh well I forgive them for their judgement, but when their time comes will the person up above?

I'm needing advice on threesums, I have been with my bf for over 2 years now and am really starting to crave women again. i havent been with a girl for about 5 years and my urges are getting worse. i love my bf to bits and would never cheat on him, even if my life depended on it. he dosnt class a threesum as cheating so ive been thinking about it. maybe it would work to get rid of this frustration. only problem is the idea of him being with someone els kinda gets me a tad jelous. Is there away to stop the jelousy? or do you think its a bad idea to try it?

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I was reading about a bisexual man writing about his wife who wants a female lover. The wife decided that she was bisexual and had become involved with another married woman. After he thought about it for a few days, he realized that his wife loved him. He wanted her to have what will make her happy. He trusted her to find a balance to give them both attention. Interestingly, the wife was not comfortable with him having a male lover.

A person may take various aspects and perspectives when it comes to love. Love is an emotion of strong affection and personal attachment. Attachment may be both constructive and beneficial if it doesn't become obsessive and possessive about the personal attachment. Some people have a concept that love means exclusiveness sexually (monogamy) while others do not. Monogamy is a partnership and some argue has little to do with love when the attachment becomes possessive. When a person wants to be sexually exclusive is that love or possessiveness and jealousy?

Jealousy is possessiveness. Both relate to ownership and manifesting a desire to control or dominate another. This is most negative and especially if it is inorder to limit a person's relationship with others. Some permit platonic relationships with others and some develop jealousy and possessiveness of even platonic relationships. Fewer tolerate and are comfortable with sexual relationships with others which may lead to conflict for some bisexuals.

Jealousy is an emotion that refers to negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something that the person values, particularly in reference to a human connection. Jealousy often consists of a combination of presenting emotions such as anger, resentment, inadequacy, helplessness and disgust. Jealousy implies a triad composed of a jealous individual, a partner, and a perception of a third party or rival. Jealous reactions typically involve aversive emotions( disgust etc.) and/or behaviors that are assumed to be protective for their attachment relationships instead of perceiving the triad as beneficial to the happiness of the loved one.

Jealousy may be: a/ sexual or b/ emotional/ romantic. Romantic jealousy is the most complex of the two forms and it is a result of a threat to the self esteem of the jealous person. Romantic jealousy arouses the strongest emotional reaction. Jealousy is often reinforced as a series of particularly strong emotions and constructed as a universal human experience that may seek to privileged monogamous discourses.

Sexual jealousy may be defined as a response triggered when a significant other displays sexual interest in another person. Romantic jealousy is a complex of thoughts, feelings, and actions which follow threats to self esteem. One partner can feel the emotion of jealousy arise if the other partner is paying more attention or time with someone else. The man above was correct in stating that his wife would have balance the attention that she might give to both him and her female lover if they were to be comfortable.

Schachner & Shaer (2004) report that there are no sex difference in expression of childhood attachments and jealousy but certain adults experience jealousy as a more harmful coping mechanism than others. Jealousy plays a role in sexual attachment for some adults. Schnachner & Shaer state that emotional jealousy was found to be nine times more responsive in females than in males.

The "Love Style" of the person experiencing jealousy and possessiveness becomes a significant factor. The man above had a love style that differed from his female partner.

Love songs, love stories are created to reinforce the concept that love is an exclusionary behaviour but this construct is usually created by monosexuals and not bisexuals. We do read or hear of stories of sacrifice and love. If a person loves you they should put their own happiness aside to "prove" their love for you is quite a different approach than the husband above. In fact, he was bisexual himself and obviously revealed this to his bisexual wife thinking that they both might show their love by offering what may make each happy. In that respect, some may argue that he was not really sacrificing. He was as she wanted the freedom but refused to grant him the same. Why should you have to sacrifice your freedom on the guise of love if your partner is interested in your happiness? It seems like a Catch 22.

[QUOTE=Jeriel;222645]I may define love as a serious one. The one who is kind and patient.

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My lovely wife had been in philly for a week so we made plans to go out and have a good time when she got back into town. So she planned our weekend out got a nice hotel room in Orlando once we got checked in and everything we went out to eat. From there we went back to the room to get ready for the rest of the night. We left the hotel room on our way to the club she took me to a club called the pulse. It was said to be a nice bisexual club for like minded people to mingle but upon arrival to the club it appeared that was a club for young gay guys. Now not that I have any problem with that but I was reluctant to go in as I was hoping it would have been more of a bisexual place and it may have been if we had actually made it inside lol. Anyway we left there and made our way to the groove where the atmosphere was a hopping and had a good mix of people and the night turned out excellent. Now though I can't help wondering how it would have been if we had went into the club we originally set out for as I have never actually been to a gay/bi club would I have liked it would she have liked it could I have met a nice guy there or could we have met a nice bi couple there. I don't know but I would like to thank my wife for this wonderful weekend and the thought she put into it. Also sweetie the next time you plan to do something exciting like this for me I promise to go and atleast check it out.