I don't have any kids, however, I do have a (soon to be) 10 year old sister who my mother adopted when she was about 6 months old. My mother is very old fasioned and I asked her if she was sure she was ready to be a mom again. I reminded her that with children, you reach a certain age where they want to ask questions and get to know themselves and test boundaries. My mother isn't very old, but she's raised two kids, and I figured she would want some time to herself and husband. Now, she calls me and asks me what to do about explaining the birds and the bees. I told her just be honest, and open with her. Answer every question she has. Well, my mother is scared to death. I had to all ready explain to her about periods and such. I'm so much more open minded than my mother, and I don't know what to say to make her understand that it's ok. Sex isn't a bad thing. My philosophy is look, you're going to wonder and question and want to do. It's not right to have sex before you're married, but if you do, please use protection, and let's talk about what birth control is for and why and how it's used. Also, it's a lot of responsibility. Sex isn't just a play thing, unless you're married or with your 'partner' (as my parents use to call my uncle's dates, or they would say 'friend'.) I told her there are people in this world who are gay, straight, lesbian, etc...because she asked a specific question: what is gay? Two meanings..lol! I would love for my mom to be able to be more open and understanding of this though. I'm scared my little sister may end up confused and scared, and possibly pregnant at sixteen, if not younger. Should I continue 'parenting' my sister, or should I tell my mom to do her job? (I know that sounds harsh, do your job, but that's the only way I can put that..lol!)
You are right that she needs to do her job, however, you kow she does not know how nor has done this subject with you at all, so ask her to seek out professional help by answering all the kid's questions: does she have a computer? Google the questions and answers; your mother took this responsibility and if she is NOT willing to do it, I say go for it. It's in the best interest of the child. All questions deserve an answer. Be honest. Thanks.
