Part 1 BDSM has a unique place in the world. Practiced for centuries before becoming mainstream in society, bdsm has a long and varied history, and over this history, many things have become apparent. One such need is open communications between the players involved. Communication, open, honest communication has become not only the mainstay of the lifestyle, it's a necessity. Many who start out in the lifestyle fail to understand the necessity of this important fact, and therefor fail to communicate in an open honest fashion. Let's face it, many aren't even honest within themselves, let alone their partners, and this includes vanilla relationships as well. Without open honest communication, most of these relationships, sadly, will fail. The inability to communicate effectively leads to frustration, resentments and arguements, and these can destroy almost any relationship. It's even moreso in the lifestyle, where trust is a paramount issue for many. Effective, honest communication is important for garnering trust and respect. If one cannot be open and honest with their needs, desires and wants, they will go unfulfilled, and feel slighted in the longrun. The most important part of communications in the lifestyle between a dominant and submissive or slave is emotional honesty. This scares people for some reason. They'd trust you with their lives before they would trust you with their emotions, and, quite honestly, this doesn't make sense. Is being open and honest about one's emotions so very hard? Apparently, yes. And also, sadly, yes. If you can't learn to be honest with your emotions, then you will fail to communicate effectively those needs, those desires that are so important to you, and, again, you will be unfulfilled, never wholly getting what you need from your dominant or slave, and in the long run, the relationship will fail. End of Part 1.
